The 10th issue of our newsletter Gaining Positive!

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Issue #10
Gaining Positive! Apr/May
2011
From the Editor
Hi folks, with shocking incredulity I try to figure out what took me ages to get back to GP.
Ummmm… flooded by work and of course a good deal of laziness. Nevertheless, life is about
recovering, from traumas as well as from inaction and apathy. Of the latter, a bit of effort from
this editor can be seen online as the blog Save Life (http://catchingstraw.blogspot.com). Please
take a minute to become a follower of the blog and send your news about life-saving to
editor@recoveringself.com. Also, my fellow writer Vincent Sobotka may be hosting GP from
the next issue onward while I take a break from work and concentrate on reading and some
creative writing. Now, our updates from the LHP.
Ernest Dempsey
May 04, 2011
GP News
 Charles Joseph Fickey has been awarded the 2011 Richard
Boes Memorial Award for his book Sworn to Secrecy for
Life: A Young American Spy’s Odyssey through War-torn
Germany and Russia.
 President and publisher at the LHP Victor R. Volkman takes
on the question “Why continue to struggle against mass
market producers?” in a guest blog on Savvy Verse and Wit.
 The April 2011 issue of LHP’s quarterly journal Recovering
the Self (Vol. 3, No 2), themed “disabilities”, is out in print
and available at Amazon. The journal is now accepting
submissions for the next issue, themed “Disease”, until May
20, 2011.
New Reviews
 King Arthur's Children: A Study in Fiction and Tradition by
Tyler R. Tichelaar: “King Arthur’s Children looks at the
literature since the fifth century, tracing every mention of the
children of Arthur, starting with the Welsh legends. Tichelaar’s
work has added something valuable to those who study the man
or to those of us who still want to read more of the infamous
king.” ~ Janice Hidey. Read the review online.

2.  Made In America, Sold in the Nam (Second Edition) by Rick Ritter and Paul
Richards: “This book was a salve to my emptiness. It is writers such as these that remind
us ever that war is futile in the end; that it is destructive to the minds, spirits, hearts and
bodies of those we cherish.” ~ Deborah Previte. Read the review online.
 How to Unbreak Your Health by Alan E. Smith: “Smith
provides a roster of therapies and wide-ranging resource list
from which we can begin our own course of healing and
health betterment.” ~ Sherry Jones Mayo. Read the review
online .
 Billy Had To Move: A Foster Care Story by Theresa Ann
Fraser: “Theresa Ann Fraser has written an important book
extremely useful to the foster care child, the caregiver, the
therapist and the teacher.” ~ Laura Fabiani. Read the review
online.
Golden Guide: 5 Tips on How Families Can Respond to Cyber Bullying by Holli Kenley
With the wonders of electronic communication, our children today find
themselves dealing with abusive behaviors targeted at them through the
various social networking sites and with numerous technological
devices. This cyber bullying is a symptom of being out of balance with
technology.
While there are no easy solutions, a healthy balance of direct interaction
with peers and physical activities promotes good social skills, problem
solving abilities, and physical fitness, reducing dependence on
technology for social interaction. Here are some suggestions for
implementing direct interaction within families:
1. Create opportunities to do good. Within the home, the school, the community, find
ways to spend time helping others. This can be anything from doing chores, to
volunteering, to serving on teams or committees. Just enjoy being together!
2. Nurture empathy. Spend time talking and listening to one another. Talk about feelings,
emotions, and the importance of understanding and respecting each individual’s being
and position in the family. Encourage one another. Support one another.
3. Teach friendship skills. Play games together (not computer!). Practice good
sportsmanship and sharing behaviors. Compliment each other on things each person does
well. Do special things for one another without being asked. Surprise one another with a
special gift or idea!
4. Monitor time spent on technology. Designate specific times for computer, cell phone,
and technology usage. Make certain that time does not exceed time spent directly
interacting.
5. Engage in other activities. Plan and carry out other activities that do not involve
technology for interaction. Spend a weekend having a “tech free” day or two. Play sports,

3. go fishing, plan an backyard BBQ, play board games—be creative and inventive! Have
fun “being together”!
Technology is here to stay and that is a good thing. However, how
much and how often we embrace it can and will affect our
interpersonal relationships. While maintaining a healthy balance of
direct and indirect interaction, we can help diminish the risks of
exposure to cyber bullying while creating and nurturing human
empathy and connection.
Visit http://www.hollikenley.com/ to learn about the author, a
marriage and family therapist, and her helpful work.
Author Chat
 Tyler Tichelaar's interview with Liliane Desjardins, author of
The Imprint Journey: A Path of Lasting Transformation Into
Your Authentic Self, is online at Reader Views
 Certified coach and LHP author Kerin Bellak Adams spoke
about self-esteem and success in Children, Teens, and Adults
with ADD/ADHD on the ADHD Support Talk Radio Show
on April 12th. Listen to the interview online
 Marjorie McKinnon, author of It’s Your Choice! Decisions
That Will Change Your Life, was interviewed on Speak Up! at
WomensRadio on the topic of recovery from childhood
sexual abuse. The interview is archived online
Hot Off the Press
Here are the latest LHP titles available online at Amazon.
 Crisis in the American Heartland: Disasters & Mental Health
in Rural Environments -- An Introduction (Volume 1) by
George W. Doherty: Doherty's first volume in this new series
presents important yet challenging issues for psychology,
especially given uneven population distribution, high levels of
need, limited availability of rural services, and ongoing
migration to urban centers.

4.  The Road-Shaped Heart by Nick Purdon: The Road-Shaped Heart is the poetic journey
of a man winding his way through a landscape of darkness, anguish, addiction, loss and
grief; carrying with him a lantern of hope, courage, idealism and love to illuminate a
pathway to self-forgiveness, acceptance and spiritual growth.
 The Whole Youth Worker: Advice on Professional, Personal, and Physical Wellness
from the Trenches (2nd Ed.) by Jay Tucker: "In The Whole Youth Worker, Jay gives us
a glimpse at what it's like to be in the trenches—both good and
bad. You will read this book and say, 'Been there--it's good to
know I'm not alone!'" --Rev. Bill Fisackerly, IV, Gulf Cove United
Methodist Church
 The Imprint Journey: A Path of Lasting Transformation Into
Your Authentic Self by Liliane Desjardins: "The Imprint Journey
will touch your very soul and make way for profound
transformation. From personal story to practical steps, Liliane
walks with her readers on the path of awakening. Your life will be
changed." --Carolyn Craft, Psychotherapist, Unity Minister, host
of Waking Up With Carolyn Craft on Sirius Satellite Radio
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Wishing everyone a happy time ahead!