Interesting Deck exploring what passion really is

1. PASSION
Michael Parle
Consulting and clinical psychologist

2. passion in action
www.summitpost.org

3. • Do we really have to Climb Mt Everest
for a little passion in our lives?

4. Passion’s
UPs and downs
• What is passion?
• When does it show up?
• How can we cultivate it?

5. What is passion?
• Passio (Latin) – a suffering or agony
• Extreme compelling emotion
• The condition of being acted upon especially by
outside influences

6. PASSION:
A working definition
compelling emotion
experienced when suffering Willingly
In pursuit of something valued
michael parle 2006

7. Passion is emotion
• Defined by intensity and has different flavours
• Love
• Lust
• protection
• determination
• anger
• courage

8. Passion is about a value
What do you want your life to stand for?
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9. Everyday Values that inspire
passion
• Being a good parent
• Finding your soul mate
• Striving for excellence
• discovering
• Ensuring justice
• Living life to the full
• Caring for others

10. Passion needs action
• Valued actions are steps that lead in the
direction of what’s most important to you
• Speaking up
• Going first
• Catching a big wave
• Embracing someone you love
• Protecting a child in danger

11. Passion needs suffering
• Defined by willingness to suffer but its not about
suffering
• Fear, pain, exhaustion, grief injury,
• ridicule, uncertainty, defeat
• Suffering is less important than the value
pursued

12. Passion needs suffering
• If fear is a stimulating factor, then I think you can
often extend your self far more than you ever
believed possible.
• instead of being just a mediocre person, for a
moment anyway, you become someone of
considerable competence.
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Hillary

13. Passion is about letting go of suffering
Escaping from a Rip
• float with the current,
• don't fight it. Remember to stay
calm.
• Suffer without struggle

14. When does passion show
up?

15. 140
My Willingness
To suffer
120
100 Passion
80
60
40
20
0
How compelled I feel
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16. 140
My Willingness
To suffer
120
100
Passion
80
60
Comfort Zone
Indifference
40 Addiction
Obsession
Burnout
20 Avoidance
Depression Panic
0
How Compelled I feel
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17. How can we cultivate
passion?

18. What’s Really
important?
Tap into Enhance Clarity
values
Make it Attractive
concentrate the Focus
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19. • Any action can be a
valued action if it goes in
the direction of a value
Take valued • Any action can be a
actions devaluing action if its
meaning is opposite to a
value
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20. • Know where you are
starting from
• Low readiness for
Take valued passion (avoiders)
actions
• Flaccid starters (comfort
zone)
• Willing starters
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21. Have the suffering
Willingness to
Defuse the suffering
suffer Body suffering
Head suffering
the value is always more
important
michael parle 2006

22. Emotions can rarely just be
turned on
Enhancing emotional
experience Being Present
Sensitivity to emotion
increase the intensity
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23. The morning after
“Little creature of love
With two arms and two legs
Passion has
From a moment of passion
Consequences
Now they cover the bed”
Talking heads
michael parle 2006

24. Rewarding the action
The morning
after Enhancing the value
Relieving suffering
michael parle 2006