Are you shy? Would you like to beat it?

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2.  Most people that meet now day would
probably say that I am an extrovert.
 Always on show and love attention.
 However, would you believe that only ten
years ago I would have been considered shy?
 I used to be really shy and it was keeping me
back from doing a lot of things and meeting a
lot of people.
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3.  I was afraid to talk or introduce myself to
people.
 I was scared of what they would think of me.
If the person was a female of the opposite
sex then I was as good as useless.
 There was no way I would go up and talk to
her.
 She may tell me to get lost or laugh at me.
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4.  It took a while to learn that my shyness
wasn’t about because I am a timid person, it
was because I lacked a strong believe in
myself, my appearance and my own
confidence.
 I was a strong believer in self doubt.
 In fact it was so strong that it crippled me in
a couple of areas.
 The only thing that I had going for me was I
knew that I had to change.
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5.  That need for change kept on build until I was
27.
 At that time I was overweight, long hair and
living with my parents.
 My friends were all fit and health, married or
dating people and living in their own houses.
 Instead of feeling like a young man that could
tackle the world, felt, and acted like a little
boy.
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6.  The problem with that was I was content to
stay there.
 I would have been happy to allow things to be
done for me and remained immature.
 Again this was due to the lack of confidence
and shyness that I was carrying.
 Fortunately, a rather nasty comment about
my weight snapped me into action.
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7.  In a period of 4 months I lost 20kgs through
walking, eating properly and a wee but of
weight lifting.
 I then decide to cut my hair.
 In fact I went from hair half way down my
back to a number one.
 This all made me feel better and build my
confidence, which then gave me strength to
move out of mum and dad’s place into my
own home.
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8.  I then decided to go out with some friends
one night and when they first saw me they
were stunned.
 Some could hardly believe it was me.
 Their positive comments about my looks, my
weight and even my attitude helped to build
my confidence.
 I even had enough confidence to talk to a
woman.
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9.  I was kicking myself for taking so long to get
to this point.
 I couldn’t help but think about all of the
opportunities I had lost in those years of self
doubt.
 I decide that that would never happen again.
 I was determined to make sure that I never
hid away again and never missed another
opportunity.
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10.  So I came up with a simple set of questions
that can be applied to any situation.
 The first is, “What will happen if I don’t do
this?”
 The second is a “What will happen if I do do
this?”
 In relation to a talking to a girl, if I don’t talk
to her, then I never know if she does like, or
if I had a chance to get to know her better.
 Could I spend the rest of my life regretting
not just saying hello?
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11.  What would happen if I did talk to her?
 She may like me and I may get to know her.
 Alternately she may say she is not interested,
but at least I would know where I stood and I
could go talk to somebody else.
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12.  So I say to you, don’t let shyness stand in
your way.
 Build your confidence, take chances and talk
to people.
 Ask yourself the same questions I still ask
myself and start having a life you will enjoy
living.
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 Terry Shadwell