11. Temperament traits Easy (40%) Spirited (10%) Slow-to-Warm-up (15%) 1. Sensitivity Low High 2. Activity level Low High Low 3. Regularity Regular Irregular 4. Intensity Low High Low 5. Approach/ Withdrawal Outgoing Withdrawl Withdrawal 6. Adaptability Quickly Slowly Slowly 7. Persistence Low High 8. Distractibility Low or High High or Low 9. Mood Positive “ Serious”
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Of all the ‘lenses’ by which we can help parents to understand their children, temperament is one of the most useful and understandable as it individualizes the child, takes the onus off the parent for challenging traits, takes the blame off the child for challenging traits, helps parents to see what might be the most salutary environment for their child (i.e., improve “goodness of fit”).
Any parent with a temperamentally difficult child looks bad. Don ’t blame the victim!
One of main long-term goals of pediatric primary care: to improve “goodness of fit” between parent and child.
Mis-behavior comes from mistaken belief of how to find belonging and significance
Mis-behavior comes from mistaken belief of how to find belonging and significance
consistency – can avoid in the 1 st place with routines many times -Give them a chance to learn the rules Studies show a reinforcer should be applied within 5 seconds of a target behavior Children who receive inconsistent and delayed consequences are similar to employees who are paid on an inconsistent and arbitrary schedule Behavioral principle of extinction- stopping the delivery of a reinforcer that previously followed a behavior resulting in the decrease in future probability of the behavior Like scribbling with a pen that has run out of ink Also works well for swearing
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(begin rule setting after 6-8 months, prior to this the baby ’s cognative abilities are not developed enough) Set only rules that you will enforce Set your child up for success Set as few rules as possible Give as many choices as possible But, not unlimited choices "What do you want for breakfast?" will lead to hassles. "Do you want eggs or cereal?" Much better. Give children a choice when they misbehave: Do you want to stop playing or leave the table? If no decision is made, make the decision for them. Explain rules ahead of time: “ Tell me what the rule is?” Different rules at different ages and stages E.g., before 6-7, children do not have the capability of abstraction, i.e., “don’t go into the street” is because “mommy says so,” versus later, “because I need to keep myself safe.” Younger children need repetition and consistent discipline.
Verbal abuse. The greatest mistake is using methods that cause permanent damage to our children. Emotional abuse may be even more disastrous than physical abuse.
Generally as a last resort , often with yelling 93% Justify it…85% Would use something else 54% Feel guilty about it
Decide words you will use Set out the potty chair Begin a routine (after naps, before baths) Let them watch you/siblings Praise all their efforts Consider going without the pull-ups