7. Review
• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change
- White Knuckle Change is the change in behavior without addressing the
system, or environment, that is causing the behavior.
8. Review
• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change
- White Knuckle Change is the change in behavior without addressing the
system, or environment, that is causing the behavior.
- Real Change is a complete examination and alteration of one’s life, how
it is structured, who is in it, and what meaning life ultimately has for you.
10. Review
• The real issue with our Unwanted Sexual
Behavior is conditional love.
11. Review
• The real issue with our Unwanted Sexual
Behavior is conditional love.
• The only pathway to recovery is to convert the
conditional love that we have experienced or are
experiencing in our lives into unconditional love.
13. Review
1. Psychologically examine our feelings, which means that we
pay attention, and are attuned to, our feelings, especially
feelings of conditional love and where those feelings came
from.
14. Review
1. Psychologically examine our feelings, which means that we
pay attention, and are attuned to, our feelings, especially
feelings of conditional love and where those feelings came
from.
2. Seek, establish, and engage in community, which means
that we rebuild the interpersonal bridge that was broken for us
at a young age because of conditional love.
16. Review
3. We accomplish this conversion of conditional love into
unconditional love when we ensure that individuals and
communities are unconditionally loving by exercising Truth,
Trust, and Territory.
17. Review
3. We accomplish this conversion of conditional love into
unconditional love when we ensure that individuals and
communities are unconditionally loving by exercising Truth,
Trust, and Territory.
4. Develop and Explore Genuine Faith seeing God as the
ultimate Source of unconditional love and enjoy that source.
20. The Journey
Unwanted Sexual Behavior
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White-Knuckle Change Real Change
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Abstinence Understanding of Physiology
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Relapse Abstinence
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Acceptance of Conditional Love
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Pursuit of Unconditional Love
22. The Journey
• The purpose and value of the map is to help
you stay on the line when you are feeling
unbalanced, get you back up on the line when
and if you have fallen off.
23. The Journey
• The purpose and value of the map is to help
you stay on the line when you are feeling
unbalanced, get you back up on the line when
and if you have fallen off.
• Addiction is about the brain’s desire to hide
some very deep, dark, challenging secrets that
the addict simply doesn’t want to realize or
face.
25. The Journey
• God doesn’t want you to be sober because he
wants you to obey rules
26. The Journey
• God doesn’t want you to be sober because he
wants you to obey rules
• God wants you sober because he wants you
to discover the wonderful person he has
created you to be
29. The Other Side
• Facing the lies
• Friendships will either need to be
strengthened through truth, or lost through
truth
30. The Other Side
• Facing the lies
• Friendships will either need to be
strengthened through truth, or lost through
truth
• The biggest experience you will need to face
in being sober is not just your outer
environment, but your inner environment
31. The Other Side
• Facing the lies
• Friendships will either need to be
strengthened through truth, or lost through
truth
• The biggest experience you will need to face
in being sober is not just your outer
environment, but your inner environment
• Facing difficult emotions
33. The Other Side
• It gets easier and easier the further away from
your addiction you get.
34. The Other Side
• It gets easier and easier the further away from
your addiction you get.
• Once you see it, you can’t not see it. That is
the process of shattering the illusion of
addiction.
37. The Other Side
• Physical Symptoms
- Difficulty sleeping
- Fatigue
- Nervousness and irritability
- Nausea
- Rapid heartbeat
- Shortness of breath
- Headaches
- Shakes
- High sexual arousal
- Body aches
- Increased desire to eat
- Sensitivity in the genitals
- Itching skin
- Sweats and chills
38. Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous Big
Book of Recovery
39. Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous Big
Book of Recovery
“We cannot go through your withdrawal for you, nor would we, if we could.
Who would knowingly volunteer to go though it again? Certainly none of us!
Yet the pain of each withdrawal is unique and special, even precious (although
you probably don’t think so). In a sense, the experience is you, a part of you
which has been trying to surface for a long time. You have been avoiding or
postponing this pain for a long time now, yet you have never been able to
lastingly outrun it. You need to go through withdrawal in order to become a
whole person. You need to meet yourself. Behind the terror of what you fear,
withdrawal contains the seeds for your own personal wholeness. It must be
experienced for you to realize, or make real, that potential for you and your life
that has been stored there for so long.”
