3 Hour Session delivered to 8th grade class of Columbus Academy. How do we learn about our various group identities like female, African American, Buddhist, homosexual, middle class, etc.? From whom do we learn the meaning of these terms? What messages have we internalized about ourselves and others? What are the differences that result in one person having a healthy self identity and another person experiencing own-group shame and hatred? Learn how we co-author peers' identity as well as our own, how the cycle of oppression and cycle of bullying pressure us to reinforce stereotypes, and what we can do as allies to break these cycles and work toward inclusion of all.

1. Who We Are:
Identity, Inclusion, and Allyship
Columbus Academy
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2. About Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Identity Development
 What is it?
 What are the various
dimensions of
identity?
 Why does it matter?
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4. Dimensions of Identity and Culture
This model of identifiers and culture was created by Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman for NAIS Summer Diversity
Institute, adapted from Loden and Rosener’s Workforce America! (1991) and from Diverse Teams at Work, Gardenswartz & Rowe
(SHRM 2003).
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5. Exercise: Up-Downs
• Stand proudly for your group
• Stand for as many groups
within one category
as applies to you
• If you are not standing,
cheer and applaud
the people who are
National Coalition Building Institute, Seattle Chapter, “Building Bridges Workshop,” Adapted by Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
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6. Birth Status
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7. Racial/Ethnic/Cultural Heritage
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8. Religion
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9. Socioeconomic Class
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10. Gender
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11. Sexual Orientation
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12. Ability
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13. Private Identity
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14. Debrief: Who Am I?
How did it feel to claim
various identities and
experiences? What did it
feel like to be applauded for
your identities and
experiences? To applaud
others? Did you learn
anything new, interesting,
or surprising?
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15. “The thing that is really
hard, and really amazing, is
giving up on being perfect
and beginning the work of
becoming yourself.”
Anna Quindlan
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16. Break
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17. Identity and Cultural Inclusion
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Identity Frames
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Intractability
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Co-Authorship of Identity
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20. Exercise:
Have You Heard?
Put-Downs and Isms
 Please work in small groups.
 What names or phrases have you
heard youth use to hurt or exclude
each other?
 How are societal isms are at the root
of these comments?
 Any thoughts or insights?
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21. Put Downs and Isms
“That’s so gay!” ----- heterosexism
“You’re so ghetto.” ----- classism and racism
“That’s retarded.” ----- abelism
“Don’t be such a b**ch.” ----- sexism
“Your name’s weird.” ----- ethnocentrism
“Sissy” ----- sexism, heterosexism
“Trailer trash!” ----- classism and racism
“Did you forget to take your meds?” ---- ableism
“You look like a terrorist” ---- ethnocentrism and Christiancentrism
“That’s so lame.” ----- abelism
“Your food stinks!” ----- ethnocentrism
“Crybaby!” ----- adultism and sexism
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22. Becoming the Adults
We Want to Be
Adolescent Brain Development
Peer Pressure
The Pressure of Being Middle
Backstage and Frontstage Spaces
Path of Least Resistance
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23. Relationship Based Interruption
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24. NCBI Effective Interventions Model
 Reduce Defensiveness
– Tone
– Body Language
– Respect
 Keep the Conversation Going
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Hear Them Out
Ask Open-Ended Questions
Set Aside Your Feeling for the Moment
Dialogue
 Build the Relationship
 Win an Ally
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25. Everything You Ever Wanted to Interrupt
But Didn’t Know How To…
 Think of trigger events of phrases
 Which ones have proven most challenging?
 Which ones would you like to strategize effective
interventions for?
 Strategize for different people: strangers,
acquaintances, friends, family members, younger
people, etc.
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26. Practice Makes…
Two Lines Facing Each Other
-Line 1 say trigger phrase
-Line 2 respond
-Line 2 move one person
-Repeat for several rounds
After 10 minutes, we will
switch roles (Line 2 say
trigger, Line 1 respond) and
practice another 10 minutes.
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27. Sharing the Wisdom
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28. An Ally Is…
“a person who is a member of the dominant or
majority group who works to end oppression in
his or her personal and professional life
through support of, and as an advocate with
and for, the oppressed population”
Washington and Evans, Becoming an Ally
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29. An Ally Is…
“Someone who doesn’t have to stand up for
someone else, who might even lose something
if they do, but they do it anyway because they
know it’s the right thing to do”
Anna, 6th Grader
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30. Bystander to Ally
Agent
Active
Bystander
Passive
Passive
Ally
Active
Karen Bradberry, PhD
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32. “Be the change you wish to
see in the world.”
Ghandi
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33. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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34. Identity Resources
• Carlos H. Arce, “A Reconsideration of Chicano Culture
and Identity”
• Atkinson, Morten, & Sue, “Racial/Cultural Identity
Development Model (R/CID)”
• Mindy Bingham and Sandy Stryker, “Socioemotional
Development for Girls”
• Vivienne Cass, “Homosexual identity formation: Testing a
theoretical model”
• William Cross, Shades of Black: Diversity in African
American Identity”
• Anthony D’Augelli, “ Identity development and sexual
orientation: Toward a model of lesbian, gay, and
bisexual development”
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35. Identity Resources
• Erik Erikson, “Eight Stages of Man”
• J. E. Helms, Various Publications on Racial and Ethnic
Identity Development
• Jean Kim, “Processes of Asian American Identity
Development”
• James Maricia, “Four Ego and Identity Statuses”
• Suzanne Kobasa Ouellette, “The Three C’s of Hardiness”
• Jean S. Phinney, “Ethnic Identity in Adolescents and
Adults: Review of the Research”
• Ponterotto & Pederso, Preventing Prejudice
• Maria P. P. Root, Various Works on Multiracial Identity
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36. Identity Resources
• Patricia Romney, Karlene Ferron, and Jennifer Hill,
“Measuring the Success of Diversity Directors in
Independent Schools”
• Pedro Ruiz, “Latino/a Identity Development Model”
• Chalmer E. Thompson and Robert T. Carter, Racial
Identity Theory
• Alex Wilson, “How We Find Ourselves: Identity
Development and Two Spirit People”
• Christine J. Yeh, “The Collectivistic Nature of Identity
Development Among Asian-American College
Students”
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37. Further Resources
• Anti-Defamation League
• Cross Cultural Connections
(www.CulturesConnecting.com)
• Facilitation First
• Jimpact Enterprises, Inc.
• National Coalition Building Institute
• The People’s Institute
• Stirfry Seminars
• The Thiagi Group
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38. Miscellaneous Resources
• Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman, “Privilege and
Power,” Summer Diversity Institute, National Association
of Independent Schools, 2009
• Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, Nurture Shock
• Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education
Network) www.glsen.org
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference
• Johnnie McKinley, “Leveling the Playing Field and Raising
African American Students’ Achievement in Twenty-nine
Urban Classrooms,” New Horizons for Learning,
http://www.newhorizons.org/strategies/differentiated/
mckinley.htm
Michael J Nakkula and Eric Toshalis, Understanding Youth.
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