1. Shaadi: Life Time Investment

2. Outline
Marriage : A Crisis?
Marriage in Islam
Benefits of Marriage
Essentials of Muslim Marriage
Spouse Selection
Essential Tips

3. Marriage: A Crisis?

4. FamilyinCrisis
Western Society
• Married couple with children= 37.4%
• Married couple without children = 33.1%
• Family break down = 50%
(Canadian census 2001)
Marriage : A Crisis?

5. Divorcethe USA
In
Rate
• Every two marriages, there is one divorce
• 2.04 million males are single parents.
• 9.68 million females are single parents.
• 28% parents live with one parent.
(Divorce Magazine)
Marriage : A Crisis?

6. Impact on
Muslim
Societies
• Divorce rate on rise:
California: 37%
Georgia: 29%
Turkey + Egypt:
10%
• Lack of reference
points for second
generation and
(Dr . Illyas Ba-Yunus, Professor
younger families.
Sociology, State University of New york)
Marriage : A Crisis ?

7. Marriage In Islam
A Life time Investment

8. NIKAAH
A form of Ibadah in Islam

9. NIKAAH
Rasulullah(saw) has
referred to it as “half
of Deen”.
Staus of Marriage In Islam

10. Social
Obligation
Islam considers
marriage a social
obligation, an act
which is greatly
admired by Allah.
Status of Marriage In Islam

11. Natural
Relationship
Nikaah - is the
(only) natural
relationship
between man and
woman.
Status of Marriage In Islam

12. In the Light of Qur‟an:
O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created
from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and
women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and the
wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer.
[An-Nisa: 1]
Status of Marriage In Islam

13. In the Light of Qur‟an:
And We have already sent messengers before you and assigned to them
wives and descendants. And it was not for a messenger to come with a sign
except by permission of Allah . For every term is a decree.
[Ar-Raad, 13:38]
Status of Marriage In Islam

14. In the Light of Qur‟an:
Who will inherit me and inherit from the family of
Jacob. And make him, my Lord, pleasing [to
You].”
Verse 6: Surah maryam
Status of Marriage In Islam

15. Pre-Islamic Arabia
• Family status
• No age barrier
• Variations in
Nikaah:
– Badal: Exchanging wives
– Before birth
– Shighar: Exchanging
sisters and daughters in
marriage so no dowry or
mehr
– Maqaat: Marrying step
Marriage in Islam mother

16. Foundation
of Marriage in Islam

17. Signs For People who give thought
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves
mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed
between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for
a people who give thought.
Al-Rum: 21
Foundation of Marriage in Islam

18. Garments For Each other
They are clothing for you and you
are clothing for them.
Al-Baqarah: 187
Foundation of Marriage in Islam

19. Advantages
Of Marriage

20. Preservation of
Faith
„‟When Allah grants one a righteous wife, He
has helped him (by that) to preserve half of
his religion. Let him then fear and revere
Allah in regard to the other half.” (At-
Tabarani)
Advantages of Marriage

21. Preservation of
Chastity
Abdullah bin Mas'ud (RA) reported that
Allah's Messenger (SAW) said to us:
0 young men, those among you who can
support a wife should marry, for it restrains
eyes (from casting evil glances) and
preserves one from immorality; but he who
cannot afford It should observe fast for it is
a means of controlling the sexual desire.
(Muslim)
Advantages of Marriage

22. Enjoying
Love Al-Baqarah: 187
Mercy
Security
Advantages of Marriage

23. Benefits of Marriage
for society

24. Preservation of
Human
Race
Benefits of Marriage for society

25. Preservation of
Kinship
Ties
Benefits of Marriage for society

26. Safeguarding Society from
Moral
Degradation
Benefits of Marriage for society

27. Establishing
Family
Environment
Benefits of Marriage for society

28. Increasing number of
MUSLIMS
Benefits of Marriage for society

29. Essentials
For Muslim Marriage

30. Commitment
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

31. Contentment
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

32. Compromise
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

33. Mutual
Caring
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

34. Practice
Communication
Skills
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

35. Excellent
Manners
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

36. Learning to
Empathize
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

37. Being
SINCERE
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

38. LOVE
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

39. Forgiveness
Essentials for Muslim Marriage

40. Spouse
Selection

41. “ Women are married for four qualities, some are
married for wealth, some for the family(lineage)
status, some for beauty and some for the Deen
(piety). Marry a woman for her Deen and you
shall be happy/successful.”
(Bukhari/ Muslim)
Spouse selection

42. “If a man comes to you seeking
marriage, and you are satisfied with his din
and character, marry him- lest a fitnah and
great destruction become rampant on the
earth.”
(Tirmadhi)
Spouse selection

43. And how do you select?
Where
Spouse Selection

44. Pre-Wedding
Islamic Principles

45. To Do‟s
1. Let family check out
for you and priority is
piety.
2. Do Istikhara.
3. See each other
before marriage
Steps to Islamic Principles
Pre-Wedding Islamic Principles

46. To Do‟s
4. Significance of
Kuff
5. To take members
of one`s family to
propose
6. To keep making
dua to Allah to
guide one and to
give one the
correct partner
7. The proposal
should be
submitted to the
Steps to Islamic Principles
Pre-Wedding Islamic Principles
Wali (guardian) of

47. Woman‟s Wali
• „A Marriage Contract is
not valid without a Wali.‟
(Abu Dawood)
• Father, grandfather, son,
brother, Uncle etc.
„For, indeed, it is an adulteress who gives
herself in marriage (without her wali‟s
consent).‟
(Ibn Majah)
Steps to Islamic Principles

48. What one is
NOT ALLOWED
• To date and court the woman before
Nikaah.
• To phone each other.
• To send a proposal to a divorcee/widow
during her iddat.
• To submit a proposal when someone else
has already proposed to the same woman.
Rasulullah (saw) has stopped us from doing
this.
Steps to Islamic Principles

49. Compulsory
Components
Of Nikah
• Presence of Wali
• Ejab O Qabool
• Khutba Nikaah
• Mehr
Steps to Islamic Principles

50. The Prophet‟s
Model
• Hazrat Khadija and • Hazrat Aaisha and
Prophet Mohammad Prophet Mohammad
SAW SAW
– She was 40, he was – Got married at a young age
25 – Examples of love and
– First Muslim to accept affection
Islam – Source of pleasure, joy and
– Devoted and loving comfort to her husband
wife – Vast treasure of Islamic
– Always stood by the knowledge and a teacher
Examples of Some Marriages
Prophet in moments of of scholars and experts

51. Rituals
In Marriage
• Which month?
• How to announce?
• How to enjoy?

52. Poisonous
Elements
GREED
Avoiding Poisonous Elements

53. Poisonous
Elements
Show
Off
Avoiding Poisonous Elements

54. Poisonous
Elements
Excessive
Spending
Avoiding Poisonous Elements

55. Poisonous
Elements
• Adopting
Haraam
customs
Avoiding Poisonous Elements

56. Some Tips

57. Tackleown Wedding
On your
Smart
• How to Simplify?
• How to avoid extravagance
• How to handle photo shoot
session?
• How to handle unexpected free
mixing at wedding?
• How to minimize
extravagance?
Some Tips

58. Save Yourself
• Practice
simplicity
• Provide
support for
Halal to
bride and
groom
• Avoid
extravaganc
e
• Cut out
Haraam
rituals
Some Tips

59. Make Dua
Some Tips

60. Get Married, Not for yourself, but
for the future of your children, they
are getting late for school and the
fee is increasing day by day
Think
Economically
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