This is like a short self-help manual that touches on our non-verbal communication, and what it is doing to our life. This goes over every key that you will need to get off on the right foot in an interview, for a first impression, for that girl you like, and more.

1. What is your body portraying?
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2. What do you think most people do when
they first meet you? The cold hard truth here is they
judge you. This is what they call the first impression
and most of these are made very quickly, Like take me
for an example, I will actually make a first decision on
someone within the first 60 seconds of being in their
presence. I know not so cool right, but this is one of the
best ways I do so well as a server, but to be honest
think about how fast you formulate your own opinion
of another person, the next time you meet someone.
Making a good first
Some of the main things that I go off of in a first
 Introduction
Think about your posture when you greet
or just meet someone. Hands in the pockets and
slouching are very common things that I notice.
How do you think that looks and what does it say.
Stand upright, put a little hop in your step, and
smile are big things to show anyone a good first.
 Eye contact and Handshake
These are actually a big deal. I
remember interviewing this guy that would not look
at me or shake my hand. What do you think I
thought right off the bat, you guessed it “looney”. I
can tell you this, he did not get the job. Try good
eye contact, maybe sitting a little forward in your
seat, and when you shake don’t break but don’t be
shy.
 Presenting Confidence
This is probably the most common sense
one, but really the least practiced. I see people all
the time sitting in a room in the corner with their
arms, legs, and even body crossed. Really, why
would you tell the world that. The easy way to fix
this is practice being straight with others, you won’t
piss them off unless you are really just being mean,
or posturing. Just take a load off and think they will
forgive me or I’ll get over it. Just be confident and
yes it is harder then that, but with practice this skill
will open not only new doors for you, but whole new
worlds.
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3. 1. Head
People will take you more seriously if you stand tall, which conveys
confidence and status. You don’t need to be physically long and lean, but
take care to stand erect and keep your shoulders back. It will make you
seem taller and more sure of yourself.2. Eyes
When talking to someone, make eye contact in order to establish your
trustworthiness, sincerity and confidence—but only hold their gaze directly
for a few seconds at a time, which is as long as is comfortable for most
people. The only exception? When you enter a room and want to make an
impression. In that case, hold each onlooker’s gaze for a beat longer than is
comfortable, then look away. This move conveys that you’re confident and
interested in meeting others. When you’re speaking to a group of people,
switch your gaze from one person to another every so often
3. Arms
When in a casual conversation, crossing your arms may seem natural, but it
actually indicates that you’re feeling defensive or guarded. Instead, slightly
lean into someone to convey interest. Try to keep your arms open and
relaxed at your sides—or in your lap or on an armrest if at a job interview.
Feel free to occasionally illustrate your points using gestures. Resist the
urge to fuss with your hair, fiddle with your jewelry or crack your knuckles,
all of which are distracting and can make you seem nervous.
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4. 4. Hands
Being the first to reach out for a handshake shows that you are confident
and unafraid to take the initiative. You shouldn’t let your fingers go limp, but
the goal is not to break the other person’s bones, either. A firm grasp
conveys your strength without coming off as overbearing. Limit yourself to
one or two up-and-down shakes, then let go.5. Front
Don’t invade anyone’s personal space, which makes people feel uneasy and
unwilling to stay and listen to you. Face the person directly, keeping about an
arm’s length apart, and bridge the connection with eye contact.6. Legs
When standing, you should avoid crossing your legs, an awkward position
that suggests that you feel uncertain and guarded (or that you need a
bathroom break). However, sitting with crossed legs is one of the most
common positions in many cultures, and if you’re wearing a skirt, it’s
recommended. Just don’t cross the arms at the same time: Sitting with both
crossed arms and legs signifies that you have withdrawn from the
conversation.
7. Feet
If you’re standing still, keep your feet planted slightly apart to convey a
sense of confidence. (But keep them narrower than hip-width to avoid
shifting your weight from foot to foot frequently, which indicates discomfort
or disinterest.) When you’re walking, slow down your pace to seem calmer
and more collected.
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5. Have you ever thought of how your actions not only effect others, but
yourself as well. That seems weird right? How can rolling your eyes effect you? Well I
beg you try it right now at me for stating that it is so. Go on… Well how do you feel
now… Right, just as I said, you were directly effected by that simple action, and the
funny part is that you did it to yourself. Now I want you to smile and nod your head,
affirmative feeling isn’t it young padawan. The thing is no matter the action, there
will be a reaction, even if you didn’t realize that it. The truth is, these are small things,
but momma always said the small things matter the most, and those impulses that
you are radiating (going by what many a wise momma has spoken) mean a whole
bunch to you and those around you. Yes, bow your head in shame you meanie “NO”
don’t do that that would be completely opposite of the point I am making “LAUGH” I
made a funny “HAHA”. The point is that by ruining the moods of others, you simply
ruin your own (It is a double edged sword, stop swinging it like it’s a mystical purple
finger, that can change the channel on any T.V.). Now the time for action and
remember, it won’t work if you are not still having FUN.
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6. Positive
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