During the divorce process, people are already stressed. It is not uncommon to make mistakes under such stress which can detrimental to one’s interest in divorce case. This presentation highlights some of such mistakes and ways to avoid them. for more details Call us at 203-403-6659, 866-463-5144 or Email us at gcapodilupo@ridgefieldattorney.com and visit at:http://www.ridgefieldattorney.com

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2. During the divorce process, people are already stressed. It is not uncommon
to make mistakes under such stress which can detrimental to one’s interest
in divorce case. This presentation highlights some of such mistakes and
ways to avoid them.

3. Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Ignoring alternatives to fighting in court
 Team mediation, and
collaborative law are
excellent, lower cost,
private alternatives to
litigation.
 In the trial, the
arguments can be
nasty and lead to
washing dirty linen in
the public.
 Research your options
before you see a
divorce lawyer.
 Take informed
decision.

4. Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Running straight to a divorce lawyer when you are
mad
 It is difficult to be
rational when you are
emotional and angry.
 In a state of seething
anger, you may agree
to pay a large retainer
to a divorce lawyer, in
order to get out of
marriage at any cost.
 Take time to decide.
 Wait to make major
decisions like how
you choose to divorce
until you are calm and
thinking clearly.

5. Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Hiring the divorce lawyer who tells you everything
you want to hear
 They are tall claims,
just to solicit you.
 Beware of any lawyer
who says
– You are right and
your spouse is
wrong.
– I can fix everything.
– I can get you
everything you
want.
 Choose a lawyer who
talks to you realistically
about all your options.
 He should say what law
says, and what is
reasonable to expect in
your case.
 He should not make
statements and tall
claims to impress you.

6. Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Using your lawyer as your mouthpiece
 Talking through
lawyers.
 It is expensive and
message often
miscommunicated or
misinterpreted
causing more trouble.
 Before seeing a divorce
lawyer , talk to your
spouse and try to reach at
agreement in the areas of
less contention.
 If you can’t talk to your
spouse, try using a
mediator – a common
friend, relative or
someone you both trust.

7. Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Demanding everything and offer nothing
 Fear can cause people in
divorce to demand things.
 More spousal maintenance
than reasonable
 Sole custody of a child
when both are fit parents.
 Making unreasonable
demands may make your
divorce nastier and
protracted.
 State your needs in
terms of interests, not
demands.
 Tell your spouse why
what you want is
important to you.
 Be reasonable and
realistic.

8. Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Making a public spectacle of your spouse
 Character
assassination of your
spouse in the court
lowers dignity of both
of you.
 If you have children,
they need both of you
to take care of them
and be as their role
models.
 Use divorce
mediation or
collaborative law
which are confidential
processes, to deal
with such issues.

9. Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Stop seeing your therapist or pastor
 Stress can be devastating
for your physical and
mental health.
 Many divorcing spouses
report is they no longer
have a close adult to talk
to everyday and feels
lonely and insecure.
 Find a therapist, pastor, or
support group to help get
you through.
 A therapist, pastor, or
support group provide
channels to deal with those
stressful and lonely times.

10. Contact
Divorce Attorney
Giustino Capodilupo
100 Danbury Road, Suite 101
Ridgefield, CT 06877
Phone: 203-403-6659
Toll Free: 866-463-5144
Fax: 203-431-2189