Have you ever tried to change someone? To shape someone into your idea of a perfect husband, a perfect child, a perfect parent? Do our expectations of others in the group help them or hinder them?
2. Have you ever tried to
change someone? To shape
someone into your idea of a
perfect husband, a perfect
child, a perfect parent? Do
our expectations of others
in the group help them or
hinder them?
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4. What to Do
1. If participants already know
each other, then without
talking, the “Sculptor” must
position the “statue” into a
pose that best illustrates how
he or she sees the other
person or to illustrate that
person’s place or contribution
to the group. If participants
don’t know each other well,
have them pose the “statue”
into a role or characteristic
that is important to the growth
and well being of the group.
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5. 2. Have each pair work in front of
the entire group. Take photos of
each “Statue” when the
sculptor is finished.
3. After the statue has been
positioned and a photo has
been taken, the “statue” must
try to explain to the group,
what quality he or she thinks
the sculptor is trying to
illustrate and explain what they
think it means to the rest of the
group. Verify with the sculptor
what was intended.
4. If you have time, ask the pair to
switch roles and do it again.
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6. Taking it to the Next Level
We usually have specific
expectations of other people. We
have an image in our mind of how
they should act, the things they
should do, and the characteristics
they possess. We may even try to
shape them according to our
expectations of what they should
be. But most of the time it simply
doesn’t work. Very soon they go
back to their old self, leaving both
frustrated.
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7. Debrief
• How did you feel when your
partner was trying to change
you?
• When you were a sculptor,
how did you feel when your
statue changed position from
what you intended?
• Did you understand what the
person was trying to change in
you? Why or why not?
• What were some of your
frustrations – from both sides
of the situation?
• How could you have been
more effective?
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8. Discussion
• What are some of the
positions or roles that we
have in our group? Make a list.
• What should a person in each
role or position do? What
characteristics should they
possess?
• Do you ever feel like others
are trying to change you?
What are some of the things
you think other people are
trying to change about you?
How does this make you feel?
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9. • Have you ever tried to change
another person? What were
the results?
• Would the results be different
if you modeled for them what
you would like them to
become? What if you tried to
inspire them rather than force
them? What is the most
effective means by which we
can bring about change in
another person’s life? Is force
sometimes necessary? If so,
how do you know how much
force to apply? How do you
insure that the change is
lasting?
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10. Application
Pick one trait that you would like
to see in others in the group and
choose to model that in YOUR
OWN LIFE! The only person you
can truly change is yourself.
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11. Possible Scripture References
Paul Instructed Timothy to “be an
example to the believers…” – 1
Timothy 4:12. The word for
“example” that Paul used comes
from the Greek word “tupos” and is
used in the sense of being a
pattern, an example, for others to
follow. Its like a mold that you can
press the clay into so that it takes
that same shape. Its like a loom
that guides the threads for the
weaving. Its like the painter’s
masterpiece that his students are
inspired to imitate.
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12. It’s a physical or visual reference so
that you know how something
should look when it is completed
and that can be used to guide
progress. Each of these illustrates,
with varying degrees of pressure,
the importance of a pattern or an
example for others to shape their
lives. Christ is that same example for
all of us. By God’s grace, one day we
might all be able to say as Paul said,
“Imitate me as I imitate Christ.”
“Follow my example as I follow the
example of Christ!” “Follow me to
the extent that I follow Christ”
(1 Corinthians 11:1)
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