1. THE POWER OF LEADING THROUGH
Effective Relationships
IN THE WORKPLACE
Presented by Jim Barbush

2. PA State System of Higher Education
Facilities Contracts Manager
RETIRED Aug. 26, 2010
THE POWER OF LEADING
THROUGH
Effective Relationships
IN THE WORKPLACE
Session No. W3.45 3:10 to 4:00 Wednesday, Match 17, 2010 Room No.: 345
Barbush Enterprises
“Catch A Wave”
Leadership Development
James E. Barbush

3. 3
LEARNING OBJECTIVES
1. Provide a DEFINITION of
Effective Workplace Relationships
between a leader and followers, and
what those relationships mean to
development of a successful individual and
a successful organization.
2. Discuss CONDITIONS that
prevent Effective Workplace Relationships and
result in diminished success
How to avoid pitfalls.
3. Provide TOOLS for the development of
Effective Workplace Relationships
that lead to goal achievement?
The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace

4. Effective Workplace Relationships
can develop an atmosphere of connectivity
between co-workers
that leads to success for individuals & the organization.
1. CONTROL WITHOUT RELATIONSHIP
is a recipe for organizational weakness.
2. INCORRECT JUDGMENTS:
How a leader’s judgment of a follower
as being worthy or unworthy to accomplish tasks
and
How that affects follower’s ability to accomplish tasks.
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The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace

5. 5
OPENING
Connectivity
Synergy

6. SYNERGYCONNECTIVITY
The INTERACTION of
2 or more agents
so that
their combined effect
exceeds the sum of
their individual effort
The CONDITION of
being
connected or connective
The ability to
make and maintain
a
connection between 2
1 + 1 > 2
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The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace

7. “What is the Fierce definition of human connectivity?”
I don’t have an official definition for human connectivity,
but I know it when I experience it and I imagine you do too.
Human Connectivity occurs
one wonderfully fierce conversation at a time.
Fierce Conversation is…..
one in which you and I
come out from behind ourselves,
And enter the conversation, making it real.
Connection occurs most often
during moments of honesty and vulnerability.
Human Connectivity Defined
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
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8. human connectivity?”
I know it when I experience it
one wonderfully fierce conversation at a time.
you and I
come out from behind ourselves,
enter the conversation, making it real.
Connection occurs most often with
honesty and vulnerability.
Human Connectivity Defined
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
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9. There is something deep within us that responds to
those who level with us,
those who don’t suggest our compromises for us.
You and I won’t be connected
if only 1 of us is willing to disclose our real thoughts & emotions.
You and I won’t experience connectivity
if we are only willing to be “real” on rare occasions.
Connectivity requires persistent identity.
Connectivity requires intimacy, vulnerability, transparency,
which scares most people half to death.
To keep it simple, human connectivity requires that we ..
{ Tell the truth. Tell the truth. Tell the truth… }
Human Connectivity
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
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10. There is something deep within us that responds to
those who level with us,
those who don’t suggest our compromises for us.
those willing to disclose their real thoughts & emotions.
Are we “real” on rare occasions.
Connectivity Requires persistent identity.
intimacy,
vulnerability,
transparency,
scares most people half to death.
Human Connectivity
http://www.fierceinc.com/blog/?p=488
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11. QUESTIONS
As a leader and co-worker in your organization,
What kind of workplace relationships do
YOU have with CO-WORKERS?
1. Do your relationships create CONNECTIVITY
that drives successful goal achievement
for you and your organization?
2. Do your relationships create SYNERGY
that leads to success
for you and your organization?
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12. QUESTIONS
Relationships YOU have with CO-WORKERS?
CONNECTIVITY
drives successful goal achievement
SYNERGY
leads to success
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13. A Picture
Of
Effective Relationships
Working through Difficult
Relationship
THINK OF A SITUATION
IN YOUR LIFE
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14. WHAT AFFECTS
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
What do YOU struggle with?
DIFFERENCES OF OPINION?
NEGATIVE VIBS?
THINK OF A SITUATION.
WHAT DO YOU NEED TO DO?
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16. AFTER THIS SESSION
WILL YOU HAVE
THE SAME ANSWER?
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17. BOOKS
FOR
LIFE LONG LEARNING
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18. YELL
“DON’T FORGET THE
BOOKS”
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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19. We will consider
EFFECTIVE and INEFFECTIVE
Workplace Relations
CONTRASTING
the following:
Striving for ………….Relationship
rather than Power, Submission, Individual Independence.
Accomplishing…….. Purpose
rather than Work
Assessing …………..Someone’s Being
rather than Someone’s Appearance
This discussion will change
how you view & relate to people in your workplace19
The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace

20. CONTRASTS
CONSIDER THESE CONTRASTS TO
DEVELOP EFFECTIVE WORKPLACE RELATIONSHIPS & AVOID PITFALLS
Leading to CONNECTIVITY & SYNERGY FOR SUCCESS
Creating An Atmosphere Where Followers &The Organization Can Succeed
1. IT’S ABOUT RELATIONSHIP NOT POWER
2. IT’S ABOUT RELATIONSHIP NOT SUBMISSION
3. IT’S ABOUT RELATIONSHIP NOT INDIVIDUAL INDEPENDENCE
4. IT’S ABOUT THE PURPOSE NOT THE WORK
5. IT’S ABOUT BEING NOT APPEARANCES
6. IT’S ABOUT LIVING IN A WORLD NOT A WORLD LIVING IN YOU
7. IT’S ABOUT CHOOSING NOT TO FLY, WHEN YOU CAN FLY 20
The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace

21. Inaction and Action
Having No Energy and Having Energy
Thinking and Doing
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CHOICE
Inaction + CHOICE = Action
No Energy + CHOICE = Energy
Thinking + CHOICE = Doing
“What’s The Difference Between”
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22. INEFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
WITH UNSOLVED SITUATIONS
+
CHOICE
=
EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
CONNECTIVITY
SYNERGY
1 + 1 > 2
“What’s The Difference Between”
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23. CONTRASTS
WILL ADDRESS
TOPICS
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24. TOPICS
Effective Workplace Relationships can produce
connectivity & synergy that drives successful goal achievement
for you and your organization.
Discussion will address the following:
1. What is an Effective Workplace Relationship between leader & follower?
2. Why do we need Effective Workplace Relationships
3. What prevents Effective Workplace Relationships ?
4. Observations
5. Breakthrough
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25. BOOKS
FOR
LIFE LONG LEARNING
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26. YELL
“DON’T FORGET THE
BOOKS”
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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27. http://theshackbook.com/pages/page1.html
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28. CONTRASTS
CONSIDER THESE CONTRASTS TO
DEVELOP EFFECTIVE WO RKPLACE RELATIONSHIPS & AVOID PITFALLS
Leading to CONNECTIVITY FOR SUCCESS
Creating An Atmosphere Where Followers &The Organization Can Succeed
1. IT’S ABOUT RELATIONSHIP NOT POWER
2. IT’S ABOUT RELATIONSHIP NOT SUBMISSION
3. IT’S ABOUT RELATIONSHIP NOT INDIVIDUAL INDEPENDENCE
4. IT’S ABOUT THE PURPOSE NOT THE WORK
5. IT’S ABOUT BEING NOT APPEARANCES
6. IT’S ABOUT LIVING IN A WORLD NOT A WORLD LIVING IN YOU
7. IT’S ABOUT CHOOSING NOT TO FLY, WHEN YOU CAN FLY
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The Power Of Leading Through
Effective Relationships In The Workplace

29. CONTRAST 1
IT’S ABOUT
RELATIONSHIP
NOT
POWER
“Leadership through
Effective Relationship,
rather than
through
Hierarchical Chain of Command”
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30. CONTRAST 2
IT’S ABOUT
RELATIONSHIP
NOT
REQUIRED SUBMISSION
What’s the difference between
Effective Relationship
and
Required Submission
in attempting successful achievement of the goals
of you and your organization?
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31. RELATIONSHIP vs SUBMISSION
“To force my will on you is
exactly what relationship does not do.
Genuine relationships are marked by submission…..”
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“Submission is not about authority
and
Submission is not about obedience;”
“Submission is all about
relationships of love and respect.”
CONTRAST 2
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32. CONTRAST 3
IT’S ABOUT
RELATIONSHIP
NOT
INDIVIDUAL INDEPENDENCE
What’s the difference between
Effective Relationship
and
Individual Independence
in the workplace
how does each affect
accomplishment or not
of yours and organizational goals?
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33. WHAT PREVENTS EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
“… INDEPENDENCE
WITH ITS
QUEST FOR
POWER AND FULFILLMENT
ACTUALLY
DESTROYS
THE RELATIONSHIP”
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34. RELATIONSHIP vs INDEPENDENCE
“Humans are so lost and damaged that to you
it is almost incomprehensible that
people could live and work together
without some being in charge.”
“We have no concept of final authority among us,
only unity.
We are in a circle of relationship,
not a chain of command….”
“When you chose independence over relationship,
you became a danger to one another.”
“Your independence
with its quest for power and fulfillment
actually destroys the relationship your heart longs for.”
CONTRAST 3
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35. BOOKS
FOR
LIFE LONG LEARNING
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36. CONTRAST 4
IT’S ABOUT
THE PURPOSE
NOT
THE WORK
VISION
GOALS
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37. WORK & PURPOSE
“It’s not the work,
but the purpose
that makes it special.”
CONTRAST 4
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38. CONTRAST 5
IT’S ABOUT
BEING
NOT
APPEARANCES
Who a person is!
NOT
Who a person appears to be.
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39. BEING VS APPEARANCE
“Being always transcends
appearance.
Once you begin to know
the being behind the face.
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As determined by your bias,
the surface appearances fade away
until they simply no longer matter.”
CONTRAST 5
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40. JUDGING UNWORTHY OR WORTHY
“Humans have a great capacity for
declaring something good or evil, without truly knowing.”
“You are truly blind to your own place in the creation.”
“When something happens to you,
how do you determine whether it is good or evil?”
“I’m not really sure I have any logical ground for deciding
what is actually good or evil, except how something affects
me.”
“When your good and evil clash with your neighbors,
fights are arguments pursue and even wars break out.”
CONTRAST 5
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41. CONTRAST 6
IT’S ABOUT
LIVING IN A WORLD
AND
A WORLD LIVING IN YOU
THE BLENDING OF THE TWO WITHOUT CONFLICT
CONNECTION VS ISOLATION
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42. LIVING IN A WORLD & A WORLD LIVING IN YOU
“You can
kiss your family and friends good-bye
and
put miles between you,
but at the same time
you carry them with you
in your heart, your mind, your stomach,
because you do not just live in a world
But a world lives in you.”
Frederick Buechner, Telling the Truth
CONTRAST 6
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43. YELL
“DON’T FORGET THE
BOOKS”
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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44. CONTRAST 7
IT’S ABOUT
CHOOSING NOT TO FLY,
NOT
FLYING JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN
WHEN YOU CAN FLY
Though a leader can accomplish crucial tasks
can allow followers to accomplish those same tasks,
rather than
the leader doing the work out of the feeling of necessity.
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45. CHOOSING NOT TO FLY
SERVE
It’s NOT About Power
“Relationships are never about power,
and
one way to avoid the will to hold power over another is to
CHOOSE to limit oneself - serve.”
“CHOOSING to stay on the ground is
a CHOICE
to facilitate a relationship and honor that relationship.”
“You CHOOSE to limit yourself
so as to facilitate and honor that relationship.” 45

46. WHAT BLOCKS RELATIONSHIPS
SPARROWS and EAGLES and PENGUINS
PRIDE
LOOK AT ME FLY
I’M OLDER
I’M WISER
I’M YOUNGER
I’M MORE TECHNICALLY LITERATE
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47. W H A T R E L A T I O N S H I P D O E S
RELATIONSHIP RELEASES
LACK OF RELATIONSHIP WITHOLDS
RELATIONSHIP GIVES FREEDOM
LACK OF RELATIONSHIP RESTRICTS
RELATIONSHIP EXPANDS TERRITORY
LACK OF RELATIONSHIP PROTECTS TERRITORY
RELATIONSHIP RISKS
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48. W H A T R E L A T I O N S H I P D O E S
RELATIONSHIP
RELEASE
RELATIONSHIP
GIVE FREEDOM
RELATIONSHIP
EXPAND TERRITORY
RELATIONSHIP
RISK
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49. W H A T R E L A T I O N S H I P D O E S
RELEASES
GIVES FREEDOM
EXPANDS TERRITORY
RISKS
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50. OBSERVATION
“Each relationship between two persons is
absolutely unique.
That is why you cannot love two people the same way.
It is simply not possible.
You love each person differently
because of
who they are
and
the uniqueness they draw out of you.”
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52. YELL
“DON’T FORGET THE
BOOKS”
FROM
EXECUTIVE BOOKS
IN
MECHANICSBURG, PA
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53. m-y b-a-n-n-e-r
READING leads to
WRITING leads to
SPEAKING leads to
LEADING leads to
ADVENTURE leads to
DESTINY leads to
SUCCESS >>>>>>
G O F O R I T A L L ! ! ! ! ! ! !
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