http://blog.the-law-of-diversity.com/how-to-deal-with-a-high-maintenance-gold-digger-woman/ Kanye West may have coined the term “gold digger.” However, the term and the meaning have been around since the 1980s and is the theme of the hit film The Money Pit. Tom Hanks and Shelly Long play a couple that attempts to renovate their recently purchased home. In the beginning the couple is thrilled to be able to purchase a million dollar house at such a good price. Only to become discouraged and frustrated once it begins to fall apart around them. The door rips off the wall. The spiral staircase collapses. The water that oozes from the faucet is filled with brown dirt. And the electrical system goes on the fritz, sizzles, and causes the whole dang house to catch on fire. Of course, the house is analogous to a relationship, especially one with a high maintenance woman.

1. How To Deal
With a High
Maintenance Gold
Digger Woman?

2. Kanye West may have coined the term “gold digger.”
However, the term and the meaning have been around
since the 1980s and is the theme of the hit film The
Money Pit. Tom Hanks and Shelly Long play a couple that
attempts to renovate their recently purchased home.
In the beginning the couple is thrilled to be able to
purchase a million dollar house at such a good price.
Only to become discouraged and frustrated once it
begins to fall apart around them. The door rips off the
wall. The spiral staircases collapses.
The water that oozes from the faucet is filled with
brown dirt. And the electrical system goes on the fritz,
sizzles, and causes the whole dang house to catch on
fire. Of course, the house is analogous to a relationship,
especially one with a high maintenance woman.

3. A high maintenance gold digger
woman is in constant need of
renovations and repairs.
A high maintenance gold digger
woman is in constant need of
renovations and repairs.

4. In many situations, we are blinded by the beauty and glitz
of a woman, only to move in and become discouraged
when the house/relationship begins to crumble all around
us. Relationships with a high maintenance woman involve
making constant renovations where you can get frustrated
by the ongoing delays and increasing costs of repairs.
Soon, the relationship becomes a money pit, where you
make one repair, only to find ten other things that are still
broken. In the end, that’s what a high maintenance, gold
digger woman is. She is someone who is broken and needs
a lot of love, care, and attention to feel whole and complete.
Besides, all relationships require some form of investment.
But trying to fix a high maintenance woman is like trying to
renovate an abandoned high-rise building that is destined to
implode. It will take you out, and everything else around it.
Remember, the high maintenance woman is looking for
somebody dumb enough to invest in her. She secretly
knows that she isn’t very valuable. However, her goal is to
trick you into believing that she is a pot of gold.

5. The high maintenance woman is all about
maintaining an illusion.

6. The high maintenance woman never wants anyone to see how
truly broken and alone she is. She craves love, yet she rejects
it because it requires her to feel vulnerable and even weak.
Instead, she begins to adopt certain roles that will ensure that
she will always be in control and in charge of her own destiny
and fate. The roles that people adopt in relationships are
commonly called fantasy bonds. Dr. Robert Firestone
introduced the concept of the fantasy bond in his book,
Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice.
He explains that people invest a great deal of their time and
effort into playing roles to avoid the pitfalls and heartaches
that come with being in a real relationship. The fantasy bond
is common amongst older married couples that refuse to
acknowledge that the love and romance is gone. Instead,
they play roles and pretend that they’re in a healthy and
loving relationship. The high maintenance woman on the
other hand, has adopted this terrible relationship with
herself.

7. Throughout the years she developed a major alter ego that appears to be strong, independent,
kind, and even loving. Unfortunately, you can’t put a fresh coat over crack paint, partly because
everything that is buried underneath will bleed through. A high maintenance woman will
continue to cover up her insecurities by demanding more attention and validation by expecting
more money and gifts.

8. Tips to deal with a high maintenance, gold digger
woman.

9. If you rewind back to spiritual and personal development
101, you know that the very first relationship that you have
is with yourself. Sadly, with many gold-digger high
maintenance women, they’ve never really cultivated this
relationship. They lack a sense of inner security and
belongingness.
They look for other people and relationships to give them
things that they can only find within themselves. Yes, these
women are constantly hard to please. But when you appease
them and succumb to their needs, you’re reinforcing many
deep-seated issues that they need to face, alone.

10. If you’re dating a high maintenance woman, you
need to assess the damage.

11. Then, you need to be honest and ask yourself how much
time and money you’re willing to put into her. You don’t
want to invest in a depreciating asset. Yet, at the same
time, you don’t want to walk away because you have
already invested so much attention and maybe you’re not
ready to give up on the finished product.
If you truly want to get through to a high maintenance
woman, you’ll need to understand that her persona
needs to be smashed to smithereens like a building
being whacked by a wrecking ball. She needs to
shatter her insecurities and fear of vulnerability like
fallen debris.
Most importantly, she will need to build a solid
foundation to build from. She will need you to be her
rock, her sense of security. She will need you to be
strong, so she can be weak and vulnerable. This way,
she will be able to grow and appreciate into the
woman she was destined to be.

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