Communication & confidence

communication & confidence
enabling high performance
Richard Longman Associates Ltd
Company Number: 8573663
Registered Office: 1 Chapel Terrace, Sheffield, S10 3HF
t +44 114 230 1367
m +44 7969 284464
e associates@richardlongman.com

tamingyourchimptamingyourchimp

moving forward
three great high-performance questions
what … should I keep on doing?
what … should I stop doing?
what … should I start doing?
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irrational thought
unwanted feelings
destructive behaviour
recognise the chimp

challenge the chimp
The key question to ask is:
“Do I want these thoughts, feelings or behaviours?”
answer “no”, and take responsibility

take responsibility
you are responsible for managing your chimp
you can’t bully your chimp
make friends with your chimp, and it will start to listen to you
gain control of your life and enable high performance

three techniques | one
allow the chimp to have its say
let the chimp say everything it wants to
you will feel better afterwards
and you can return to rational human conversation

three techniques | two
remember what your chimp says
deal with the chimp in a rational way
use facts, truth and logic
calm your chimp, and address its fears and concerns
remember fears and concerns can be real

three techniques | three
you can distract or reward your chimp
distract : count to ten before you speak
reward : give yourself a treat when you achieve something

ﬁnally
the chimp is faster than the human, but not as fast as the
computer
beat it
GIGO – Garbage In, Garbage Out

“Our beliefs become our
thoughts, out thoughts
become our words, our
words become our habits,
our habits become our
values, our values become
our destiny.”
Mahatma Gandhi (1868-1948)

your beliefs
BELIEFS THOUGHTS WORDS HABITS VALUES DESTINY
what are the recurring messages you communicate to yourself?
can you distinguish between positive and negative messages?

challenging negative self talk
ALTERNATIVES PERSPECTIVE PLUS …REALITY
is this actually
true?
is there any
evidence?
what else could
this mean?
can I reframe
this positively?
is it really so
bad?
will it matter in
ﬁve years time?
is this helping
me perform?
what can I learn
from this?
R A P +

building positive self talk
eliminate the negative
make positive affirmations
and tell great stories
offload negative influences
use present tense messages
confront your fears
focus on things you enjoy

rhyme helps you remember
remember powerful stories
stories and rhymes help you believe
believing self-talk

visualisation | one
what you focus on, you attract
use all your senses
be the star, not the audience

visualisation | two
what you focus on, you attract
create a routine
put rest breaks to use

it can’t make you exceed your capabilities
but it can help you reach your potential
VISUALISATION

communication & confidence
communicate with yourself
communicate with others
focus on quality messages
acknowledge the difficulties
recognise the importance of underpinning
high performance with communication
recognise that beliefs influence destiny
distinguish between positive and negative
build and believe positive self talk
create a strong visualisation of your
success
incorporate this mental training into your
physical training

let’s talk
a word or two is all it takes to get started
if you are in pursuit of high performance
and/or if confidence is something you want to develop
then let’s talk
www.richardlongman.com
Richard Longman Associates Ltd
Company Number: 8573663
Registered Office: 1 Chapel Terrace, Sheffield, S10 3HF
t +44 114 230 1367
m +44 7969 284464
e associates@richardlongman.com

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