2. Self-talk is how you talk to yourself, either
aloud or silently and mentally.
An internal conversation where you provide
opinions and evaluations about yourself.
Can be either positive or negative and both
have an impact on how you feel about
yourself.
WHAT IS SELF-TALK?
3. Boosts your confidence
Keeps you from feeling depressed or negative
Eliminates stress
Keeps you healthier
Improves your body, mind and soul
Helps build good relationships
Increases happiness and success
POSITIVE SELF-TALK
4. Destroys self-esteem
Distorts views of people and situations
Creates a negative perspective
Causes communication breakdowns
Tears apart relationships
Limits abilities
Limits happiness and success
Causes stress
NEGATIVE SELF-TALK
5. Research shows that we have a negative bias, that we tend to
think more negative thoughts than positive thoughts
We think thousands of thoughts each day and over 80% are
negative
Living in a negative environment creates a bad habit of
negative thinking
We talk to ourselves in a negative way and become own worst
enemy
Need to work hard to focus on positive thinking
NEGATIVE THINKING IS MORE
NATURAL….
6. We don’t do anything right
Will never have any friends
Have no value
Nobody will ever love us
Will never be happy or successful
There is no hope
Negative thinking can destroy our entire world!
WHAT NEGATIVE
THINKING TELLS US
7. You are getting a vaccine as a child and the doctor says, “This is going to
hurt”. So every time you get a needle, you expect that it will hurt.
Everyone has a different pain tolerance and may not experience pain, so
this is a false statement.
Your mother tells you not to sit on a public toilet seat because it is dirty.
This can create a fear of using public toilets. It would have been better
to show you how to clean or cover the seat so you could use it
comfortably.
A friend tells you about a new employee at your company who is “very
mean and you should stay away from them”. This will probably stop you
from even finding out what that person is really like. They might be a
very nice person, but somebody has experienced a personality conflict
with them and has a biased opinion.
NEGATIVITY FROM THE
PAST
8. 1. Become aware of your thoughts
2. Listen to what you are actually saying
3. Think about how your words make you
feel
4. Change any negative words into positive
words
5. Keep practising daily
HOW TO CHANGE
SELF-TALK
9. POSITIVE OR
NEGATIVE SELF-TALK?
Are these statements positive or negative?
1. I’m too stupid to learn anything. No point going to college.
2. I’m so fat, I will never lose weight. No point going on a diet or
exercising.
3. I’m not a good communicator, but I try hard to talk to people.
4. I make a lot of mistakes, but I always try to learn something and do
better the next time.
5. Nobody likes me so I will never have any friends.
6. I have a great family who supports me and loves me.
10. 1. I CAN’T becomes I CAN.
2. I WON’T becomes I WILL.
3. I DON’T becomes I DO.
4. I SHOULDN’T becomes I SHOULD.
5. I’M NOT becomes I AM
6. I’M AFRAID becomes I’M NOT AFRAID.
NEGATIVE WORDS CAN BECOME
POSITIVE WORDS
11. CHANGING NEGATIVE
TO POSITIVE
Change these negative statements into positive statements.
1. I’m too stupid to learn anything.
2. I’m so fat, I will never lose weight.
3. Nobody likes me.
4. I can’t do anything right.
5. Everyone tells me I’m a loser.
6. My life is a mess.
12. Positive people can lift your mood and help you focus on staying
positive
Meet with people who have same interests as you – a group, club,
church, meeting, sports
Eliminate or cut down on time spent with negative people (may be
hard with close family or friends but do the best you can)
Develop a positive perspective and then influence any negative
people you come in contact with
Can you think of any people who have a positive influence on you?
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH
POSITIVE PEOPLE
13. Read inspirational books
Listen to upbeat, happy music
Watch family, funny movies on TV
Put up comforting, colourful pictures or poster with
motivational sayings
Have comfortable furniture and colourful decorations
Get a pet (if you like animals)
Name some positive things that you could surround
yourself with?
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH
POSITIVE THINGS
14. Go to spots that are warm and friendly
Enjoy the beauty in nature
Meet a friend for coffee
Take your family out to dinner
Avoid dark, dangerous places
Name some positive places that you enjoy going to.
BE IN POSITIVE PLACES