2. โข Transaction analysis (TA) deals with:
โข Ego states
โข Transactions
โข Life positions
โข Psychological games
โข Psychological strokes
3. Four Life Positions
There are four life positions (as per
Eric Berne):
1. "I am OK, you are OK" (I+U+)
2. "I am OK, you are not OK" (I+U-)
3. "I am not OK, you are OK" (I-U+)
4. "I am not OK, you are not OK" (I-U-)
4. OKness
โข As per Novey, OKness mean:
I am an acceptable human
being with the right to live and meet
my needs and you are an acceptable
human being with the right to live
and get your needs met. As you can
see, here, "rights" and "acceptability"
are used in defining OKness.
5. โข Harris and Harris saw OKness almost as a
comparison of strength, power, and
dependency between a child and his or her
parents.
โข Stewart and Joines define the degree
of OKness a person feels, relates to the value
he or she feels about self and others.
6. I am OK, you are OK
โข Healthy, optimistic and confident attitude towards self
and others.
โข As a realistic assessment, it means that in my opinion I
am OK in spite of my deficiencies. I will neither punish
myself for these deficiencies nor totally I will ignore
their existence. Other people too have deficiencies but
this does not mean that they are second class citizens
and cannot be trusted.
โข Conflicts and criticism tackled from this life position
aim to achieve results with underlying message that I
care considerably about you to argue and fight with
you rather than criticize you to belittle you.
7. โข I am OK, you are OK
โข A person accepts others in spite of their shortcomings and feels OK about himself
despite not being perfect.
โข Well thought of.
โข Makes good impression
โข Able to give orders forcefully.
โข Self respecting.
โข Independent- able to take care of self.
โข Can be strict if necessary.
โข Firm but just.
โข Appreciative.
โข Cooperative.
โข Friendly.
โข Affectionate.
โข Understanding.
Behavioral Attributes of Life Positions
8. I am OK, you are not OK
โข I am better and you are no good.
โข Attitude of superiority and distrust.
โข Operating from critical parent and also,
nurturing parent ego state.
โข People with this attitude
follow McGregor's Theory X style of
management.
9. Behavioral Attributes
โข I am OK, you are not OK
โข Comes over as distrustful, arrogant superior. Thinks that others are inferiors.
โข Can complain if necessary.
โข Able to give orders forcefully.
โข Independent.
โข Can be indifferent to others.
โข Can be strict if necessary, critical of others.
โข Businesslike.
โข Hard to impress.
โข Always gives advice.
โข Bossy.
โข Dominating.
โข Impatient with othersโ mistakes.
โข
10. I am not OK, you are OK
โข Feeling powerless, depressed and inferior.
โข Self deprecating and readily accepts criticism
and negative strokes from others.
โข Cannot accept the positive strokes easily. Will
discount the positive stroke by saying, "No, I
could have done better." "I don't think that I
look as good as you describe me."
11. Behavioral Attributes
โข I am not OK, you are OK
โข Recognized by attitudes of depression, powerlessness and
inferiority. Thinks that others are better.
โข Apologetic.
โข Normally gives in.
โข Very anxious to be approved of.
โข Touching and easily hurt.
โข Lacks self-confidence.
โข Very respectful of authority.
โข Passive.
โข Unaggresive.
โข Meek
12. I am not OK, you are not OK
โข It is the black outlook.
โข Fortunately not frequently encountered.
โข If a person demonstrates this image for a long
time, he is likely to show extreme apathy and
will not be productive.
13. Behavioral Attributes
โข I am not OK, you are not OK
โข A position of thorough hopelessness and despair.
โข Can be indifferent to others.
โข Critical of others.
โข Can complain if necessary.
โข Able to doubt others.
โข Irritable, skeptical.
โข Impatient with othersโ mistakes.
โข Often unfriendly.
โข Bitter.
โข Complaining.
โข Cold and unfeeling.
โข Frequently angry.