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1. Making The Most Of Marriage Counseling

2. Nobody really wants to acknowledge the fact that their
relationship is in need of help, but nowadays it is the
case that a lot of people are facing problems within their
marriages. There are many reasons for this, including
the financial pressures that many are now under, and
the general stress of modern life. Regardless of the
reasons for the relationship's breakdown, the persons
involved should try to view marriage counseling as a
positive addition to their lives.

3. It is not always the case when both persons agree to go
for outside assistance. There could be a number of
reasons why someone may be hesitant, even if they
know that it could help. When you have to discuss going
to a counselor with your spouse, it is best if it is done in
a certain way, so that the most beneficial outcome can
be achieved.

4. Sometime when you are alone is best, and when neither
of you are overly stressed from work or other everyday
problems. Do not attempt to discuss the possibility of
outside assistance when you are in the middle of an
argument. Your partner may then think that you are not
serious about the idea, and are only trying to make
threats. Try to explain that the purpose will be to solve
problems between you, and to improve the quality of
your relationship. Try not to make it seem like a
punishment, or like your partner will be blamed in the
process.

5. Sometimes one half of the partnership has to go to see a
counselor by him or her self. This can still be beneficial,
as the person attending can learn better ways to cope
within an argument and to bring about some positive
changes. Often, the other party sees the positive impact
on the relationship and then agrees to start seeing the
counselor as well.

6. If your partner has agreed to work with you, then you
are off to a good start. When both of you agree on the
path to take in order to improve your relationship, then
you can start to consider the outcome that you desire.
Before you even start the sessions with the counselor,
you can make a list of goals. Note why you are attending
and what you hope to achieve. The list can be made
with your spouse or on your own, but should be shared.

7. Besides your goals, think of all the things that effect
your relationship in a negative way. Make a note of
them. Once they are written down, you will be able to
see more clearly which things need attention.

8. Start to work on having a positive attitude towards your
relationship. You can help yourself do this by forming a
list of all the good things about your partner and your
association. Concentrating on positive things help to
dispel unwanted, negative feelings.

9. Many couples can benefit from marriage counseling, not
only those who are thinking of getting a divorce. Couples
who have been under strain from substance abuse or
the loss of a child can benefit, and just-married couples
can enjoy learning some good communications skills. Try
to choose a counselor who is professional and who has
credentials.

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