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PLAN SHEET FOR SESSIONS


 NO.              TOPIC                                  CONTENTS
                                   INTRODUCTION: SONG: LORD I HOPE THIS DAY
       SELF IMAGE: WHO AM I        ICE BREAKER: TRIPLE ACTION
                                   PLAN ORIENTATION
                                   WORKSHEET: COAT OF ARMS
                                   (Image you would like to have of yourself)
                                   PAPER PUZZLE: ATE GAME
                                   ACTION SONG: LU LA LU
1.     SELF ESTEEM                 ICE BREAKER GAME: JACKS BACK
                                   WORKSHEET: BE ALL YOU CAN
                                   PAPER PUZZLE: NAME THE CITY
                                   ACTION SONG: GRAND OLD DUKE OF YORK
2.     SELF ESTEEM                 ICE BREAKER GAME: APPALLU – UPPALLU
                                   VALUE GAME: AIM THE BUCKET
                                   PAPER PUZZLE: GUESS THE ALPHABETS
                                   ACTION SONG: LA LA LERU
3.     SELF ESTEEM                 ICE BREAKER: PINK PONG
                                   THE EAGLET – SLIDE SHOW: DISCUSSION
                                   TAPE SONG: EAGLE SONG
                                   PAPER PUZZLE: GUESS THE FRUITS AND
                                   VEGETABLES
                                   ACTION SONG: LITTLE PETER RABBIT
4.     SELF ESTEEM:                ICE BREAKER: SPOT GAME,
                                   WORKSHEET: WHICH ADJECTIVES DESCRIBE YOU
                                                  HOW DO YOU FEEL
                                   PAPER PUZZLE: PARTS OF THE BODY
                                   TAPE ACTION SONG: BOOGIE - BOOGIE
5.     SELF APPRECIATION           ICE BREAKER GAME: PING PONG,
                                   VIDEO: GET USED TO ME
                                   DISCUSSION ON FILM
                                   ACTION SONG: FIESTA

6.     SELF APPRECIATION           ICE BREAKER: ROTTEN TOMATO
                                   WORKSHOP: 10 SIGNS OF SELF ACCEPTANCE
                                   PAPER PUZZLE: WAVY FISH
                                   ACTION SONG: PICK A BAIL OF COTTON
7.    SELF APPRECIATION   ICE BREAKER: CLAP COUNT 1,2
      WORTH; ACCEPTANCE   WORKSHEET: PERSONALITY INVENTORY
                          ASK TEN FRIENDS TO WRITE ONE POSITIVE
                          QUALITY & ONE NEGATIVE QUALITY
                          PAPER PUZZLE: HIDDEN COUNTRIES,
                          ACTION SONG: O MY CHI CHI


8.    SELF DISCOVERY      ICE BREAKER: FOLLOW THE LEADER
                          VALUE GAME: HIDDEN VALUES
                          PAPER PUZZLE: WORD JUMBLE
                          ACTION SONG:

9.    SELF DISCOVERY      ICE BREAKER: ABOUT AGES
                          VALUE GAME: PERSONAL VALUE AUCTION
                                      VALUE SCRABBLE
                          PAPER PUZZLE: COMPLETE THE STORY
                          ACTION SONG: I MET A NEGRO

10.   SELF DISCOVERY      ICE BREAKER:
                          VALUE GAME: A CHECK LIST ON VISION OF SELF
                          PAPER PUZZLE: WHAT A NATION
                          ACTION SONG:

11.   SELF DISCOVERY      ICE BREAKER: BIG APPLE SMALL APPLE
                          WORKSHEET: HOW GIFTED YOU ARE
                          PAPER PUZZLE: TRIANGULAR CIRCLE, 1+2=42
                          ACTION SONG:

12.   SELF DISCOVERY      ICE BREAKER: BUNNY RABBIT
                          PAPER PUZZLE: TEAM BOGGLE
                          WORKSHOP: FOOTBALL CRISIS
                          ACTION SONG:

13.   SELF DISCOVERY      ICE BREAKER: FELLOWSHIP GAME
                          VALUE HOUSIE GAME
                          PAPER PUZZLE: FIND THE CITY
                          ACTION SONG:

14.   SELF DISCOVERY      ICE BREAKER: AUTOGRAPH PLEASE
                          VALUE GAME: RESOLVING PERSONAL CONFLICTS
                          PAPER PUZZLE:
                          ACTION SONG:
15.   SELF DISCOVERY   ICE BREAKER: CARD GAME – COMBINATION
                       WORKSHOP: GIVING TREE, VISION OF SELF
                       PAPER PUZZLE:
                       ACTION SONG: HERE WE GO LOO BILU

16.   SELF DISCOVERY   ICE BREAKER: THE WIND CAME AND BLEW
                       WORKSHOP: SELF UNDERSTANDING, KNOW SELF
                       PAPER PUZZLE: LET’S GO ALL OUT
                       ACTION SONG: FATHER ABRAHAM

17.   OTHERS:          ICE BREAKER: DOUBLE BARREL
                       VALUE GAME: ROPE THE CIRCLE
                       FRIENDSHIP QUIZ
                       PAPER PUZZLE
                       ACTION SONG:
18.   OTHERS           ICE BREAKER: GUESS THE PROVERB
                       VALUE GAME: SOCIAL VALUE AUCTION
                       PAPER PUZZLE
                       ACTION SONG: GRAND OLD DUKE OF YORK

19.   OTHERS           ICE BREAKER
                       MOVIE: LOOSER TAKE IT ALL
                       DISCUSSION ON THE MOVIE
                       PAPER PUZZLE
                       ACTION SONG:

20.   OTHERS           ICE BREAKER: COMPREHSIVE TESTING
                       VALUE GAME: WIN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN
                       PAPER PUZZLE: ANT GAME
                       ACTION SONG: TAPE: PUT YOUR RIGHT HAND
21.   OTHERS           ICE BREAKER: S.T. COUNT
                       VALUE GAME: BROKEN SQUARES
                       PAPER PUZZLE
                       ACTION SONG:

22.   LIFE OF VALUES   ICE BREAKER: KACHA PAPAD
                       PAPER PUZZLE
                       ACTION SONG:
                       DEBATE: PARENT – YOUTH RELATIONSHIP
MY COAT OF ARMS

                       Life      Things I like
                                 about myself




                                       I have one year to live.
 Three words that describe who         What am I going to do?
I am?




         Favourite                       My biggest
                                         success




           Three values I          One negative quality
           cherish most
BE ALL YOU CAN BE!
       Our success in every aspect of our life - studies, jobs, sports, friendship, love. - is
strongly determined by our own self-image. People who have confidence in their
personal worth seem to be magnets for success and happiness. To use the imagery of
the English poet William Blake, they “catch joy on the wing."

       Can we change our self-image?

YES! Anyone can change his/her self-perception. A person with low self-image is not
doomed to a life of unhappiness and failure. It is possible to get rid of negative attitudes
and gain the confidence needed to realize one's dreams.



      SIX
     STEPS                   TO BOOST YOUR SELF-CONCEPT




     FIRST
     STEP          FOCUS ON YOUR POTENTIAL: NOT YOUR LIMITATIONS

       Remember you have enough strengths, good qualities and talents to live a
       happy, fulfilled life.

               MY TALENTS                            MY QUALITIES OF THE HEART
                                                             AND MIND

1.                                              1.
2.                                              2.
3.                                              3.
4.                                              4.
5.                                              5.
6.                                              6.
7.                                              7.
8.                                              8.
SECOND
      STEP
                  DEVOTE YOURSELF TO SOMETHING YOU DO WELL


         Usually the problem lies not in discovering our natural aptitude but in developing
         that skill. Often it is not raw talent but the drive that makes the difference.



                                                  ………………….

List 3 things you can do
Very well and rank them.                          ………………….


                                                  ………………….


      THIRD
       STEP                 SEE YOURSELF AS SUCCESSFUL



       One effective exercise for building self-confidence is called "imagining” or
"visualizing." In order to succeed you must See Yourself succeeding,



1.
                                            List 3 areas in which you can
                                           visualize yourself as successful
2.                                         (i.e. professions, achievements..)



3.
FOURTH
       STEP

                    BREAK AWAY FROM OTHER PEOPLE'S EXPECTATIONS

It is a liberating step when we decide to stop being what other people (parents,
teachers, relatives, friends) want us to be. Struggling to live up to other's expectations
can have the most crippling effect on us.
                                          1.


List 3 expectations other                 2.
people have of you:
                                          3.




     FIFTH                    HAVE BIG DREAMS
     STEP




Think BIG! Dream many dreams and dream them BIG. Those who have many dreams
will at least make some of them come true.” If the Lord hadn't wanted us to reach for the
stars, He wouldn't have blessed us with the power to dream,'' - Hadin Marshall

1.
                                         List three of your biggest dreams
                                         for yourself (what you want
2.                                       to be; what you want to do, to achieve etc.)

3.
SIXTH             BUILD A NETWORK OF SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
  STEP




Good friends can help you very much to enhance and "build up” your self-image.




                         Name People in Your Life Who Will
                         Stand By You and Support You
THE STORY OF THE EAGLE

         Once upon a time, while walking through the forest, a certain man found a young eagle; he took it
home and put it in his barnyard where it soon learned to eat chicken feed and to behave as chickens
behave.One day a naturalist, who was passing by, inquired of the owner why it was that the eagle, the
king of the birds, should be confined to live in a barnyard with chickens.“Since I have given it chicken feed
and trained it to live as a chicken, it has never learned to fly”, replied the owner. “It behaves as chickens
behave, so it is no longer an eagle.”
         “Still”, insisted the naturalist, “it has the heart of an eagle and can surely be taught to fly”.
After talking it over, the two men agreed to find out whether this was possible. Gently the naturalist took
the eagle in his arms and said, “You belong to the sky, not to the earth. Stretch forth your wings and fly;”
         The eagle however was confused, he did not know who he was, and seeing the chickens eating
their food, he jumped down to be with them again.
         Undismayed, the naturalist took the eagle next day up on the roof of the house, and urged him
again saying: “You are an eagle, stretch forth your wings and fly:” But the eagle was afraid of his unknown
self and the world, and jumped down once more for the chicken feed.
         On the third day, the naturalist rose early and took the eagle out of the barnyard, up to a high
mountain. There he held the king of the birds high above him and encouraged him again, saying: “You
are an eagle, stretch forth your wings and fly:”
         The eagle looked around, back towards the barnyard and up to the sky. Then the naturalist lifted
him straight towards the sun, and it happened that the eagle began to tremble. Slowly he stretched out his
wings. At last with a triumphant cry, he soared away into the heavens.
         It may be that the eagle still remembers the chickens with nostalgia; it may even be that he
occasionally revisits the barnyard. But as far as anyone knows, he has never returned to lead the life of a
chicken.

QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSSION
1. What is it that struck you the most in the story?
2. Can you see likeness to yourself with the eagles? Why?
3. In what areas of your life are you struggling to be free?
4. What are you doing to bring about freedom?
5. In what area (areas) of your life have you experienced freedom? (What are the factors, such as
   persons, circumstances, events, etc. that are responsible for it)
6. What is the point of the last paragraph?
7. What is the necessary condition for person (including you) to obtain true freedom?
8. “You must be where you belong “what do these words mean? What reactions and sentiments do they
   evoke in you?

                    EAGLE’S SONG
I'd like to tell the story about an eagle
Who chained so long to stick upon the ground?
Day by day he struggled round in circles.
Till wandered up to walking round and round.
When his master finally choose to give him freedom
He took off the metal ring that kept him bound
And tossed him high to spread his wings to fly
But the bird just flipped flopped right back to the ground.
CH.       No more chains no more bird hand
          But he will ride back to his right again
          Began the same old strut again
          Just the same old habit kept him bound.
2.        So many people today are like that eagle
          Who knows the truth could loose them from their chains.
          When freedom calls them all to a new horizon.
          They jump right back to their rut again. CH.
3.        Well it’s better to fly into the sky of freedom
          To break free from the old and sail on to the new
          So don't forget the sad story of the eagle
          Don't ever let, the same thing happen to you. CH.
WHICH ADJECTIVES DESCRIBE YOU?
1. Warm                 2. Sincere         3. Angry             4. Devout

5. Cold                 6.Reliable         7. Attentive          8.Judgemental

9. Possessive          10. Genuine        11. Caring          12. Frightened

13. Manipulative       14. Respectful     15. Clear in expression

16. Gossiping          17. Prayerful      18. Understanding 19. Comfortable with

20. Harsh              21. Relates well   22. Ready to spend time for people

23. Revengeful          24. Forgiving     25. Spontaneous

26. Ready to accept criticism             27. Open

28. Respects others point of view         29. Hard to approach

30.Keeps confidences                      31. Attached to own opinion

32. Perceived as a loving person          33.Easy to approach

34. Well coming                           35. Condemns people for mistakes.
HOW DO YOU FEEL?
Answer the following question with a complete sentence that best expresses how
you feel about it.

   1. Do you feel any tension due to “ interpersonal relationship “ within
      your family with
          (i)  Parents (ii) Brothers or Sisters.
   2. Do you feel under pressure at school due to relationship with
   3. i) Friends (ii) Teachers?
   4. Do you feel there is
          (i)  over expectation or
          (ii) Under expectation from you by your parents with regard to
               your studies?
   5. Do you like being told how to handle your studies by your family
      members?
   6. Do you like to get the same things as your friends at school; do your
      parents generally provide it?
   7. Do you feel under pressure from your friends at school to be just like
      they are?
   8. Do you think you are well accepted or isolated by your classmates?
   9. Are your teachers listening to you?
   10.Do your parents talk with you whenever you feel like?
   11.Does examination pose a fear for you?
   12.Would you like more time for play or hobbies?
   13.Would you like to change your recent friends?
   14.Do you like being all by yourself sometimes or all the time?
   15.What would you like to do in your holidays?
   16.What kind of a class teacher would you like to have next year?
   17.Who would you like to have for your best friends?
   18.Do you know what you really would like to be?
   19.Do you frame your timetable for studies and games?
   20.Who is your best relative?
   21.From whom would you like more attention?
GET USED TO ME
Curriculum Areas: Guidance / Values

Value Orientation: Self-affirmation springs from an appreciation of one’s personal
worth and dignity.

STORY ORIENTATION:

       A story of a shy, plain - looking girl’s struggle to accept herself and affirm her own
worth. Super sensitive Kay is excluded from class games and laughed at for liking her
father’s work, which is collecting garbage. She faces a very difficult dilemma: Whether
to assert herself as she is, or change her personality to fit other people’s expectations.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:                     (After Viewing)

1.     Early in the film Kay tells her father that she doesn’t have a lot of friends. Why do
       you think this might be so? What kind of a girl would you describe her as being?
2.     In the first playground scene Kay walks alone. What do you think she was
       feeling? How do you think the other kids felt?
3.     Describe the classroom scene. What might Kay have been feeling then? What
       were the other kids thinking and feeling? What would you have done?
4.     When Kay visits the garbage dump with her Father and Andy, what might have
       been foremost in her mind? What tells you that? What does her father say about
       his attitude towards his work?
5.     Kay tells her father that the kids laughed at her, at him, and at Andy. Do you think
       they really did that? Why or why not? How do you think they really did that? Why
       or why not? Why do you think that kids sometimes laugh at others? How do you
       think the child who is being laughed at feels?
6.     When Kay comes to the playground the second time, she enters the dodge ball
       game, what, do you think, makes her do that? What kinds of feelings do you think
       she might be experiencing as she takes her place at the wall?
TEN SIGNS OF
      SELF – ACCEPTANCE

1. Self – accepting people are happy people.
2. Self – accepting people go out of their way.
3. Self – accepting people are always open to
   being loved and complimented.
4. Self – accepting people are empowered to be their “ real"
   selves.
5. Self – accepting people accept themselves
   as they are right now.
6. Self – accepting people are able to laugh at
   themselves, often and easily.
7. Self – accepting people have the ability to
   recognize and attend to their own needs.
8. Self     –    accepting      people    are    self     –
   determining people.
9. Self – accepting people are in good contact
   with reality.
10. Self – accepting people are assertive.
PERSONALITY INVENTORY
Below are listed eleven different situations and areas, which confront
all of another or us at one time. The way we reach in these situations
can give us a very general idea of what kind of temperament we
possess.

NOTE:      You will not be asked to share your result with anyone.
           This is simply intended to help you understand yourself.
           Just circle the number that best reflects the way you would normally
           respond in the situation.

A.   There is going to be a play in school. Would you rather:
     1.    Different the play.
     2.    Take the lead role in the play.
     3.    Work the lights backstage.
     4.    Sit in the audience.

B.   At a party do you:
     1.     Like to make sure things go well.
     2.     Like to talk and be friendly with everyone.
     3.     Feel a little afraid to mix unless you know someone well.
     4.     Prefer to listen, relax and enjoy the food.

C.   When you have been hurt by someone are you:
     1.   Very angry and want to get revenge.
     2.   Able to forget it quite quickly though at first you were down in the dumps.
     3.   Hurt and want to hide.
     4.   Not bothered very much.

D.   When you make a mistake in class are you:
     1.   Angry that you could do such a thing.
     2.   Able to laugh at yourself.
     3.   Embarrassed and confused.
     4.   Couldn’t care either way.

E.   When you are buying clothes do you look for:
     1.   Unique clothes.
     2.   Flashy colours.
     3.   Sedate colour clothes.
     4.   What everyone else is wearing?




F.   What do you enjoy most:
     1.    Getting out and doing something.
2.     Visiting with friends.
     3.     Sitting by the water watching the sunrise.
     4.     Watching T.V.

G.   Your typical reaction to work is:
     1.     Let’s get going, we’ll finish tonight even if we have to stay at it all night.
     2.     Let’s sit down and discuss this project a while, by way of a joke.
     3.     I want some more time to think so I can plan it carefully.
     4.     I think I’ll take a nap and start it later.

H.   Your typical statement in reaction to an insult is:
     1.     I don’t really care what you think of me because I don’t need you anyway.
     2.     I just want to get away from here. I feel I could cry.
     3.     No response. Just thought that I’ll get even someday.
     4.     No sense getting excited about it.

I.   Your typical statement in reaction to a compliment:
     1.     Don’t get so sentimental.
     2.     Do you really mean it? Tell me again.
     3.     No response. Just a blush and a deep sense of satisfaction.
     4.     Thank you. I appreciate that.

J.   Your typical statement in reaction to a problem is:
     1.     I enjoy a good challenge. Let’s get going.
     2.     Now that’s a real problem. It reminds me of a funny story.
     3.     I’ll need more time to think about it.
     4.     Think I’ll take a nap. May be it will be gone when I get up.

K.   Your typical statement in reaction to yourself:
     1.     If something must be done, I think I can handle it.
     2.     I wonder if people really like me; I sure hope so.
     3.     I’m not so sure. But I think about it a lot.
     4.     I’m hungry. Other than that I’m okay.
HIDDEN VALUE PUZZLE
1.    Below is a list of twenty values commonly cherished by young people.
      Choose ten values from these, which you consider most important to you
      by ticking them off.

      Freedom                          Knowledge                     Friendship
      Responsibility                   Money                         Duty
      Security                         Beauty                        Prayer
      Equality                         Pleasure                      Purity
      Happiness                        Love
      Salvation                        Punctuality
      Peace                            Popularity
      Comfort                          Power

1. A. Write down the 10 values you have chosen in the space below:

        ....................                   .....................
      ....................                     .....................
      ....................                     .....................
      ....................                     .....................
      ....................                     .....................

2.    In the grid below are hidden the names of all the 20 values in the list.
      They are set in all the 8 directions of the square, but are in continuation and in
      straight lines. Find your chosen 10 values in the grid by drawing rectangles
      around the values in the grid itself. Any letter has been used any number of
      times.


 A   B      F     A     M    P     L      E     A    S     U     R     E     F     N
 C   P      I     H     S    D     N      E     I    R     F     A     M     R     O
 O   U      U     Y     T    I     L      A     U    Q     E     D     E     E     I
 M   N      H     G     O    O     M      L     O    C     U     W     N     E     T
 N   C      W     A     E    G     F      M     A    T     O     O     C     D     A
 O   T      Y     N     P    U     M      E     Y    P     O     M     O     O     V
 R   U      V     T     D    P     P      T     A    N     A     P     M     M     L
 T   A      S     M     I    E     I      B     E    A     U     Q     F     A     A
 Y   L      M     A     F    R     A      N     L    O     V     G     O     T     S
 T   I      O     R     U    G     A      P     E    Y     T     I     R     U     P
 U   T      N     C     H    I     M      L     O    S     E     E     T     M     R
 A   Y      E     A     J    N     O      L     U    S     S     R     Y     S     A
 E   S      Y     P     K    V     O      O     R    P     U     R     I     T     Y
 B   O      L     M     E    G     D      E     L    W     O     N     K     O     E
 D   Y      T     I     L    I     B      I     S    N     O     P     S     E     R
2. A.           Rank the 10 values you have identified in the grid in                 the
                space below:
         Go through them carefully and rank them in the order of preference to    you by
         numbering them 1 to 10 where 1= the value that is most important to you, 2 = the
         value that is next most important and so on till 10 = the
         least important, relatively.

         1.     ....................              6.    .....................
         2.     ....................              7.    .....................
         3.     ....................              8.    .....................
         4.     ....................              9.    .....................
         5.     ....................              10.   .....................

3.       Small Group interaction:

              In your small group go through the following steps:

         * Share the 10 values you have chosen and the position of these 10          values
         in the grid.
         * Share and discuss your ranking of the 10 chosen values, giving your reasons
         for your choices and priorities.
         * As a group locate all the 20 values on the grid, finding all those that have not
         been located.

4.       General Group Sharing on each Phase:

5.       Conclusion:

         At the end of the exercise, fill in the following after a few moments of quiet
               reflection:


     What I learnt from this exercise:




     My decision for change and growth:




                           VALUE SCRAMBLE
1.       YTQALEUI
2.    EEODRFM
3.    SHSPIPENA
4.    PFREDSNIHI
5.    EEPCA
6.    SOENENPS
7.    VSECRIE
8.    YTNOPIBLRSIESI
9.    UEORCAG
10.   ELVO
11.   SFGOVIRNSEE
12.   TYPNCUTIALU
13.   ERAPYR
14.   SNHYTOE
15.   EMYON
16.   UTBEYA
17.   UOPRPYILAT
18.   WREOP
19.   CNIFFECYEI
20.   EKWGLDOEN
21.   OSLAIANTV
22.   CCSUSES
23.   UTYRPI
24.   SESDROERILN
25.   OYLYLAT
1. Go into your small groups of 5 members and sit around a table. Elect a
     secretary who will number a blank sheet of paper 1 to 25. When you have
     received the pack of scrambled values cards and the signal to begin the game,
     turn the pack over and spread the cards out in the middle and try to figure out the
     values scrambled on the cards. When you identify the value on a card, tell the
     secretary the number and the answer and he / she records it on the numbered
     sheet.



                       YTQALEUI                                            2.      Go through carefully the list of
                                                                                   25 values and select 7 that
                                                                                   you consider most important to
     you and list them below.

     Equality                                          Forgiveness                                        Efficiency
     Freedom                                           Punctuality                                        Knowledge
     Happiness                                         Prayer                                             Salvation
     Friendship                                        Honesty                                            Success
     Peacefulness                                      Money                                              Purity
     Service                                           Beauty                                             Orderliness
     Responsibility                                    Popularity                                         Loyalty
     Courage                                           Power
     Love

                              MY 7 MOST IMPORTANT VALUES
               ...................                                    ....................

               ...................                                    ....................

               ...................                                    ....................

               ...................

3.   Rank these 7 values in the order of importance to you by numbering them 1 to 7
     where 1 = most important value and 7 = least important value.
     Write down the reasons for choosing your first three values:

     1.        ...................                                    2.        ....................

     3.        ...................                                    4.        ....................

     5.        ...................                                    6.        ....................

     7.         ...................
                My         first      value          is       .........................................................................
     because...................................................................................................................
     .................................................................................................................................
     .................................................................................................................................
     .................................................
My           Second               value            is         ....................................................................
     because...................................................................................................................
     .................................................................................................................................
     .................................................................................................................................
     ....................................................


     My            third            value            is          ......................................................................
     because...................................................................................................................
     .................................................................................................................................
     .................................................................................................................................
     ...................................................

4.   Small Group Interaction:
     Go back to your small groups, share and discuss with your group members the 7
     priority values you have chosen and the reasons for your first three choices.

5.   General Group Sharing on each Phase:

6.   Conclusion
     At the end of the session, fill in the following after taking time for reflection:


          What I learnt from this exercise:




          My decision for change and growth:




        PERSONAL VALUE AUCTION SALE
     Purpose: Self-realization, value system.

     Objective: To understand one’s priorities of values.
Materials required: Personal values worksheet, pen.

      Time limit: 45 minutes.

      Procedure:


MY PERSONAL VALUES
Read carefully through the following list of values. Choose 3 of these values, which you
feel, are most important to you and which you most desire. If you are given Rs. 300/-
and you are to buy these values at an auction sale, how much would you spend on
each of them? Note the amount against the three values you have chosen.



_____ 1. To be Honest, Sincere and Truthful.
_____ 2. To be filled with the spirit of Generosity and Availability.
_____ 3. To always be Obedient to my elders and superiors.
_____ 4. To be Cheerful constantly no matter how tough the going is.
_____ 5. To be Peace - Loving and work to build a Community of Peace.
_____ 6. To be Hard - Working and constantly faithful to my duties.
_____ 7. To be Loving and Friendly to all people at all times.
_____ 8. To be Intelligent and have the ability to grasp all things.
_____ 9. To always be Helpful to people in times of difficulty.
_____ 10. To be Courageous and Bold in the face of trials.
A CHECK ON YOUR VISION OF SELF
Direction: Each of the statements given below can be rated with the words NEVER,
SOMETIMES, FREQUENTLY OR ALWAYS.
Make your choice, and then write in the number that corresponds to the choice. When
you have finished, total up your answers.

NEVER =1       SOMETIMES =2            FREQUENTLY =3 ALWAYS. =4

1.  When my feelings are hurt, I express it -------------------------------- _________
2.  Others value my opinions -------------------------------------------------- _________
3.  I feel intellectually capable ------------------------------------------------ _________
4.  I feel worthy of the gifts that have been offered to me ------------- _________
5.  I am satisfied with my personal development up to now ----------- _________
6.  I consider comparing myself with other people (to see
     who rates higher) to be a waste of time ------------------------------ _________
7. I enjoy meeting and talking with new people ------------------------ _________
8. I feel comfortable at social gatherings -------------------------------- _________
9. I am happy to be me and wouldn’t want to be anyone else ----- _________
10. I like my present life situation ------------------------------------------- _________
11. I am happy with the way I live my life --------------------------------- _________
12. I like my present place of residence ----------------------------------- _________
13. I enjoy my work ------------------------------------------------------------- _________
14. People admire me ---------------------------------------------------------- _________
15. I am considerate of others ----------------------------------------------- _________
16. I enjoy getting up in the morning --------------------------------------- _________
17. I am self reliant ------------------------------------------------------------- _________
18. I make a positive contributions to the lives of others ---------                 _________
19. I enjoy attending to my own needs in eating, exercise, and
    general care of myself ---------------------------------------------------- _________
20. I try to make sure I lead a balanced life enough rest work, play _________
21. I enjoy my time alone ------------------------------------------------------ _________
22. I like myself ------------------------------------------------------------------ _________
23. I value myself ---------------------------------------------------------------- ________
24. I see myself as a good-looking person -------------------------------- _________
25. I see myself as attractive to the opposite sex. ----------------------- _________
26. I think of myself as a loving person ------------------------------------ _________
27. I think myself as a sharing person ------------------------------------- _________
28. I think myself as a confident person ---------------------------------- _________
29. I think my self as a successful person --------------------------                ------ _________

(Min, = 30, Max = 120)

30 = 40 = Inadequate self-esteem – low
41 = 80 = Fairly adequate       _ average
81 = 120 = Quite healthy - high
HOW GIFTED ARE YOU?
This set of questions will help you discover how gifted you/ your child
/ son / daughter / student is. It will help you capitalize on his/her
strength rather than infuriate him/her with ones weaknesses. How
gifted are you? What is the quality of your intellectual capabilities?

Answer true or false:

1.  ______________: You are a wizard at memorizing poetry and TV adv.
2.  ______________: You notice when others are sad or happy.
3.  ______________: You often ask deep questions like: “When did time begin?”
4.  ______________: You seldom get lost.
5.  ______________: You are extremely graceful.
6.  ______________: You sing a key.
7.  ______________: You often ask questions about how thunder and lightning work,
                    What makes it rain and so on?
8. ______________: You easily sit down to solve crossword puzzles.
9. ______________: You can tie your shoelace standing with a confident sense of
                     balance.
10. ______________: You enjoy acting out roles, writing plays and imitating
                    people’s behaviour.
11. ______________: On trips you remember landmarks and point them out
                    saying “This was where we were.”
12. ______________: You listen to different musical instruments and can
                    easily recognize them by the sound they make.
13. ______________: You draw maps well and depict objects clearly.
14. ______________: You mimic physical movements and expressions.
15. ______________: You like to sort toys, things out into groups, according to size and
                    colour, in patterns of all kind, appeal, and fact.
16. ______________: You can connect actions with fooling e.g. you say, “I did
                     it because I was mad.”
17. ______________: You like to tell stories and tell them well.
18. ______________: You comment on different sounds.
19. ______________: When you are introduced to a new friend, you say: “She
                     reminds me of so and so.”
20. ______________: You are accurate in judging what you can do and what you can’t.




         THE FOOTBALL GAME CRISIS
FACT SHEET

       Mr. Marshall, a senior maths teacher, gave his students of IX std. their
monthly test. The test covered most of the material to date since Mr. Marshall
was dissatisfied with the class performance. Mr. Marshall caught Robert and
James, two borderline students, cheating in the exam. He gave them each a
failing grade which made them scholastically ineligible to play football. Robert
played, as goalkeeper for two years and James was a star center forward of the
team. The inter- school football shield had been won by the school consecutively
for the last two years and will be the school’s permanent heritage if it emerges
champion this year as well.

      Robert and James went to meet Mr. Marshall. They told him that the game,
they had to play on Saturday was crucial towards winning the championship and
asked him not to have them dropped from the team. Mr. Marshall how ever told
them that honesty and a good education were more important than sports. He
refused to change his decision. Coach Martin was informed that Robert and
James had just become scholastically ineligible to play football. Following the
school policy, the coach sent a memo to Robert and James telling them that they
would not be able to play in Saturday’s game.

       About one third of the students held a protest rally outside Mr. Marshall’s
office. Team members, angered over the action, met secretly to plan a course of
action.

       You are members of a particular group of the school - The Basketball team,
The Sports Club, The Classmates of James and Robert, The Football team, or the
Staff of the School. With the Fact Sheet and the Additional Details available, you
are to make a STATEMENT giving adequate reasons.

Remember, the students of the school are watching to see how this difficulty is
resolved:

(1)   If Robert and James are ‘let off ’ it is likely to encourage some more
      students to follow their example.
(2)   If a strong stand is taken, there is bound to be a violent demonstration by
      some of the students, especially the football fans who are keen on winning
      the trophy for the third consecutive year.
(3)   Are there any other options possible?
VALUE HOUSIE GAME
      Purpose: Knowing the other, priority of values, leadership, teachers’ training,
      Catechist training, building up value system.

      Objective: To aim for a proper value system in one’s life.

      Materials required: Housie game worksheet, paper, and pen.

      Time limit: 60 minutes

      Procedure:


 1.   THE PLAYING OF THE HOUSIE GAME




   LOVE               JOY              PEACE            PATIENCE          FAITHFULNESS



                                                                               SELF
 KINDNESS        GOODNESS            HUMILITY         LEADERSHIP             CONTROL


 SPEECH            SERVICE                           ENCOURAGING             TEACHING
                                                       OTHERS



SOCIABILITY        HONESTY             CLEAR            OPTIMISM                GOD
                                       GOALS                                  FEARING


  GOOD             SELF
 EXAMPLE        CONFIDENCE           RESPECT             JUSTICE            DYNAMISM
2. A. CHOOSE ANY TEN VALUES FROM THE ABOVE GAME CARD
2. B. RANK THE VALUES ACCORDING TO YOUR PRIORITY


             VALUES                           RANKING                           VALUES                             RANKING




3.       GIVE REASONS FOR THE FIRST THREE VALUES ONLY

1. My first value is.............................................              because...........................……..
         ....................................................................................................................
         ....................................................................................................................
2. My second value is...........................................               because...........................………..
             ....................................................................................................................
             ....................................................................................................................
3. My third value is. ………………………….                                             because...........................………...

                ...................................................................................................................

4.       SMALL GROUP SHARING
         Go into your small groups and take turns to share and discuss the
         10 priority values you have chosen your ranking and the reasons
         For your first 3 choices.

5.       GENERAL GROUP INTERACTION
         After the small group meeting, we flash back on the whole session step by step
         and evaluate the dynamics that we have gone through at various stages.

6.       CONCLUSION
         After a few moments of quiet reflection, fill in the following:


           1.      What I’ve learnt from this exercise?

           2.       My decision for change in growth.

           COLLEGE
WIN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN
Tally Sheet

D i r e c t i o n: For top successive rounds you and your partners
                       will choose either an “ x “ or a “ y “ .The pay-off
                       for each round is dependent upon the pattern of
                       choices made in your cluster:


4 X‘s.......... Loss Rs. 100/ - each.

3 X‘s.......... Win    Rs. 100/- each.
1 Y ...........        Loss Rs. 200/- each.

2 X‘s.......... Win Rs. 200/- each.
2 Y‘s.......... Loss Rs. 200/- each.

1X      ..........    Win Rs. 300/- each.
3 Y‘s........... Loss Rs. 100/- each.

4 Y‘s........... Win   Rs. 100/- each.

S t r a t e g y: You are to confer with your group partners during each round and
make a JOINT DECISION. Before round no.5, 8 and 10, you confer in your cluster.


Round      Time              Confer      Choice      Won       Lost          Score
          Allowed             with                   Rs         Rs

1        2 mins         Gp. partners

2        1 mins         do

3        1 mins         do

4        1 mins         do

5        3mins          reps from                                       Bonus round
                        other groups                                    pay        - off
         1mins          Gp. partners                                    multiplied
                                                                        by 3

6        1     mins     Gp. partners

7        1     mins     do
8    3   mins   Reps           pay - off multiplied
     1   mins   Gp. partners   by 5

9    1   mins   Gp. partners

10   3   mins   Reps           pay        -      off
     2   mins   Gp. partners   multiplied
                               by 10
SR.NO.   TEAM A   TEAM B   TEAM C   TEAM D
1.C
  A

2.C
  A

3.C
  A

4.C
  A

5.C
  A

6.C
  A

7.C
  A

8.C
  A

9.C
  A

10.C
   A
TOTAL
BROKEN SQUARES GAME
+      Each team of 5 members.
+      As many teams as possible, depending on the square packets
       you have ready.
+      These 5 squares are mixed in 5 different envelopes.
*      Squares of different colours can be made not necessary of the same colour.
RULES
(1)    Silence.
(2)    No communication, No pointing.
(3)    Form a Square (task).
(4)    You can give -- not in common but to the individual who requires.
(5)    Cannot ask. Can give but not take
(6)    All the squares are of the same size.
       For Umpire or Referee (his duty).
       Observers -- observe for sometime.
       Recorders -- record what’s going on.
       Enforcers -- enforce.
INSTRUCTIONS TO THE OBSERVER / JUDGE: Your job is part
observer and part judge. Make sure each participant observes the rules:

1.     No talking, pointing, or any other kind of communing among
       The five people in your group.
2      Participants may give pieces to other participants but may not
       take pieces from other members.
3      Participants may not simply throw their pieces into the center
       for others to take, they have to give the pieces directly to one
       individual.
4      It is permissible for a member to give away all the pieces to
       his puzzle, even if he has already formed a square.
DO YOUR BEST TO STRICTLY ENFORCE THESE RULES:
As an observer you may want to look for some of the following:
1     Who is willing to give away pieces of the puzzle?
2     Did anyone finish his puzzle and then somewhat divorces himself from the
      struggles to the rest of the group?
3     Is there anyone who continually struggles with his pieces but yet is unwilling to
      give any or all of them away?
4.    How many people are actively engaged in mentally putting the pieces together?
5     Periodically check the level of frustration and anxiety - who’s pulling his hair out?
6.    Was there any critical turning point at which time the group began to cooperate?
7     Did anyone try to violate the rules by talking or pointing as a means of helping
      fellow member solve their puzzle?
VALUE AUCTION SALE
(Animators sheet)

STEP 1.

-- Distribute the worksheet to each individual.
-- Ask them to write 3 best values they like according to rank.
-- Then divide the whole class into 4 groups.
-- Give a name to each group.
-- Ask the teams to select their own captain / leader.
-- Give each group a worksheet.
-- Now according to their groups ask them to choose 3 values according to rank.
-- Ask the captain to write the team name on the worksheet.
-- Collect the group worksheet from the respective 4 teams.
-- The worksheets have to be submitted by the animator.


STEP 2.

+ The animator distributes money worth Rs. 300 /- to the captain of each team.
+ Then the rules of the Auction Sale are explained by the animator.
       1. Only the captain does the bidding.
       2. Bidding has to start with Rs.10 only and then continue with may be Rs. 20, 50
etc.
+ How is the value won: The Animator starts auctioning the value one by one.
       (He starts saying any one for the value eg. HONESTY.
       “It’s an important value in life, all must and should live by it.”
       Anyone for 10, come on, Hai, Hai there’s 20, anyone for 30, nobody OK. 30, 1.
       30, 2... and 30, 3. There it goes the value of honesty to team A...)
+ The money is collected from the team that bought the value and the value Card is
given to them.
+ Meanwhile the animator draws the following chart on the blackboard.
+ Continue the auctioning till the 9th round.
+ After the 9th round is over request the teams to be free to give money to.        the
other teams if they would like to do so.
+ Wait for 2 minutes or so.
+ Then begin the auctioning for the last round.
+ In all there are ten values to be sold and hence ten biddings.
VALUE                 AUCTION                        SALE
RANK NO.                   VALUES
_____ 1. To be Honest, Sincere and Truthful.
_____ 2.      To be filled with the spirit of Generosity and Availability.
_____ 3.      To be always Obedient to my elders and superiors.
_____ 4.      To be Cheerful constantly no matter how tough the going is.
_____ 5.      To be Peace - Loving and work to build a Community of
                      Peace.
_____ 6.      To be Hard - Working and constantly faithful to
              my duties.
_____ 7.      To be Loving and Friendly to all people at all times.
_____ 8.      To be Intelligent and have the ability to grasp all things.
_____ 9.      To be always Helpful to people in times of difficulty.
_____ 10.     To be Courageous and Bold in the face of trials.

SCORE TABLE - WINNER IN THE WORLD
Values bought and amount paid to be written hear:

NO              TEAMS                  VALUE TAKEN                 AMOUNT    PAYED

         A       B      C     D                                A       B     C   D
 1.
 2.
 3.
 4.
 5.
 6.
 7.
 8.
 9.
10.
Total


             PLUS POINTS                              MINUS POINTS
+ 50    Team that took the first value      - 50 Team that has not taken the 1st
+ 30    Team that took the second value     value
+ 20    Team that took the third value      - 30 Team that has not taken the 2nd
+ Rs    Given by the team to another team   value
        Gets a Bonus of that amount         - 20 Team that has not taken the 3rd
                                            value
                                            - 10 Team that took unnecessary values
                                            - Rs The amount remaining with the
                                            team
SCORE TABLE           - WINNER   FOR LIFE
The Plus & Minus points to be written on the blackboard with the following table:

 TEAM        VALUES                 VALUES           AMOUNT             TOTAL
             CHOSEN                  TAKEN       + VE       -VE

    A

    B

   C

    D

Values are what we are!
PERSONS ARE GIFTS
Persons are gifts which the Creator God sends to us ... wrapped.

Some come wrapped very beautifully, some in very ordinary wrapping paper.
Some persons are very loosely wrapped, others very tightly.
Sometimes the gift has been mishandled in the mail.
     Once in a while there is a special delivery!

But the wrapping is not the gift!
       It is so easy to make that mistake;
       It’s amusing when babies do.

Some person-gifts are very easy to open up;
     Others need to be helped out of their boxes.
     Is it because they are afraid?
     Do they think it might hurt to be opened?
     Maybe they have been opened up before and thrown away!
     Could it be that their gift is not for me?

I am a person. Therefore, I am a gift, too!
       A gift to myself, first of all,
       God my Creator gave myself to me!
Have I ever really looked inside the wrapping?
       Am I afraid to?
       Perhaps I’ve never accepted the gift that I am.
Could it be that there is something else inside the wrappings than what I think is there?
Maybe I’ve never seen the wonderful gift that I am.
       Could God’s gift be anything but beautiful?
       I love the gifts, which those who love me give to me.
       Why not the gift of me?

And I am a gift to other persons.
       Am I willing to given to others?
       To be a person for others?
       Do others have to be content with the wrapping?
       Never permitted to enjoy the gift?

Every meeting of persons is an exchange of gifts.

Love is a relationship between persons
       who see themselves as they really are:
       Gifts given by God to be given to others.

      Author unknown.
PERSON-GIFTS I HAVE




    MY TALENTS
THE WRAPPING AND THE GIFT
       “Each one of you has received a special grace, so, like good stewards
responsible for all these different graces of God, put yourselves at the service of others”
(1 Peter 4:10)




THE OUTSIDE WRAPPING
                                                 THE INSIDE GIFT
         Check the phrases that fit:
         Wrapped very beautifully
         Lots of bows and frills                        Check the phrases that fit:
         Brown paper and string                         Afraid to look
         Simple, classic beauty                         Easily damaged
         Mishandled in the mail                         A special gift from God
         Weather damaged                                Packed with care
         Stamped “Special Delivery”                     Need help getting opened
         Stamped “Fragile”                              Willing to be shared
                                                        Rattles around, but can’t
                                                        get out
                                                        Has changed much
                                                        Changing all the time
                                                        Has been opened before and
                                                        thrown away
                                                        Rare treasure ... one of a kind

HOW AM I WRAPPED



1.....     2....    3....   4..... 5.... 6..... 7..... 8..... 9.....          10

Tightly wrapped.                                                             Open


Use the scale above to indicate how closed or open you are in your relationships.

THE WRAPPING IS NOT THE GIFT
       Some people come in packages that are “different” in some way – damaged, or
out of shape, or strange looking, or just worn out. It takes a special kind of awareness
and sensitivity to discover the real person inside such special wrappings. Sometimes we
act as if the handicap is more important than the person who has it. We never give
ourselves a chance to discover the beautiful person inside the different wrapping.


      Check the boxes on the left to show how well you know persons with each
handicap listed below.
                  FriendClose


                                intanceAcqua-
 Members Family




                                                Deaf

                                                Blind

                                                Physically challenged

                                                Mentally challenged

                                                Senile

                                                Badly scared

                                                Obese

                                                Chronically ill

                                                “Strange”

                                                Other
GIFTS I WISH FOR




I WILL BE A GIFT TO ........... BY



WITH LOVE           FROM ..........




PERSON GIFTS...... Persons who shared this programme with us.
RESOLVING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS
A.   HOW DO I ACT IN CONFLICTS
     The proverbs listed below can be thought of as description of some of the
     different strategies for resolving conflicts reflecting traditional wisdom. Read
     each of the proverbs carefully. Using the scale below indicate how typical
     each proverb is of your actions in a conflict.

     5     -    VERY typical of the way I act in a conflict.
     4     -    FREQUENTLY typical of the way I act in a conflict.
     3     -    SOMETIMES typical of the way I act in a conflict.
     2     -    SELDOM typical of the way I act in a conflict.
     1     -    NEVER typical of the way I act in a conflict.

      ........... 1.       It is easier to refrain than to retreat from a quarrel.
      .
      ............ 2.      If you cannot make a person think as you do, make him or her do
                           what you think.
      ............   3.    Soft words win hard hearts.
      ...........    4.    You scratch my back. I’ll scratch yours.
      .
      ...........    5.    Come now and let us reason together.
      .
      ...........    6.    When two quarrel, the person who keeps silent first is the most
      .                    praiseworthy.
      ............   7.    Might overcome right.
      ............   8.    Smooth words make smooth ways.
      ...........    9.    Better half a loaf than no bread at all.
      .
      ...........    10.   Truth lies in knowledge, not in majority opinion.
      .
      ...........    11.   He who fights and runs away lives to fight another day.
      .
      ............   12.   He hath conquered well that hath made his enemies flee.
      ............   13.   Kill your enemies with kindness.
      ...........    14.   A fair exchange brings no quarrel.
      .
      ...........    15.   No person has the final answer but every person has piece to
      .                    contribute.
      ...........    16.   Stay away from people who disagree with you.
      .
      ............   17.   Fields are won by those who believe in winning
      ............   18.   Kind’s words are worth much and cost little.
      ...........    19.   Tit for tat is fair play
      .
      ...........    20.   Only the person who is willing to give up his /her monopoly on truth
      .                    can ever profit from the truth that others hold.
      ...........    21.   Avoid quarrelsome people as thy will only make your life miserable
      .
      ............   22.   A person who will not flee will make others flee
      ............   23.   Soft words ensure harmony.
      ...........    24.   One gift for another makes good friends (give and take)
      .
...........    25.   Bring your conflicts into the open and face them directly, only then will
     .                    the best solution be discovered.
     ...........    26.   The best way of handling conflicts is to avoid them.
     .
     ............   27.   Put your foot down where you mean to stand.
     ............   28.   Gentleness will triumph over anger.
     ...........    29.   Getting part of what you want is better than not getting anything at all.
     .
     ...........    30.   Frankness, honesty and trust will move mountains.
     .
     ...........    31.   There is nothing so important you have to fight for it.
     .
     ...........    32.   There are two kinds of people in the world, the winner and losers.
     .
     ...........    33.   When one hits you with a stone, hit him/her with a piece of cotton.
     .
     ............   34.   When both people give in halfway, a fair settlement is achieved.
     ............   35.   By digging and digging, the truth will be discovered.

B.   SCORING: How do I Act in Conflict

     I                    II                III              IV                V
     1                    2                 3                4                 5
     6                    7                 8                9                 10
     11                   12                13               14                15
     16                   17                18               19                20
     21                   22                23               24                25
     26                   27                28               29                30
     31                   32                33               34                35
     Total                Tot               Tot              Tot               Tot

         The highest scored strategy is the one most used by us and the second highest
         one is our backup strategy, to be used if the first one fails.
THE FRIENDSHIP QUIZ


I.   The following statements will help you to clarify your ideas on friendship. It is up
     to you to decide which statements are true and which are false. If you agree with
     a statement, circle “T” (True). If you disagree with a statement, circle “F” (False)

      T       F               Friendships are necessary for a happy life.
      T       F               A true friend never causes pain
      T       F               True friendship requires that the friends be of the same
                              age and background.
      T       F               True friends never disagree.
      T       F               True friendships are rare.
      T       F               A friend should be ready to do whatever I ask him/her.
      T       F               Friendship involves sacrifice.
      T       F               Friendship involves risk-taking.
      T       F               The chief demand of a friend is that I agree with him/her.
      T       F               A true friend helps me to see myself more realistically
      T       F               Friendship can come to an end.
      T       F               If someone says, “He/she is so good-looking, I like
                              him/her so much.” This is a sign of true friendship.
      T       F               If you like someone because he/she is useful (e.g. a
                              teacher, a relative, a Cook.....), this is not yet a true
                              friendship.
      T       F               The chief demand of a true friend is that I be true to the
                              best in myself.
      T       F               A true friend sees my good qualities and helps me to
                              see them.
      T       F               A true friend notices my mistakes, but hides them
                              from me.
      T       F               A sign of friendship is, speaking well of the friend in
                              his/her absence
      T       F               It is easier to forgive a friend than a stranger.
      T       F               The best test of true friendship is the pleasure I
                              experience in the friend’s presence
      T       F               A true friendship opens me to many more friendships
      T       F               A true friendship can lead me to God.
      T       F               A strong and talented person does not need friends.
      T       F               A good way to make friends is to be friendly.
      T       F               The quality of a friendship depends on the quality of the
                              friends.
      T       F               A true friendship means that I should not be friendly with
                              anybody else.
II.    QUALITIES OF A GOOD FRIEND
       Here are a few qualities of a good friend. Rank them in the order of importance to
       you.

              ..............Honesty              ...............Warmth and affection
              ..............Social status                   ...............Good listener
              ..............Trustworthiness      ...............Good looks
              ..............Good humour          ..............Intelligence

II.    YOUR FRIENDSHIP GRAPH

       Rate yourself on each of the following traits. Mark “5” if you are very strong “4” if
       you are somewhat strong, etc. The graph will give you an idea of how good a
       friend you are. To have a more objective picture, you need to get yourself rated
       by three or four people who know you well and will share their impressions
       frankly.
 5. Very
 strong




6. Rather strong

7. Average

8. Below Average

9.Poor
THE GIVING TREE

Once there was a tree…. And she loved a little girl. And everyday the girl would come
and she would gather her leaves and make them into crowns and play king of the forest.
She would climb up her trunk and swing from her branches and eat apples. And they
would play hide seek. And when she was tired, she would sleep in her shade.

And the girl loved the tree … very much. And the tree was happy.

But time went by, and girl grew older. And the tree was often alone. Then one-day the
girl came to the tree and the tree said:

“Come child, come and climb upon my trunk and swing from my branches and at apples
and play in my shade and be happy.

But the girl said:

“I am too big to climb and play. I want to buy a thing and have fun. I want some money
Can you give me some money?

“I am sorry, but I have no money. I have only leaves and apples. Take my apples girl,
and sell them in the city. Then you will have some money and you will be happy.”

And so the girl climbed the tree and gathered her apples and carried them away. And
the tree was happy.

But the girl stayed away for a long time… and the tree was sad. And then one day the
girl came back and the tree shook with joy and she said: “Come girl climb up my trunk
and swing from my branches and be happy.”

“I am too busy to climb the trees. I want a house to keep me warm. I want a husband
and I want children, and so I need a house. Can you give me a house?”

“I have no house. The forest is my house, but you may cut off my branches and built a
house, then you will be happy.

And so the girl cut off her branches and carried them away to build her house. And the
tree was happy. But the girl stayed away for a long time… And when she came back,
the tree was so happy, she could hardly speak. She whispered. “Come girl. Come
play.”

“I am too old and sad to play. I want a boat that will take me far away from here. Can
you give me a boat?”
“Cut down my trunk and make a boat. Then you can sail away… and be happy.” And
so the girl cut down her trunk and made a boat and sailed away. And the tree was
happy, happy… but not really.

After a long time the girl came back again. And the tree said: “I am sorry girl, but I have
nothing left to give you. My apples are gone.”
“My teeth are too weak for apples
“My branches are gone, you cannot swing on them…”
“I am too old to swing on the branches.”
“My trunk is gone, you cannot climb…”
“I am too tired to climb”
The tree signed and said:

“I am sorry, I wish I could give you something”…
“I don’t need very much now, just a quite place to sit and rest. I am very tired.”

Straightening her up as she could, the tree said:

“Well, an old stump is good for sitting and resting. Come girl, and sit down. Sit down
and rest.”

And the girl did. And the tree was happy.

THE GIVING TREE

1.   Did the tree love the girl? How can you make it out?
2.   Did you like the behavior of the girl? Why?
3.   How much should we give and for how long?
4.   Can you apply this parable to your own life? Give instance.
     Mention five persons whose lives can be compared to the Giving Tree.
16.

THE KNOW YOURSELF QUIZ
A Quizzical quiz to know whether you are a born procrastinator, a dare-devil and -or a
go-getter,

Get going and find out.

1.    When taking risks of making changes are concerned, you:
             a) Take quick decisions and act.
             b) Fear failure and leave it to destiny.
2.    When saddled with an unusual Job. you:
             a) Find yourself working enthusiastically at it
             b) Delay an attempt or leave it altogether.
3.    When you have a legitimate grievance, you:
             a) Voice it and see that you get justice.
             b) Avoid confrontation.
4.    While Chasing major goals in life, you:
             a) Plan methodically to implement them.
             b) Plan but never put them in action.
5.    For your lack of success and happiness, you:
             a) Blame yourself.
             b) Blame external factors.
6.    Somebody you hardly know, has been spreading rumors about you, you:
             a) Ignore the gossip since you are such things.
             b) Confront the person and demand that he / she stop it, or else!
7.    You meet a very attractive person who takes no notice of you, you:
             a) Hang around and hope to be noticed.
             b) Walk up and strike a conversation.
8.    The goals you set for yourself are:
             a) Realistic.
             b) Aspirational.
9.    Relationships with your family and you are one of:
             a) Support and love.
             b) Averse and manipulative with others calling the shots.
10.   Six months ago when you landed the present job or project, you were on a
      cloud but now you are bored. You:
             a) Ignore the itch, it’s just too soon to leave.
             b) Update your resume.
15.   VISION OF MYSELF
       You are given 25 gold coins to buy the qualities you need to build up a good “
image of yourself ” You could select from the alternatives given below ......... but not
spend over the 25 fold coins allotted.
       In the first column on the right put the amount you are spending to become the
kind of person you wish to be. In the second column put amount you wish to spend to
“buy” a “good make “

1.     Each of this group costs 6 gold coins
             A good-looking face
             Very popular
             Intelligent
             A great Christian
             Very kind

2.     Each of these costs 5 gold coins
             A well-built figure/ body
             A good conversationalist
             Tactful and good sense of humor

3.     Each of this group costs 4 gold coins
             Large chest or bust
             Athletic
             Attends church - is religious
             Honest - doesn’t lie or cheat.

4.     Each of this group cost 3 gold coins
             Nicety dressed and well - groomed
             Likes drama art, and music
             Well mannered - comes from a nice home.
             Ambitious and hard working

5.     Each of this group costs 2 gold coins
             The right height
             Gets good grades
             Likes children
              Brave - stands up for rights

6.     Each of this group costs 1 gold coin
             Choice of color in eyes and hair
             Owns a car
             Wealthy- or moderately so
             Sincere and serious.
16. SELF         - UNDERSTANDING
Describe your real feelings about your body build, size, appearance and general health.
        Appearance           Health
        excellent            excellent
        good                 good
        fair                 fair
        poor                 poor
If your are reluctant to write down your reactions, please allow sufficient time give them
consideration in depth.

Describe your personality, Describe your feelings about
interest and concerns : your strengths and weaknesses.
* Are you outgoing and
  comfortable socially ?
* How many real friends do?
  you have ?
* What are your involvements?
  other than school or work ?

Describe some of your more important needs and desires.
      - friends
      - success at school or work
      - active social life
      - recognition
      - accomplishment
      - pleasures
      - self - control

In what area is your greatest personal need at this time?
       - studies
       - social life
       - work
Try to specify the need. Is it conceivable, believable, achievable? List some alternatives
as to how this need might be met.

Describe your ideals and goals. What kind of person do you hope to become some
day? Values - those things that are important to you?
- wealthy
* related to school or work       - comfortable
* related to politics and         - trailblazer
  government                      - secure
* other                           - important
                                  - other
The case of a difficult choice
It is a bright sunny day when a group is enjoying a picnic by the rocky sea
shore. One of them notices a cave by which they decide to explore. Fully engaged in
discovery they do not notice the tide coming very fast. the only chance to safety is a
narrow opening to wards the rear end of the cave. At the rate the water is rising to
make it to safety since the opening permits exit one at a time, the others are
doomed to die. The following are the members of the group.

(1)    A Scientist. 80 years old, on the process of discovering a new drug.
(2)    A 25 year old widowed mother of three young children.
(3)    A middle aged politician who has supported bills for the upliftment of the poor
       and the needy at the risk of his career.
(4)     A business man’s son. Aged 18, who is a wastrel and addicted to drugs.
(5)     A doctor in his 50’s working among lepers.
(6)    A music composer, aged 45 years, who has made a great contribution to the
       Indian film.
( 7 ) A 30 year old rural nurse who is suffering form cancer.
( 8 ) A 55 year old ex-military man who had his right leg amputated while
       defending the country in the India-China war.
( 9 ) A 12 year old boy full of energy unlike his companions who are overwhelmed
       with fear.
( 10 ) One of the nuns, who is in her forties and being trained to take care of the
       needy by Mother Theresa.

Which five would you choose to let pass through the opening to safety?
List them in priority. You will have to give reasons for your choice group
discussion.

Individual Work:
1. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
2. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
3. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
4. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
5.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------


Group Work:
1. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
2. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
3. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
4. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reasons
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
INSTRUCTION COMPRENSION TESTING
      These twenty-one questions are a Test on how well you
follow instructions. Do the work on your own. Absolutely no talking
or asking questions.      Read through all the questions before
beginning. Work fast. You have only five Minutes to do the job. No
talking.

1.    Print your name backwards . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
2.    Circle the work name in the above sentence.
3.    Draw five small squares in the upper left - hand corner
      of this paper.
4.    Put an X in each square mentioned in number 3.
5.    Put a circle around each square.
6.    Sign your name under the title of this page.
7.    After the title, write “yes, yes, yes,”
8.    Put a circle around sentence number 6.
9.    Put an X in the lower left - head corner of this page.
10.   Draw a triangle around the X you just made.
11.   On the back of this page, multiply 70 x 30
12.   Draw a circle around the word “ paper ” in sentence number 3.
13.   Loudly call out your first name when you get to this point
      In the test.
14.   If you think that you have carefully followed directions,
      call out “ I have ”
15.   On the reverse side of this paper, add 107 and 78.
16.   Put a circle around your answer to this problem.
17.   Count out in your normal speaking voice from 1 to 10 backwards.
18.   Punch 3 small holes in your paper with your pencil
      point here......
19.   If you are the first person to get this far, call out loudly,
       “ I am the leader in following directions ”
20.   Underline all even numbers on this page.
21.   Now that you have finished reading carefully, do only
      sentences one and two.




TAKE             SHELTER
The Situation
Your group is responsible for the welfare of Human Ecology Communes throughout the
world. These communes bring together a variety of different kinds of people from all
areas of life to see if humans of widely differing backgrounds and outlooks can live
together peacefully and productively.

Suddenly you learn that the ‘life balance’ at one of these communes is dangerously
upset because of unauthorized nuclear experimentation. The lives of all commune
members are imperiled by radioactivity.

You receive a desperate call from the leader of that commune asking for help. There
are ten people at the commune, but enough water, food air and space in their anti-
radiation shelter for only six of the people for three months.

They know that, should they decide among them selves which six are to go into the
shelter, they are likely to become irrational, even violent. That is why they are calling on
you to determine which six are to be saved. They will abide by your decision.

Your Part

Your group at Human Ecology Headquarters has only 25 minutes to make its decision.
If you delay, all member of the commune will perish from radioactivity. The six who are
selected must be in their shelter in half an hour. You have to:
(1)    Choose six persons individually;
(2)    Choose six as a group, after a discussion.
As help, you can rank in order of priority when you work alone.


Information available
This is all you know about the ten people;
1.     Nuclear scientist, age 47 his careless experiments caused the dangerous radio-
       activity.
2.     His wife, 35; four months pregnant. She has had one abortion.
3.     A skilled manual worker 40 years old; illiterate.
4.     A 20-year-old college girl. Student leader-gifted, but very proud.
5.     A policeman with a gun; strong law-and-order man suspended from the police
       force for brutality.
6.     Alcoholic priest; 50 years old.
7.     A former Miss India, 40 years old. Flirt with a sharp tongue.
       Runs a beauty parlor.
8.     Test Cricketer, 25 years old. No family, very low IQ
9.     Politician, 45 years old. Corrupt to the core hoping to hold big positions.
10.    50 year old illicit liquor peddler (woman), champion of the poor


Your Decision
The six people I choose personally are-(in order of preference) with reasons
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
The six people chosen by my group are- with reasons
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
5.
6.

Reflection
Answer the following questions personally.
1.   Did you listen to the opinions of others in your group?
2.   Were you inclined to change your mind because of group pressure? Or, if you did
     change your mind, was it because of logical and persuasive arguments ?
3.   Did your single-mindedness prevent your group from reaching a decision in time?
     Did someone else’s?
4.   After your group arrived at a decision different from yours, did you still feel you
     were right ?
5.   What do your selections tell you about your values ?
Rope (leader leads the rest blindfolded)
Purpose :      Leadership, team work, understanding, self confidence

Objective :   To create a sense of team spirit and bring out one’s leadership qualities.

Material required : Rope, Kerchiefs

Time limit : 45 minutes.


Procedure :
     - Divide into 4 teams.
     - Choose a leader for each team.
     - (Each team performs the act )
     - Blindfold all the members of a team, except the leader..
     - The leaders hand is tied to the rope with a kerchief
     - The rest of the team holds his/her shoulder in a line formation.
     - The leader goes wherever the rope leads.
     - Time limit to be recorded of each team.

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  • 1. PLAN SHEET FOR SESSIONS NO. TOPIC CONTENTS INTRODUCTION: SONG: LORD I HOPE THIS DAY SELF IMAGE: WHO AM I ICE BREAKER: TRIPLE ACTION PLAN ORIENTATION WORKSHEET: COAT OF ARMS (Image you would like to have of yourself) PAPER PUZZLE: ATE GAME ACTION SONG: LU LA LU 1. SELF ESTEEM ICE BREAKER GAME: JACKS BACK WORKSHEET: BE ALL YOU CAN PAPER PUZZLE: NAME THE CITY ACTION SONG: GRAND OLD DUKE OF YORK 2. SELF ESTEEM ICE BREAKER GAME: APPALLU – UPPALLU VALUE GAME: AIM THE BUCKET PAPER PUZZLE: GUESS THE ALPHABETS ACTION SONG: LA LA LERU 3. SELF ESTEEM ICE BREAKER: PINK PONG THE EAGLET – SLIDE SHOW: DISCUSSION TAPE SONG: EAGLE SONG PAPER PUZZLE: GUESS THE FRUITS AND VEGETABLES ACTION SONG: LITTLE PETER RABBIT 4. SELF ESTEEM: ICE BREAKER: SPOT GAME, WORKSHEET: WHICH ADJECTIVES DESCRIBE YOU HOW DO YOU FEEL PAPER PUZZLE: PARTS OF THE BODY TAPE ACTION SONG: BOOGIE - BOOGIE 5. SELF APPRECIATION ICE BREAKER GAME: PING PONG, VIDEO: GET USED TO ME DISCUSSION ON FILM ACTION SONG: FIESTA 6. SELF APPRECIATION ICE BREAKER: ROTTEN TOMATO WORKSHOP: 10 SIGNS OF SELF ACCEPTANCE PAPER PUZZLE: WAVY FISH ACTION SONG: PICK A BAIL OF COTTON
  • 2. 7. SELF APPRECIATION ICE BREAKER: CLAP COUNT 1,2 WORTH; ACCEPTANCE WORKSHEET: PERSONALITY INVENTORY ASK TEN FRIENDS TO WRITE ONE POSITIVE QUALITY & ONE NEGATIVE QUALITY PAPER PUZZLE: HIDDEN COUNTRIES, ACTION SONG: O MY CHI CHI 8. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: FOLLOW THE LEADER VALUE GAME: HIDDEN VALUES PAPER PUZZLE: WORD JUMBLE ACTION SONG: 9. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: ABOUT AGES VALUE GAME: PERSONAL VALUE AUCTION VALUE SCRABBLE PAPER PUZZLE: COMPLETE THE STORY ACTION SONG: I MET A NEGRO 10. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: VALUE GAME: A CHECK LIST ON VISION OF SELF PAPER PUZZLE: WHAT A NATION ACTION SONG: 11. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: BIG APPLE SMALL APPLE WORKSHEET: HOW GIFTED YOU ARE PAPER PUZZLE: TRIANGULAR CIRCLE, 1+2=42 ACTION SONG: 12. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: BUNNY RABBIT PAPER PUZZLE: TEAM BOGGLE WORKSHOP: FOOTBALL CRISIS ACTION SONG: 13. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: FELLOWSHIP GAME VALUE HOUSIE GAME PAPER PUZZLE: FIND THE CITY ACTION SONG: 14. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: AUTOGRAPH PLEASE VALUE GAME: RESOLVING PERSONAL CONFLICTS PAPER PUZZLE: ACTION SONG:
  • 3. 15. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: CARD GAME – COMBINATION WORKSHOP: GIVING TREE, VISION OF SELF PAPER PUZZLE: ACTION SONG: HERE WE GO LOO BILU 16. SELF DISCOVERY ICE BREAKER: THE WIND CAME AND BLEW WORKSHOP: SELF UNDERSTANDING, KNOW SELF PAPER PUZZLE: LET’S GO ALL OUT ACTION SONG: FATHER ABRAHAM 17. OTHERS: ICE BREAKER: DOUBLE BARREL VALUE GAME: ROPE THE CIRCLE FRIENDSHIP QUIZ PAPER PUZZLE ACTION SONG: 18. OTHERS ICE BREAKER: GUESS THE PROVERB VALUE GAME: SOCIAL VALUE AUCTION PAPER PUZZLE ACTION SONG: GRAND OLD DUKE OF YORK 19. OTHERS ICE BREAKER MOVIE: LOOSER TAKE IT ALL DISCUSSION ON THE MOVIE PAPER PUZZLE ACTION SONG: 20. OTHERS ICE BREAKER: COMPREHSIVE TESTING VALUE GAME: WIN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN PAPER PUZZLE: ANT GAME ACTION SONG: TAPE: PUT YOUR RIGHT HAND 21. OTHERS ICE BREAKER: S.T. COUNT VALUE GAME: BROKEN SQUARES PAPER PUZZLE ACTION SONG: 22. LIFE OF VALUES ICE BREAKER: KACHA PAPAD PAPER PUZZLE ACTION SONG: DEBATE: PARENT – YOUTH RELATIONSHIP
  • 4. MY COAT OF ARMS Life Things I like about myself I have one year to live. Three words that describe who What am I going to do? I am? Favourite My biggest success Three values I One negative quality cherish most
  • 5. BE ALL YOU CAN BE! Our success in every aspect of our life - studies, jobs, sports, friendship, love. - is strongly determined by our own self-image. People who have confidence in their personal worth seem to be magnets for success and happiness. To use the imagery of the English poet William Blake, they “catch joy on the wing." Can we change our self-image? YES! Anyone can change his/her self-perception. A person with low self-image is not doomed to a life of unhappiness and failure. It is possible to get rid of negative attitudes and gain the confidence needed to realize one's dreams. SIX STEPS TO BOOST YOUR SELF-CONCEPT FIRST STEP FOCUS ON YOUR POTENTIAL: NOT YOUR LIMITATIONS Remember you have enough strengths, good qualities and talents to live a happy, fulfilled life. MY TALENTS MY QUALITIES OF THE HEART AND MIND 1. 1. 2. 2. 3. 3. 4. 4. 5. 5. 6. 6. 7. 7. 8. 8.
  • 6. SECOND STEP DEVOTE YOURSELF TO SOMETHING YOU DO WELL Usually the problem lies not in discovering our natural aptitude but in developing that skill. Often it is not raw talent but the drive that makes the difference. …………………. List 3 things you can do Very well and rank them. …………………. …………………. THIRD STEP SEE YOURSELF AS SUCCESSFUL One effective exercise for building self-confidence is called "imagining” or "visualizing." In order to succeed you must See Yourself succeeding, 1. List 3 areas in which you can visualize yourself as successful 2. (i.e. professions, achievements..) 3.
  • 7. FOURTH STEP BREAK AWAY FROM OTHER PEOPLE'S EXPECTATIONS It is a liberating step when we decide to stop being what other people (parents, teachers, relatives, friends) want us to be. Struggling to live up to other's expectations can have the most crippling effect on us. 1. List 3 expectations other 2. people have of you: 3. FIFTH HAVE BIG DREAMS STEP Think BIG! Dream many dreams and dream them BIG. Those who have many dreams will at least make some of them come true.” If the Lord hadn't wanted us to reach for the stars, He wouldn't have blessed us with the power to dream,'' - Hadin Marshall 1. List three of your biggest dreams for yourself (what you want 2. to be; what you want to do, to achieve etc.) 3.
  • 8. SIXTH BUILD A NETWORK OF SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIPS STEP Good friends can help you very much to enhance and "build up” your self-image. Name People in Your Life Who Will Stand By You and Support You
  • 9. THE STORY OF THE EAGLE Once upon a time, while walking through the forest, a certain man found a young eagle; he took it home and put it in his barnyard where it soon learned to eat chicken feed and to behave as chickens behave.One day a naturalist, who was passing by, inquired of the owner why it was that the eagle, the king of the birds, should be confined to live in a barnyard with chickens.“Since I have given it chicken feed and trained it to live as a chicken, it has never learned to fly”, replied the owner. “It behaves as chickens behave, so it is no longer an eagle.” “Still”, insisted the naturalist, “it has the heart of an eagle and can surely be taught to fly”. After talking it over, the two men agreed to find out whether this was possible. Gently the naturalist took the eagle in his arms and said, “You belong to the sky, not to the earth. Stretch forth your wings and fly;” The eagle however was confused, he did not know who he was, and seeing the chickens eating their food, he jumped down to be with them again. Undismayed, the naturalist took the eagle next day up on the roof of the house, and urged him again saying: “You are an eagle, stretch forth your wings and fly:” But the eagle was afraid of his unknown self and the world, and jumped down once more for the chicken feed. On the third day, the naturalist rose early and took the eagle out of the barnyard, up to a high mountain. There he held the king of the birds high above him and encouraged him again, saying: “You are an eagle, stretch forth your wings and fly:” The eagle looked around, back towards the barnyard and up to the sky. Then the naturalist lifted him straight towards the sun, and it happened that the eagle began to tremble. Slowly he stretched out his wings. At last with a triumphant cry, he soared away into the heavens. It may be that the eagle still remembers the chickens with nostalgia; it may even be that he occasionally revisits the barnyard. But as far as anyone knows, he has never returned to lead the life of a chicken. QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSSION 1. What is it that struck you the most in the story? 2. Can you see likeness to yourself with the eagles? Why? 3. In what areas of your life are you struggling to be free? 4. What are you doing to bring about freedom? 5. In what area (areas) of your life have you experienced freedom? (What are the factors, such as persons, circumstances, events, etc. that are responsible for it) 6. What is the point of the last paragraph? 7. What is the necessary condition for person (including you) to obtain true freedom? 8. “You must be where you belong “what do these words mean? What reactions and sentiments do they evoke in you? EAGLE’S SONG I'd like to tell the story about an eagle Who chained so long to stick upon the ground? Day by day he struggled round in circles. Till wandered up to walking round and round. When his master finally choose to give him freedom He took off the metal ring that kept him bound And tossed him high to spread his wings to fly But the bird just flipped flopped right back to the ground. CH. No more chains no more bird hand But he will ride back to his right again Began the same old strut again Just the same old habit kept him bound. 2. So many people today are like that eagle Who knows the truth could loose them from their chains. When freedom calls them all to a new horizon. They jump right back to their rut again. CH. 3. Well it’s better to fly into the sky of freedom To break free from the old and sail on to the new So don't forget the sad story of the eagle Don't ever let, the same thing happen to you. CH.
  • 10. WHICH ADJECTIVES DESCRIBE YOU? 1. Warm 2. Sincere 3. Angry 4. Devout 5. Cold 6.Reliable 7. Attentive 8.Judgemental 9. Possessive 10. Genuine 11. Caring 12. Frightened 13. Manipulative 14. Respectful 15. Clear in expression 16. Gossiping 17. Prayerful 18. Understanding 19. Comfortable with 20. Harsh 21. Relates well 22. Ready to spend time for people 23. Revengeful 24. Forgiving 25. Spontaneous 26. Ready to accept criticism 27. Open 28. Respects others point of view 29. Hard to approach 30.Keeps confidences 31. Attached to own opinion 32. Perceived as a loving person 33.Easy to approach 34. Well coming 35. Condemns people for mistakes.
  • 11. HOW DO YOU FEEL? Answer the following question with a complete sentence that best expresses how you feel about it. 1. Do you feel any tension due to “ interpersonal relationship “ within your family with (i) Parents (ii) Brothers or Sisters. 2. Do you feel under pressure at school due to relationship with 3. i) Friends (ii) Teachers? 4. Do you feel there is (i) over expectation or (ii) Under expectation from you by your parents with regard to your studies? 5. Do you like being told how to handle your studies by your family members? 6. Do you like to get the same things as your friends at school; do your parents generally provide it? 7. Do you feel under pressure from your friends at school to be just like they are? 8. Do you think you are well accepted or isolated by your classmates? 9. Are your teachers listening to you? 10.Do your parents talk with you whenever you feel like? 11.Does examination pose a fear for you? 12.Would you like more time for play or hobbies? 13.Would you like to change your recent friends? 14.Do you like being all by yourself sometimes or all the time? 15.What would you like to do in your holidays? 16.What kind of a class teacher would you like to have next year? 17.Who would you like to have for your best friends? 18.Do you know what you really would like to be? 19.Do you frame your timetable for studies and games? 20.Who is your best relative? 21.From whom would you like more attention?
  • 12. GET USED TO ME Curriculum Areas: Guidance / Values Value Orientation: Self-affirmation springs from an appreciation of one’s personal worth and dignity. STORY ORIENTATION: A story of a shy, plain - looking girl’s struggle to accept herself and affirm her own worth. Super sensitive Kay is excluded from class games and laughed at for liking her father’s work, which is collecting garbage. She faces a very difficult dilemma: Whether to assert herself as she is, or change her personality to fit other people’s expectations. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS: (After Viewing) 1. Early in the film Kay tells her father that she doesn’t have a lot of friends. Why do you think this might be so? What kind of a girl would you describe her as being? 2. In the first playground scene Kay walks alone. What do you think she was feeling? How do you think the other kids felt? 3. Describe the classroom scene. What might Kay have been feeling then? What were the other kids thinking and feeling? What would you have done? 4. When Kay visits the garbage dump with her Father and Andy, what might have been foremost in her mind? What tells you that? What does her father say about his attitude towards his work? 5. Kay tells her father that the kids laughed at her, at him, and at Andy. Do you think they really did that? Why or why not? How do you think they really did that? Why or why not? Why do you think that kids sometimes laugh at others? How do you think the child who is being laughed at feels? 6. When Kay comes to the playground the second time, she enters the dodge ball game, what, do you think, makes her do that? What kinds of feelings do you think she might be experiencing as she takes her place at the wall?
  • 13. TEN SIGNS OF SELF – ACCEPTANCE 1. Self – accepting people are happy people. 2. Self – accepting people go out of their way. 3. Self – accepting people are always open to being loved and complimented. 4. Self – accepting people are empowered to be their “ real" selves. 5. Self – accepting people accept themselves as they are right now. 6. Self – accepting people are able to laugh at themselves, often and easily. 7. Self – accepting people have the ability to recognize and attend to their own needs. 8. Self – accepting people are self – determining people. 9. Self – accepting people are in good contact with reality. 10. Self – accepting people are assertive.
  • 14. PERSONALITY INVENTORY Below are listed eleven different situations and areas, which confront all of another or us at one time. The way we reach in these situations can give us a very general idea of what kind of temperament we possess. NOTE: You will not be asked to share your result with anyone. This is simply intended to help you understand yourself. Just circle the number that best reflects the way you would normally respond in the situation. A. There is going to be a play in school. Would you rather: 1. Different the play. 2. Take the lead role in the play. 3. Work the lights backstage. 4. Sit in the audience. B. At a party do you: 1. Like to make sure things go well. 2. Like to talk and be friendly with everyone. 3. Feel a little afraid to mix unless you know someone well. 4. Prefer to listen, relax and enjoy the food. C. When you have been hurt by someone are you: 1. Very angry and want to get revenge. 2. Able to forget it quite quickly though at first you were down in the dumps. 3. Hurt and want to hide. 4. Not bothered very much. D. When you make a mistake in class are you: 1. Angry that you could do such a thing. 2. Able to laugh at yourself. 3. Embarrassed and confused. 4. Couldn’t care either way. E. When you are buying clothes do you look for: 1. Unique clothes. 2. Flashy colours. 3. Sedate colour clothes. 4. What everyone else is wearing? F. What do you enjoy most: 1. Getting out and doing something.
  • 15. 2. Visiting with friends. 3. Sitting by the water watching the sunrise. 4. Watching T.V. G. Your typical reaction to work is: 1. Let’s get going, we’ll finish tonight even if we have to stay at it all night. 2. Let’s sit down and discuss this project a while, by way of a joke. 3. I want some more time to think so I can plan it carefully. 4. I think I’ll take a nap and start it later. H. Your typical statement in reaction to an insult is: 1. I don’t really care what you think of me because I don’t need you anyway. 2. I just want to get away from here. I feel I could cry. 3. No response. Just thought that I’ll get even someday. 4. No sense getting excited about it. I. Your typical statement in reaction to a compliment: 1. Don’t get so sentimental. 2. Do you really mean it? Tell me again. 3. No response. Just a blush and a deep sense of satisfaction. 4. Thank you. I appreciate that. J. Your typical statement in reaction to a problem is: 1. I enjoy a good challenge. Let’s get going. 2. Now that’s a real problem. It reminds me of a funny story. 3. I’ll need more time to think about it. 4. Think I’ll take a nap. May be it will be gone when I get up. K. Your typical statement in reaction to yourself: 1. If something must be done, I think I can handle it. 2. I wonder if people really like me; I sure hope so. 3. I’m not so sure. But I think about it a lot. 4. I’m hungry. Other than that I’m okay.
  • 16. HIDDEN VALUE PUZZLE 1. Below is a list of twenty values commonly cherished by young people. Choose ten values from these, which you consider most important to you by ticking them off. Freedom Knowledge Friendship Responsibility Money Duty Security Beauty Prayer Equality Pleasure Purity Happiness Love Salvation Punctuality Peace Popularity Comfort Power 1. A. Write down the 10 values you have chosen in the space below: .................... ..................... .................... ..................... .................... ..................... .................... ..................... .................... ..................... 2. In the grid below are hidden the names of all the 20 values in the list. They are set in all the 8 directions of the square, but are in continuation and in straight lines. Find your chosen 10 values in the grid by drawing rectangles around the values in the grid itself. Any letter has been used any number of times. A B F A M P L E A S U R E F N C P I H S D N E I R F A M R O O U U Y T I L A U Q E D E E I M N H G O O M L O C U W N E T N C W A E G F M A T O O C D A O T Y N P U M E Y P O M O O V R U V T D P P T A N A P M M L T A S M I E I B E A U Q F A A Y L M A F R A N L O V G O T S T I O R U G A P E Y T I R U P U T N C H I M L O S E E T M R A Y E A J N O L U S S R Y S A E S Y P K V O O R P U R I T Y B O L M E G D E L W O N K O E D Y T I L I B I S N O P S E R
  • 17. 2. A. Rank the 10 values you have identified in the grid in the space below: Go through them carefully and rank them in the order of preference to you by numbering them 1 to 10 where 1= the value that is most important to you, 2 = the value that is next most important and so on till 10 = the least important, relatively. 1. .................... 6. ..................... 2. .................... 7. ..................... 3. .................... 8. ..................... 4. .................... 9. ..................... 5. .................... 10. ..................... 3. Small Group interaction: In your small group go through the following steps: * Share the 10 values you have chosen and the position of these 10 values in the grid. * Share and discuss your ranking of the 10 chosen values, giving your reasons for your choices and priorities. * As a group locate all the 20 values on the grid, finding all those that have not been located. 4. General Group Sharing on each Phase: 5. Conclusion: At the end of the exercise, fill in the following after a few moments of quiet reflection: What I learnt from this exercise: My decision for change and growth: VALUE SCRAMBLE 1. YTQALEUI
  • 18. 2. EEODRFM 3. SHSPIPENA 4. PFREDSNIHI 5. EEPCA 6. SOENENPS 7. VSECRIE 8. YTNOPIBLRSIESI 9. UEORCAG 10. ELVO 11. SFGOVIRNSEE 12. TYPNCUTIALU 13. ERAPYR 14. SNHYTOE 15. EMYON 16. UTBEYA 17. UOPRPYILAT 18. WREOP 19. CNIFFECYEI 20. EKWGLDOEN 21. OSLAIANTV 22. CCSUSES 23. UTYRPI 24. SESDROERILN 25. OYLYLAT
  • 19. 1. Go into your small groups of 5 members and sit around a table. Elect a secretary who will number a blank sheet of paper 1 to 25. When you have received the pack of scrambled values cards and the signal to begin the game, turn the pack over and spread the cards out in the middle and try to figure out the values scrambled on the cards. When you identify the value on a card, tell the secretary the number and the answer and he / she records it on the numbered sheet. YTQALEUI 2. Go through carefully the list of 25 values and select 7 that you consider most important to you and list them below. Equality Forgiveness Efficiency Freedom Punctuality Knowledge Happiness Prayer Salvation Friendship Honesty Success Peacefulness Money Purity Service Beauty Orderliness Responsibility Popularity Loyalty Courage Power Love MY 7 MOST IMPORTANT VALUES ................... .................... ................... .................... ................... .................... ................... 3. Rank these 7 values in the order of importance to you by numbering them 1 to 7 where 1 = most important value and 7 = least important value. Write down the reasons for choosing your first three values: 1. ................... 2. .................... 3. ................... 4. .................... 5. ................... 6. .................... 7. ................... My first value is ......................................................................... because................................................................................................................... ................................................................................................................................. ................................................................................................................................. .................................................
  • 20. My Second value is .................................................................... because................................................................................................................... ................................................................................................................................. ................................................................................................................................. .................................................... My third value is ...................................................................... because................................................................................................................... ................................................................................................................................. ................................................................................................................................. ................................................... 4. Small Group Interaction: Go back to your small groups, share and discuss with your group members the 7 priority values you have chosen and the reasons for your first three choices. 5. General Group Sharing on each Phase: 6. Conclusion At the end of the session, fill in the following after taking time for reflection: What I learnt from this exercise: My decision for change and growth: PERSONAL VALUE AUCTION SALE Purpose: Self-realization, value system. Objective: To understand one’s priorities of values.
  • 21. Materials required: Personal values worksheet, pen. Time limit: 45 minutes. Procedure: MY PERSONAL VALUES Read carefully through the following list of values. Choose 3 of these values, which you feel, are most important to you and which you most desire. If you are given Rs. 300/- and you are to buy these values at an auction sale, how much would you spend on each of them? Note the amount against the three values you have chosen. _____ 1. To be Honest, Sincere and Truthful. _____ 2. To be filled with the spirit of Generosity and Availability. _____ 3. To always be Obedient to my elders and superiors. _____ 4. To be Cheerful constantly no matter how tough the going is. _____ 5. To be Peace - Loving and work to build a Community of Peace. _____ 6. To be Hard - Working and constantly faithful to my duties. _____ 7. To be Loving and Friendly to all people at all times. _____ 8. To be Intelligent and have the ability to grasp all things. _____ 9. To always be Helpful to people in times of difficulty. _____ 10. To be Courageous and Bold in the face of trials.
  • 22. A CHECK ON YOUR VISION OF SELF Direction: Each of the statements given below can be rated with the words NEVER, SOMETIMES, FREQUENTLY OR ALWAYS. Make your choice, and then write in the number that corresponds to the choice. When you have finished, total up your answers. NEVER =1 SOMETIMES =2 FREQUENTLY =3 ALWAYS. =4 1. When my feelings are hurt, I express it -------------------------------- _________ 2. Others value my opinions -------------------------------------------------- _________ 3. I feel intellectually capable ------------------------------------------------ _________ 4. I feel worthy of the gifts that have been offered to me ------------- _________ 5. I am satisfied with my personal development up to now ----------- _________ 6. I consider comparing myself with other people (to see who rates higher) to be a waste of time ------------------------------ _________ 7. I enjoy meeting and talking with new people ------------------------ _________ 8. I feel comfortable at social gatherings -------------------------------- _________ 9. I am happy to be me and wouldn’t want to be anyone else ----- _________ 10. I like my present life situation ------------------------------------------- _________ 11. I am happy with the way I live my life --------------------------------- _________ 12. I like my present place of residence ----------------------------------- _________ 13. I enjoy my work ------------------------------------------------------------- _________ 14. People admire me ---------------------------------------------------------- _________ 15. I am considerate of others ----------------------------------------------- _________ 16. I enjoy getting up in the morning --------------------------------------- _________ 17. I am self reliant ------------------------------------------------------------- _________ 18. I make a positive contributions to the lives of others --------- _________ 19. I enjoy attending to my own needs in eating, exercise, and general care of myself ---------------------------------------------------- _________ 20. I try to make sure I lead a balanced life enough rest work, play _________ 21. I enjoy my time alone ------------------------------------------------------ _________ 22. I like myself ------------------------------------------------------------------ _________ 23. I value myself ---------------------------------------------------------------- ________ 24. I see myself as a good-looking person -------------------------------- _________ 25. I see myself as attractive to the opposite sex. ----------------------- _________ 26. I think of myself as a loving person ------------------------------------ _________ 27. I think myself as a sharing person ------------------------------------- _________ 28. I think myself as a confident person ---------------------------------- _________ 29. I think my self as a successful person -------------------------- ------ _________ (Min, = 30, Max = 120) 30 = 40 = Inadequate self-esteem – low 41 = 80 = Fairly adequate _ average 81 = 120 = Quite healthy - high
  • 23. HOW GIFTED ARE YOU? This set of questions will help you discover how gifted you/ your child / son / daughter / student is. It will help you capitalize on his/her strength rather than infuriate him/her with ones weaknesses. How gifted are you? What is the quality of your intellectual capabilities? Answer true or false: 1. ______________: You are a wizard at memorizing poetry and TV adv. 2. ______________: You notice when others are sad or happy. 3. ______________: You often ask deep questions like: “When did time begin?” 4. ______________: You seldom get lost. 5. ______________: You are extremely graceful. 6. ______________: You sing a key. 7. ______________: You often ask questions about how thunder and lightning work, What makes it rain and so on? 8. ______________: You easily sit down to solve crossword puzzles. 9. ______________: You can tie your shoelace standing with a confident sense of balance. 10. ______________: You enjoy acting out roles, writing plays and imitating people’s behaviour. 11. ______________: On trips you remember landmarks and point them out saying “This was where we were.” 12. ______________: You listen to different musical instruments and can easily recognize them by the sound they make. 13. ______________: You draw maps well and depict objects clearly. 14. ______________: You mimic physical movements and expressions. 15. ______________: You like to sort toys, things out into groups, according to size and colour, in patterns of all kind, appeal, and fact. 16. ______________: You can connect actions with fooling e.g. you say, “I did it because I was mad.” 17. ______________: You like to tell stories and tell them well. 18. ______________: You comment on different sounds. 19. ______________: When you are introduced to a new friend, you say: “She reminds me of so and so.” 20. ______________: You are accurate in judging what you can do and what you can’t. THE FOOTBALL GAME CRISIS
  • 24. FACT SHEET Mr. Marshall, a senior maths teacher, gave his students of IX std. their monthly test. The test covered most of the material to date since Mr. Marshall was dissatisfied with the class performance. Mr. Marshall caught Robert and James, two borderline students, cheating in the exam. He gave them each a failing grade which made them scholastically ineligible to play football. Robert played, as goalkeeper for two years and James was a star center forward of the team. The inter- school football shield had been won by the school consecutively for the last two years and will be the school’s permanent heritage if it emerges champion this year as well. Robert and James went to meet Mr. Marshall. They told him that the game, they had to play on Saturday was crucial towards winning the championship and asked him not to have them dropped from the team. Mr. Marshall how ever told them that honesty and a good education were more important than sports. He refused to change his decision. Coach Martin was informed that Robert and James had just become scholastically ineligible to play football. Following the school policy, the coach sent a memo to Robert and James telling them that they would not be able to play in Saturday’s game. About one third of the students held a protest rally outside Mr. Marshall’s office. Team members, angered over the action, met secretly to plan a course of action. You are members of a particular group of the school - The Basketball team, The Sports Club, The Classmates of James and Robert, The Football team, or the Staff of the School. With the Fact Sheet and the Additional Details available, you are to make a STATEMENT giving adequate reasons. Remember, the students of the school are watching to see how this difficulty is resolved: (1) If Robert and James are ‘let off ’ it is likely to encourage some more students to follow their example. (2) If a strong stand is taken, there is bound to be a violent demonstration by some of the students, especially the football fans who are keen on winning the trophy for the third consecutive year. (3) Are there any other options possible?
  • 25. VALUE HOUSIE GAME Purpose: Knowing the other, priority of values, leadership, teachers’ training, Catechist training, building up value system. Objective: To aim for a proper value system in one’s life. Materials required: Housie game worksheet, paper, and pen. Time limit: 60 minutes Procedure: 1. THE PLAYING OF THE HOUSIE GAME LOVE JOY PEACE PATIENCE FAITHFULNESS SELF KINDNESS GOODNESS HUMILITY LEADERSHIP CONTROL SPEECH SERVICE ENCOURAGING TEACHING OTHERS SOCIABILITY HONESTY CLEAR OPTIMISM GOD GOALS FEARING GOOD SELF EXAMPLE CONFIDENCE RESPECT JUSTICE DYNAMISM
  • 26. 2. A. CHOOSE ANY TEN VALUES FROM THE ABOVE GAME CARD 2. B. RANK THE VALUES ACCORDING TO YOUR PRIORITY VALUES RANKING VALUES RANKING 3. GIVE REASONS FOR THE FIRST THREE VALUES ONLY 1. My first value is............................................. because...........................…….. .................................................................................................................... .................................................................................................................... 2. My second value is........................................... because...........................……….. .................................................................................................................... .................................................................................................................... 3. My third value is. …………………………. because...........................………... ................................................................................................................... 4. SMALL GROUP SHARING Go into your small groups and take turns to share and discuss the 10 priority values you have chosen your ranking and the reasons For your first 3 choices. 5. GENERAL GROUP INTERACTION After the small group meeting, we flash back on the whole session step by step and evaluate the dynamics that we have gone through at various stages. 6. CONCLUSION After a few moments of quiet reflection, fill in the following: 1. What I’ve learnt from this exercise? 2. My decision for change in growth. COLLEGE
  • 27. WIN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN Tally Sheet D i r e c t i o n: For top successive rounds you and your partners will choose either an “ x “ or a “ y “ .The pay-off for each round is dependent upon the pattern of choices made in your cluster: 4 X‘s.......... Loss Rs. 100/ - each. 3 X‘s.......... Win Rs. 100/- each. 1 Y ........... Loss Rs. 200/- each. 2 X‘s.......... Win Rs. 200/- each. 2 Y‘s.......... Loss Rs. 200/- each. 1X .......... Win Rs. 300/- each. 3 Y‘s........... Loss Rs. 100/- each. 4 Y‘s........... Win Rs. 100/- each. S t r a t e g y: You are to confer with your group partners during each round and make a JOINT DECISION. Before round no.5, 8 and 10, you confer in your cluster. Round Time Confer Choice Won Lost Score Allowed with Rs Rs 1 2 mins Gp. partners 2 1 mins do 3 1 mins do 4 1 mins do 5 3mins reps from Bonus round other groups pay - off 1mins Gp. partners multiplied by 3 6 1 mins Gp. partners 7 1 mins do
  • 28. 8 3 mins Reps pay - off multiplied 1 mins Gp. partners by 5 9 1 mins Gp. partners 10 3 mins Reps pay - off 2 mins Gp. partners multiplied by 10
  • 29. SR.NO. TEAM A TEAM B TEAM C TEAM D 1.C A 2.C A 3.C A 4.C A 5.C A 6.C A 7.C A 8.C A 9.C A 10.C A TOTAL
  • 30. BROKEN SQUARES GAME + Each team of 5 members. + As many teams as possible, depending on the square packets you have ready. + These 5 squares are mixed in 5 different envelopes. * Squares of different colours can be made not necessary of the same colour. RULES (1) Silence. (2) No communication, No pointing. (3) Form a Square (task). (4) You can give -- not in common but to the individual who requires. (5) Cannot ask. Can give but not take (6) All the squares are of the same size. For Umpire or Referee (his duty). Observers -- observe for sometime. Recorders -- record what’s going on. Enforcers -- enforce. INSTRUCTIONS TO THE OBSERVER / JUDGE: Your job is part observer and part judge. Make sure each participant observes the rules: 1. No talking, pointing, or any other kind of communing among The five people in your group. 2 Participants may give pieces to other participants but may not take pieces from other members. 3 Participants may not simply throw their pieces into the center for others to take, they have to give the pieces directly to one individual. 4 It is permissible for a member to give away all the pieces to his puzzle, even if he has already formed a square. DO YOUR BEST TO STRICTLY ENFORCE THESE RULES: As an observer you may want to look for some of the following: 1 Who is willing to give away pieces of the puzzle? 2 Did anyone finish his puzzle and then somewhat divorces himself from the struggles to the rest of the group? 3 Is there anyone who continually struggles with his pieces but yet is unwilling to give any or all of them away? 4. How many people are actively engaged in mentally putting the pieces together? 5 Periodically check the level of frustration and anxiety - who’s pulling his hair out? 6. Was there any critical turning point at which time the group began to cooperate? 7 Did anyone try to violate the rules by talking or pointing as a means of helping fellow member solve their puzzle?
  • 31. VALUE AUCTION SALE (Animators sheet) STEP 1. -- Distribute the worksheet to each individual. -- Ask them to write 3 best values they like according to rank. -- Then divide the whole class into 4 groups. -- Give a name to each group. -- Ask the teams to select their own captain / leader. -- Give each group a worksheet. -- Now according to their groups ask them to choose 3 values according to rank. -- Ask the captain to write the team name on the worksheet. -- Collect the group worksheet from the respective 4 teams. -- The worksheets have to be submitted by the animator. STEP 2. + The animator distributes money worth Rs. 300 /- to the captain of each team. + Then the rules of the Auction Sale are explained by the animator. 1. Only the captain does the bidding. 2. Bidding has to start with Rs.10 only and then continue with may be Rs. 20, 50 etc. + How is the value won: The Animator starts auctioning the value one by one. (He starts saying any one for the value eg. HONESTY. “It’s an important value in life, all must and should live by it.” Anyone for 10, come on, Hai, Hai there’s 20, anyone for 30, nobody OK. 30, 1. 30, 2... and 30, 3. There it goes the value of honesty to team A...) + The money is collected from the team that bought the value and the value Card is given to them. + Meanwhile the animator draws the following chart on the blackboard. + Continue the auctioning till the 9th round. + After the 9th round is over request the teams to be free to give money to. the other teams if they would like to do so. + Wait for 2 minutes or so. + Then begin the auctioning for the last round. + In all there are ten values to be sold and hence ten biddings.
  • 32. VALUE AUCTION SALE RANK NO. VALUES _____ 1. To be Honest, Sincere and Truthful. _____ 2. To be filled with the spirit of Generosity and Availability. _____ 3. To be always Obedient to my elders and superiors. _____ 4. To be Cheerful constantly no matter how tough the going is. _____ 5. To be Peace - Loving and work to build a Community of Peace. _____ 6. To be Hard - Working and constantly faithful to my duties. _____ 7. To be Loving and Friendly to all people at all times. _____ 8. To be Intelligent and have the ability to grasp all things. _____ 9. To be always Helpful to people in times of difficulty. _____ 10. To be Courageous and Bold in the face of trials. SCORE TABLE - WINNER IN THE WORLD Values bought and amount paid to be written hear: NO TEAMS VALUE TAKEN AMOUNT PAYED A B C D A B C D 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Total PLUS POINTS MINUS POINTS + 50 Team that took the first value - 50 Team that has not taken the 1st + 30 Team that took the second value value + 20 Team that took the third value - 30 Team that has not taken the 2nd + Rs Given by the team to another team value Gets a Bonus of that amount - 20 Team that has not taken the 3rd value - 10 Team that took unnecessary values - Rs The amount remaining with the team SCORE TABLE - WINNER FOR LIFE
  • 33. The Plus & Minus points to be written on the blackboard with the following table: TEAM VALUES VALUES AMOUNT TOTAL CHOSEN TAKEN + VE -VE A B C D Values are what we are!
  • 34. PERSONS ARE GIFTS Persons are gifts which the Creator God sends to us ... wrapped. Some come wrapped very beautifully, some in very ordinary wrapping paper. Some persons are very loosely wrapped, others very tightly. Sometimes the gift has been mishandled in the mail. Once in a while there is a special delivery! But the wrapping is not the gift! It is so easy to make that mistake; It’s amusing when babies do. Some person-gifts are very easy to open up; Others need to be helped out of their boxes. Is it because they are afraid? Do they think it might hurt to be opened? Maybe they have been opened up before and thrown away! Could it be that their gift is not for me? I am a person. Therefore, I am a gift, too! A gift to myself, first of all, God my Creator gave myself to me! Have I ever really looked inside the wrapping? Am I afraid to? Perhaps I’ve never accepted the gift that I am. Could it be that there is something else inside the wrappings than what I think is there? Maybe I’ve never seen the wonderful gift that I am. Could God’s gift be anything but beautiful? I love the gifts, which those who love me give to me. Why not the gift of me? And I am a gift to other persons. Am I willing to given to others? To be a person for others? Do others have to be content with the wrapping? Never permitted to enjoy the gift? Every meeting of persons is an exchange of gifts. Love is a relationship between persons who see themselves as they really are: Gifts given by God to be given to others. Author unknown.
  • 35. PERSON-GIFTS I HAVE MY TALENTS
  • 36. THE WRAPPING AND THE GIFT “Each one of you has received a special grace, so, like good stewards responsible for all these different graces of God, put yourselves at the service of others” (1 Peter 4:10) THE OUTSIDE WRAPPING THE INSIDE GIFT Check the phrases that fit: Wrapped very beautifully Lots of bows and frills Check the phrases that fit: Brown paper and string Afraid to look Simple, classic beauty Easily damaged Mishandled in the mail A special gift from God Weather damaged Packed with care Stamped “Special Delivery” Need help getting opened Stamped “Fragile” Willing to be shared Rattles around, but can’t get out Has changed much Changing all the time Has been opened before and thrown away Rare treasure ... one of a kind HOW AM I WRAPPED 1..... 2.... 3.... 4..... 5.... 6..... 7..... 8..... 9..... 10 Tightly wrapped. Open Use the scale above to indicate how closed or open you are in your relationships. THE WRAPPING IS NOT THE GIFT Some people come in packages that are “different” in some way – damaged, or out of shape, or strange looking, or just worn out. It takes a special kind of awareness and sensitivity to discover the real person inside such special wrappings. Sometimes we
  • 37. act as if the handicap is more important than the person who has it. We never give ourselves a chance to discover the beautiful person inside the different wrapping. Check the boxes on the left to show how well you know persons with each handicap listed below. FriendClose intanceAcqua- Members Family Deaf Blind Physically challenged Mentally challenged Senile Badly scared Obese Chronically ill “Strange” Other
  • 38. GIFTS I WISH FOR I WILL BE A GIFT TO ........... BY WITH LOVE FROM .......... PERSON GIFTS...... Persons who shared this programme with us.
  • 39. RESOLVING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS A. HOW DO I ACT IN CONFLICTS The proverbs listed below can be thought of as description of some of the different strategies for resolving conflicts reflecting traditional wisdom. Read each of the proverbs carefully. Using the scale below indicate how typical each proverb is of your actions in a conflict. 5 - VERY typical of the way I act in a conflict. 4 - FREQUENTLY typical of the way I act in a conflict. 3 - SOMETIMES typical of the way I act in a conflict. 2 - SELDOM typical of the way I act in a conflict. 1 - NEVER typical of the way I act in a conflict. ........... 1. It is easier to refrain than to retreat from a quarrel. . ............ 2. If you cannot make a person think as you do, make him or her do what you think. ............ 3. Soft words win hard hearts. ........... 4. You scratch my back. I’ll scratch yours. . ........... 5. Come now and let us reason together. . ........... 6. When two quarrel, the person who keeps silent first is the most . praiseworthy. ............ 7. Might overcome right. ............ 8. Smooth words make smooth ways. ........... 9. Better half a loaf than no bread at all. . ........... 10. Truth lies in knowledge, not in majority opinion. . ........... 11. He who fights and runs away lives to fight another day. . ............ 12. He hath conquered well that hath made his enemies flee. ............ 13. Kill your enemies with kindness. ........... 14. A fair exchange brings no quarrel. . ........... 15. No person has the final answer but every person has piece to . contribute. ........... 16. Stay away from people who disagree with you. . ............ 17. Fields are won by those who believe in winning ............ 18. Kind’s words are worth much and cost little. ........... 19. Tit for tat is fair play . ........... 20. Only the person who is willing to give up his /her monopoly on truth . can ever profit from the truth that others hold. ........... 21. Avoid quarrelsome people as thy will only make your life miserable . ............ 22. A person who will not flee will make others flee ............ 23. Soft words ensure harmony. ........... 24. One gift for another makes good friends (give and take) .
  • 40. ........... 25. Bring your conflicts into the open and face them directly, only then will . the best solution be discovered. ........... 26. The best way of handling conflicts is to avoid them. . ............ 27. Put your foot down where you mean to stand. ............ 28. Gentleness will triumph over anger. ........... 29. Getting part of what you want is better than not getting anything at all. . ........... 30. Frankness, honesty and trust will move mountains. . ........... 31. There is nothing so important you have to fight for it. . ........... 32. There are two kinds of people in the world, the winner and losers. . ........... 33. When one hits you with a stone, hit him/her with a piece of cotton. . ............ 34. When both people give in halfway, a fair settlement is achieved. ............ 35. By digging and digging, the truth will be discovered. B. SCORING: How do I Act in Conflict I II III IV V 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 Total Tot Tot Tot Tot The highest scored strategy is the one most used by us and the second highest one is our backup strategy, to be used if the first one fails.
  • 41. THE FRIENDSHIP QUIZ I. The following statements will help you to clarify your ideas on friendship. It is up to you to decide which statements are true and which are false. If you agree with a statement, circle “T” (True). If you disagree with a statement, circle “F” (False) T F Friendships are necessary for a happy life. T F A true friend never causes pain T F True friendship requires that the friends be of the same age and background. T F True friends never disagree. T F True friendships are rare. T F A friend should be ready to do whatever I ask him/her. T F Friendship involves sacrifice. T F Friendship involves risk-taking. T F The chief demand of a friend is that I agree with him/her. T F A true friend helps me to see myself more realistically T F Friendship can come to an end. T F If someone says, “He/she is so good-looking, I like him/her so much.” This is a sign of true friendship. T F If you like someone because he/she is useful (e.g. a teacher, a relative, a Cook.....), this is not yet a true friendship. T F The chief demand of a true friend is that I be true to the best in myself. T F A true friend sees my good qualities and helps me to see them. T F A true friend notices my mistakes, but hides them from me. T F A sign of friendship is, speaking well of the friend in his/her absence T F It is easier to forgive a friend than a stranger. T F The best test of true friendship is the pleasure I experience in the friend’s presence T F A true friendship opens me to many more friendships T F A true friendship can lead me to God. T F A strong and talented person does not need friends. T F A good way to make friends is to be friendly. T F The quality of a friendship depends on the quality of the friends. T F A true friendship means that I should not be friendly with anybody else.
  • 42. II. QUALITIES OF A GOOD FRIEND Here are a few qualities of a good friend. Rank them in the order of importance to you. ..............Honesty ...............Warmth and affection ..............Social status ...............Good listener ..............Trustworthiness ...............Good looks ..............Good humour ..............Intelligence II. YOUR FRIENDSHIP GRAPH Rate yourself on each of the following traits. Mark “5” if you are very strong “4” if you are somewhat strong, etc. The graph will give you an idea of how good a friend you are. To have a more objective picture, you need to get yourself rated by three or four people who know you well and will share their impressions frankly. 5. Very strong 6. Rather strong 7. Average 8. Below Average 9.Poor
  • 43. THE GIVING TREE Once there was a tree…. And she loved a little girl. And everyday the girl would come and she would gather her leaves and make them into crowns and play king of the forest. She would climb up her trunk and swing from her branches and eat apples. And they would play hide seek. And when she was tired, she would sleep in her shade. And the girl loved the tree … very much. And the tree was happy. But time went by, and girl grew older. And the tree was often alone. Then one-day the girl came to the tree and the tree said: “Come child, come and climb upon my trunk and swing from my branches and at apples and play in my shade and be happy. But the girl said: “I am too big to climb and play. I want to buy a thing and have fun. I want some money Can you give me some money? “I am sorry, but I have no money. I have only leaves and apples. Take my apples girl, and sell them in the city. Then you will have some money and you will be happy.” And so the girl climbed the tree and gathered her apples and carried them away. And the tree was happy. But the girl stayed away for a long time… and the tree was sad. And then one day the girl came back and the tree shook with joy and she said: “Come girl climb up my trunk and swing from my branches and be happy.” “I am too busy to climb the trees. I want a house to keep me warm. I want a husband and I want children, and so I need a house. Can you give me a house?” “I have no house. The forest is my house, but you may cut off my branches and built a house, then you will be happy. And so the girl cut off her branches and carried them away to build her house. And the tree was happy. But the girl stayed away for a long time… And when she came back, the tree was so happy, she could hardly speak. She whispered. “Come girl. Come play.” “I am too old and sad to play. I want a boat that will take me far away from here. Can you give me a boat?” “Cut down my trunk and make a boat. Then you can sail away… and be happy.” And so the girl cut down her trunk and made a boat and sailed away. And the tree was happy, happy… but not really. After a long time the girl came back again. And the tree said: “I am sorry girl, but I have nothing left to give you. My apples are gone.”
  • 44. “My teeth are too weak for apples “My branches are gone, you cannot swing on them…” “I am too old to swing on the branches.” “My trunk is gone, you cannot climb…” “I am too tired to climb” The tree signed and said: “I am sorry, I wish I could give you something”… “I don’t need very much now, just a quite place to sit and rest. I am very tired.” Straightening her up as she could, the tree said: “Well, an old stump is good for sitting and resting. Come girl, and sit down. Sit down and rest.” And the girl did. And the tree was happy. THE GIVING TREE 1. Did the tree love the girl? How can you make it out? 2. Did you like the behavior of the girl? Why? 3. How much should we give and for how long? 4. Can you apply this parable to your own life? Give instance. Mention five persons whose lives can be compared to the Giving Tree.
  • 45. 16. THE KNOW YOURSELF QUIZ A Quizzical quiz to know whether you are a born procrastinator, a dare-devil and -or a go-getter, Get going and find out. 1. When taking risks of making changes are concerned, you: a) Take quick decisions and act. b) Fear failure and leave it to destiny. 2. When saddled with an unusual Job. you: a) Find yourself working enthusiastically at it b) Delay an attempt or leave it altogether. 3. When you have a legitimate grievance, you: a) Voice it and see that you get justice. b) Avoid confrontation. 4. While Chasing major goals in life, you: a) Plan methodically to implement them. b) Plan but never put them in action. 5. For your lack of success and happiness, you: a) Blame yourself. b) Blame external factors. 6. Somebody you hardly know, has been spreading rumors about you, you: a) Ignore the gossip since you are such things. b) Confront the person and demand that he / she stop it, or else! 7. You meet a very attractive person who takes no notice of you, you: a) Hang around and hope to be noticed. b) Walk up and strike a conversation. 8. The goals you set for yourself are: a) Realistic. b) Aspirational. 9. Relationships with your family and you are one of: a) Support and love. b) Averse and manipulative with others calling the shots. 10. Six months ago when you landed the present job or project, you were on a cloud but now you are bored. You: a) Ignore the itch, it’s just too soon to leave. b) Update your resume.
  • 46. 15. VISION OF MYSELF You are given 25 gold coins to buy the qualities you need to build up a good “ image of yourself ” You could select from the alternatives given below ......... but not spend over the 25 fold coins allotted. In the first column on the right put the amount you are spending to become the kind of person you wish to be. In the second column put amount you wish to spend to “buy” a “good make “ 1. Each of this group costs 6 gold coins A good-looking face Very popular Intelligent A great Christian Very kind 2. Each of these costs 5 gold coins A well-built figure/ body A good conversationalist Tactful and good sense of humor 3. Each of this group costs 4 gold coins Large chest or bust Athletic Attends church - is religious Honest - doesn’t lie or cheat. 4. Each of this group cost 3 gold coins Nicety dressed and well - groomed Likes drama art, and music Well mannered - comes from a nice home. Ambitious and hard working 5. Each of this group costs 2 gold coins The right height Gets good grades Likes children Brave - stands up for rights 6. Each of this group costs 1 gold coin Choice of color in eyes and hair Owns a car Wealthy- or moderately so Sincere and serious.
  • 47. 16. SELF - UNDERSTANDING Describe your real feelings about your body build, size, appearance and general health. Appearance Health excellent excellent good good fair fair poor poor If your are reluctant to write down your reactions, please allow sufficient time give them consideration in depth. Describe your personality, Describe your feelings about interest and concerns : your strengths and weaknesses. * Are you outgoing and comfortable socially ? * How many real friends do? you have ? * What are your involvements? other than school or work ? Describe some of your more important needs and desires. - friends - success at school or work - active social life - recognition - accomplishment - pleasures - self - control In what area is your greatest personal need at this time? - studies - social life - work Try to specify the need. Is it conceivable, believable, achievable? List some alternatives as to how this need might be met. Describe your ideals and goals. What kind of person do you hope to become some day? Values - those things that are important to you? - wealthy * related to school or work - comfortable * related to politics and - trailblazer government - secure * other - important - other
  • 48. The case of a difficult choice It is a bright sunny day when a group is enjoying a picnic by the rocky sea shore. One of them notices a cave by which they decide to explore. Fully engaged in discovery they do not notice the tide coming very fast. the only chance to safety is a narrow opening to wards the rear end of the cave. At the rate the water is rising to make it to safety since the opening permits exit one at a time, the others are doomed to die. The following are the members of the group. (1) A Scientist. 80 years old, on the process of discovering a new drug. (2) A 25 year old widowed mother of three young children. (3) A middle aged politician who has supported bills for the upliftment of the poor and the needy at the risk of his career. (4) A business man’s son. Aged 18, who is a wastrel and addicted to drugs. (5) A doctor in his 50’s working among lepers. (6) A music composer, aged 45 years, who has made a great contribution to the Indian film. ( 7 ) A 30 year old rural nurse who is suffering form cancer. ( 8 ) A 55 year old ex-military man who had his right leg amputated while defending the country in the India-China war. ( 9 ) A 12 year old boy full of energy unlike his companions who are overwhelmed with fear. ( 10 ) One of the nuns, who is in her forties and being trained to take care of the needy by Mother Theresa. Which five would you choose to let pass through the opening to safety? List them in priority. You will have to give reasons for your choice group discussion. Individual Work: 1. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 2. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 3. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 4. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 5.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
  • 49. Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Group Work: 1. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 2. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 3. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 4. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reasons -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
  • 50. INSTRUCTION COMPRENSION TESTING These twenty-one questions are a Test on how well you follow instructions. Do the work on your own. Absolutely no talking or asking questions. Read through all the questions before beginning. Work fast. You have only five Minutes to do the job. No talking. 1. Print your name backwards . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2. Circle the work name in the above sentence. 3. Draw five small squares in the upper left - hand corner of this paper. 4. Put an X in each square mentioned in number 3. 5. Put a circle around each square. 6. Sign your name under the title of this page. 7. After the title, write “yes, yes, yes,” 8. Put a circle around sentence number 6. 9. Put an X in the lower left - head corner of this page. 10. Draw a triangle around the X you just made. 11. On the back of this page, multiply 70 x 30 12. Draw a circle around the word “ paper ” in sentence number 3. 13. Loudly call out your first name when you get to this point In the test. 14. If you think that you have carefully followed directions, call out “ I have ” 15. On the reverse side of this paper, add 107 and 78. 16. Put a circle around your answer to this problem. 17. Count out in your normal speaking voice from 1 to 10 backwards. 18. Punch 3 small holes in your paper with your pencil point here...... 19. If you are the first person to get this far, call out loudly, “ I am the leader in following directions ” 20. Underline all even numbers on this page. 21. Now that you have finished reading carefully, do only sentences one and two. TAKE SHELTER
  • 51. The Situation Your group is responsible for the welfare of Human Ecology Communes throughout the world. These communes bring together a variety of different kinds of people from all areas of life to see if humans of widely differing backgrounds and outlooks can live together peacefully and productively. Suddenly you learn that the ‘life balance’ at one of these communes is dangerously upset because of unauthorized nuclear experimentation. The lives of all commune members are imperiled by radioactivity. You receive a desperate call from the leader of that commune asking for help. There are ten people at the commune, but enough water, food air and space in their anti- radiation shelter for only six of the people for three months. They know that, should they decide among them selves which six are to go into the shelter, they are likely to become irrational, even violent. That is why they are calling on you to determine which six are to be saved. They will abide by your decision. Your Part Your group at Human Ecology Headquarters has only 25 minutes to make its decision. If you delay, all member of the commune will perish from radioactivity. The six who are selected must be in their shelter in half an hour. You have to: (1) Choose six persons individually; (2) Choose six as a group, after a discussion. As help, you can rank in order of priority when you work alone. Information available This is all you know about the ten people; 1. Nuclear scientist, age 47 his careless experiments caused the dangerous radio- activity. 2. His wife, 35; four months pregnant. She has had one abortion. 3. A skilled manual worker 40 years old; illiterate. 4. A 20-year-old college girl. Student leader-gifted, but very proud. 5. A policeman with a gun; strong law-and-order man suspended from the police force for brutality. 6. Alcoholic priest; 50 years old. 7. A former Miss India, 40 years old. Flirt with a sharp tongue. Runs a beauty parlor. 8. Test Cricketer, 25 years old. No family, very low IQ 9. Politician, 45 years old. Corrupt to the core hoping to hold big positions. 10. 50 year old illicit liquor peddler (woman), champion of the poor Your Decision The six people I choose personally are-(in order of preference) with reasons 1. 2.
  • 52. 3. 4. 5. 6. The six people chosen by my group are- with reasons 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 5. 6. Reflection Answer the following questions personally. 1. Did you listen to the opinions of others in your group? 2. Were you inclined to change your mind because of group pressure? Or, if you did change your mind, was it because of logical and persuasive arguments ? 3. Did your single-mindedness prevent your group from reaching a decision in time? Did someone else’s? 4. After your group arrived at a decision different from yours, did you still feel you were right ? 5. What do your selections tell you about your values ?
  • 53. Rope (leader leads the rest blindfolded) Purpose : Leadership, team work, understanding, self confidence Objective : To create a sense of team spirit and bring out one’s leadership qualities. Material required : Rope, Kerchiefs Time limit : 45 minutes. Procedure : - Divide into 4 teams. - Choose a leader for each team. - (Each team performs the act ) - Blindfold all the members of a team, except the leader.. - The leaders hand is tied to the rope with a kerchief - The rest of the team holds his/her shoulder in a line formation. - The leader goes wherever the rope leads. - Time limit to be recorded of each team.