2. Statistics 2 to 3% of people identify as lesbian, gay or bi- sexual Many individuals do not divulge this information due to fear of rejection and negative connotations Nature vs. nurture Evidence supporting both sides
3. Processes & Techniques Grieving Process (parents) - Denial, depression, anger, bargaining, acceptance - Typical to experience some or all these stages; however, does not have to be linear “Coming out” process for homosexual individual as well as parents - Parents also experience “coming out” to other family members as well as friends, so it’s a process that the entire family is involved in
4. Processes & Techniques Cont… Stage in the family life cycle Family dynamics as well as stressors can impact the “coming out” process; make it clear that these dynamics and stressors are not a result of their sexuality Communication training Work on verbal responses and communication with your child, as well as how the child will respond to questions and concerns from the parents
5. Processes & Techniques Cont… Problem- solving training The family as whole needs to be involved in how to appropriately handle the information, and how they can agree on boundaries, if any are needed
6. Coming out to oneself and others Three phase sequence Feeling different - Sexual questioning in regards to attraction and the self Confusion - Experience an inner struggle & deep sense of isolation - Alcohol & drug use as a form of coping - Suicidal thoughts: Unfortunately, many young people commit suicide due to feeling inadequate and confused, which can lead to bullying
7. Coming out to oneself and others Self- acceptance - React positively to strengthen the individuals view & create a valid, meaningful, fulfilling identity - Contact with other lesbian, gay, and bi- sexual individuals is important for reaching this phase
8. Education Sociological Theory Dispels myths & stereotypes, provide realistic notion of quality of life homosexual men & women can expect Provide guidance regarding lifestyle adaptations (Social adjustment) Focus attention on appropriate questions and timeframes Provides education regarding homosexual lifestyle
9. The path to acceptance and support Increase the parents education and move them towards acceptance Improve communication and problem solving abilities Increase self- confidence in order to lead to self- acceptance Talk openly with your child and vice versa to keep communication open and honest
10. Resources Human Rights Campaign LGBT groups at colleges LGBT associations PFLAG- Parents, families, and friends of Lesbians and Gays
