Good parenting lecture by Dr. Prasanna Khatawkar at Hirachand Nemchand Wachnalay, Solapur. http://mentalhealthguideindia.com

1. GOOD PARENTING
Dr. Prasanna P. Khatawkar
Consultant Psychiatrist
Aadhar Hospital
Solapur

2. HOW DO CHILDREN
LEARN ?!
 WATCHING THEIR PARENTS
 PEER GROUP
 SCHOOL AND TEACHERS
 MEDIA
 SELF EXPERIENCES

3. WHAT IS NORMAL
DEVELOPMENT ?
 AGE APPROPRIATE
 SOCIALLY APPROPRIATE
 INCLUDING ALL MAJOR DOMAINS
 RESPECTING OTHERS
 MAINTAINING GOOD SELF IMAGE
 GOAL DIRECTED

4. COMMON PROBLEMS OF
CHILDHOOD
 REFUSAL TO EAT
 SCHOOL REFUSAL
 BED WETTING AND PASSING
STOOLS IN CLOTHES
 SIBLING RIVALRY
 STEALING
 HYPERACTIVITY

5. COMMON PROBLEMS OF
CHILDHOOD
 OPPOSITIONAL BEHAVIOUR
 SHY OR DISINHIBITED CHILD
 PHOBIAS
 CHILDHOOD DEPRESSION
 DISSIOCIATIVE DISORDERS OF
CHILDHOOD
 MENTAL RETARDATION
 STAMMERING / CLUTTERING ETC.

6. COMMON MISTAKES PARENTS
MAKE
 BEATING
 COMPARISONS
 MAKING CHILD JUDGE IN THE
PARENTS ARGUMENT
 PARENTS DEBATE IN FRONT OF
THE CHILD
 SUBSTANCE USE IN FRONT OF
CHILD

7. A – B – C – DA – B – C – D OF CHILD PSYCHIATR
 A = ANTECEDENT
 B = BEHAVIOUR
 C = CONSEQUENCE
 D =

8. BEGINNING OF SCHOOL
 SCHOOL REFUSAL
 FREQUENT CRYING
 NIGHTMARES
 SEPARATION ANXIETY

9. SIBLING RIVALRY
 USUALLY AFTER BIRTH OF
YOUNGER CHILD
 FEELING NEGLECTED / LEFT OUT
 CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR
 IRRITABILITY

10. MY CHILD DOESN’T
LISTEN !!
 COMMON PROBLEM
 GIVE A GOOD LISTENING TO THE
CHILD
 INTROSPECTION BY PARENTS IS
ESSENTIAL
 RULES SHOULD BE SAME FOR ALL
FAMILY MEMBERS

11. STEALING
 TRY AND UNDERSTAND WHY THE
CHILD DID THE ACT
 PUNISHMENT ESSENTIAL

12. BED WETTING & PASSING
STOOLS IN CLOTHES
 BED WETTING – COMMON
PROBLEM
 USUALLY CAN BE TREATED EASILY
 PASSING STOOLS IN CLOTHES IS
AN IMPORTANT FINDING
 PARENTS / FAMILY NEED TO BE
EVALUATED

13. HYPERACTIVITY
 DOESN’T SIT IN ONE PLACE
 THOUGHTLESS
 IMPULSIVE
 DIFFICULTY COMPLETING TASKS
 DISTURBS OTHERS
 ACCIDENT PRONE
 MEDICINES PROVIDE MAJOR
RELIEF

14. ROLE OF MEDIA
 LIKE IT OR DON’T LIKE IT, IMPACT
OF MEDIA IS GOING TO BE THERE
 BETTER, WE USE IT FOR OUR
BETTERMENT !!!
 LIMIT THE TIME SPENT
 PARENTS TOO SHOULD FOLLOW
THE RULES

15. QUALITIES OF GOOD
PARENTS
 ALWAYS AS A UNIT
 CARING AND STRICT
 CONSISTENT
 RELIABLE
 PROTECTIVE
 FLEXIBLE
 INNOVATIVE

16. ROLE OF ELDER SIBLINGS
 SUPPORTIVE
 CARING
 TEACHING
 BE A GOOD FRIEND
 SMALL MISTAKES – HANDLE AT
YOUR LEVEL; MAJOR MISTAKES –
TELL PARENTS

17. ROLE OF GRAND PARENTS
 NOT TO INTERFERE TOO-MUCH
 ROLE SUPPORTIVE TO CHILD’S
PARENTS
 NO PUNISHMENTS !!!

18. HOW ARE TEACHERS
EXPECTED TO BEHAVE ?
 TREAT EACH CHILD AS UNIQUE
 DO NOT COMPARE
 IDENTIFY NEEDS OF EACH CHILD
 AVOID PHYSICAL PUNISHMENTS
 DO NOT INSULT THE CHILD IN
FRONT OF OTHERS
 APPRECIATE GOOD BEHAVIOURS

19. KEEPING YOUR CHILD
MOTIVATED
 SET SMALL GOALS
 TOKEN FOR COMPLETION OF EACH
SMALL STEP
 APPRECIATION
 BE PART OF HIS TEAM !

20. WHAT TOYS / GAMES
WOULD BE HELPFUL
 AGE APPROPRIATE
 CONSIDERTHE MOTOR AND COGNITIVE
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE OF THE CHILD
 BOTH INDOOR AND OUTDOOR
 ENCOURAGE PARTICIPATION IN
COMPETITIONS
 EXPLORATION AND NEW LEARNING
IMPORTANT

21. HOW DO YOU DEVELOP A
GOOD PEER GROUP FOR
YOUR CHILD ?
 BIRDS OF A FEATHER, FLOCK
TOGETHER !!!!
 TEACH THEM WHEN THEY ARE
YOUNG
 ENSURE THAT YOUR CHILD STAYS
AWAY FROM BAD COMPANY FROM
THE BEGINNING ITSELF
 BE OPEN
 SET AN EXAMPLE

22. IMPORTANT DOMAINS WE
HAVE TO WORK INTO
 LANGUAGE DEVELOPMENT
 SPORTS
 MUSIC
 DANCE
 OTHER AREAS OF INTREST
(ABACUS, YOGA, TRAVEL, SUMMER
CAMPS ETC.)
…………. THIS IS IN ADDITION TO
ROUTINE ACADEMIC WORK !!!!

23. BASIC PRINCIPLES
 PUNISH THE BEHAVIOUR, NOT THE
CHILD
 GIVE YOUR CHILD AGE
APPROPRIATE RESPONSIBILITIES
 IGNORE SMALL MISTAKES,
APPRECIATE EVEN THE SMALLEST
GOOD DEED.

24. BASIS PRINCIPLES
 CONSISTANCY IN APPRECIATION AND
PUNISHMENT PATTERN
 AVOID CRITISISING THE CHILD IN FRONT
OF HIS FRIENDS OR WHEN IN A GROUP
 APPRECIATE IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY,
SCOLD / PUNISH IN PRIVATE
 NEVER DEBATE IN FRONT OF THE CHILD
 MANAGE YOUR DIFFRENCE OF OPINIONS

25. BASIC PRINCIPLES
 SHOW RESPECT TO ELDERS AND
LAW (ATLEAST IN FRONT OF THE
CHILD!!!)
 AVOID SUBSTANCE USE IN FRONT
OF CHILDREN
 MONITOR YOUR CHILDS FRIENDS
 ROLE OF MEDIA

26. 1. SELF IMAGE
 A – GOOD
 B – BAD

27. 2. SELF CONFIDENCE
 A – GOOD
 B - BAD

28. 3. LISTENING TO
COMMANDS
 A – GOOD
 B - BAD

29. 4. SOCIALISATION
 A - GOOD
 B - BAD

30. 5. ENURESIS
 A - ABSENT
 B - PRESENT

31. 6. ENCOPRESIS
 A - ABSENT
 B - PRESENT

32. 7. TEMPER TANTRUMS
 A - ABSENT
 B - PRESENT

33. 8. RELATION WITH
SIBLINGS
 A - GOOD
 B - BAD

34. 9. SHARING
 A - GOOD
 B - BAD

36. THANK YOU

37.  DR. PRASANNA P. KHATAWKAR
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