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1. From the boardroom to
the bedroom.
12 bad habits and behaviors from the workplace , a
husband should not use at home when conversing with
his wife.
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2. 1. Drop the Ego
Meeting and conversing with your wife should not be an opportunity yet again to
feed your starving ego. Whatever cravings you have for attention and narcissistic
behaviors, leave it for your staff, your colleagues or your boss to provide at the
workplace.
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3. 2. Quit playing “the
advancing myself” game
There is no need to put on a show and choose your word carefully. The goal
is not for you to advance yourself or get perks as a result of the conversation.
Bring respect and honesty with every word you speak…
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4. 3. Listen more talk less
The majority of people hear others but don’t listen to them. The voice in
their heads is usually louder than the voice they hear and that is why,
most people already formulate a rebuttal to a statement well in advanced
of it being completed.
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5. 4. There is no need for a problem
solver, a husband will suffice.
You have not been invited to solve a problem or provide instant solutions.
Silence the Sherlock Holmes within you and be ready to lend a shoulder for
the comfort of your wife.
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6. 5.You are not the smartest
person in the room.
The corporate world mandates that we should always display and reaffirm our
value in every meeting we attend. No two experiences are the same and the
notion of “smarter” in itself is flawed. Regardless of your spouse being a
housewife or a CEO, you should approach the conversation with the intention
of learning rather than the intention of teaching…
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7. 6. No need for flowcharts, whiteboards or PowerPoint.
No notes needed, only attention and hugs
Forget all about flowcharts and let’s not whiteboard it. Your attempt at
clarity and organization will be your doom. Just let the conversation be…
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8. 7. There
is no need for an agenda. A
conversation from the heart and soul needs
no scripts
For all those husbands who are control freaks and type A personalities,
please take a deep breath. The absence of an agenda will probably
traumatize you for a good while. Use a brown bag for hyperventilation and
suck it up. Eventually, you will come to find out to your utmost disbelief that
great things can still be achieved without an agenda.
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9. 8. Whatever you do, do not pick up that phone or
check your e-mails while being talked to.
Using your phone or checking e-mails while someone is talking , is simply rude.
Nonetheless it has now become an accepted behavior in the corporate world
under the false belief of our ability to multi task. Whatever the case might be,
leave this behavior for the workplace where being rude is accepted and
encouraged. Your wife deserve 100% of your attention.
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10. 10.There is no other meeting that you are late for. Take
the time to embrace a complete conversation.
Allow for plenty of extra time for your wife to express herself. Do not plan on a
quick exit. The conversation will be over when she is satisfied that she has
fully expressed herself and that you have understood her.
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11. 11. Just because the conversation did not start on the
scheduled time, does not mean it lost its value.
We all know that women take some liberties with time and schedules. You may
call it a right, a privilege or anything else. Keep that brown bag handy for
hyperventilation needs and exercise patience. Just because the schedule has
been altered, it does not mean the conversation will be without value.
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12. 12. Do not assign action items and mandate
deadlines.
Be comfortable with the fact that all there was to accomplish, was done
throughout the conversation. Use your brown bag for the last time and smile.
While you might have stepped out of your comfort zone, you also brought
great joy to your wife.
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