The document provides an overview of different parenting styles including "helicopter" parents who do everything for their children, "drill sergeant" parents who call all the shots, and "consultant" parents who help children solve their own problems. It introduces the Love and Logic approach which encourages adults to set firm limits in a loving way and see childhood mistakes as learning opportunities. The document outlines various Love and Logic principles and techniques for guiding children to solve their own problems independently.

1. Welcome to
Love & Logic
A GUIDE FOR PARENTS
Presented by Dr. Jim Scott

2. Goals of Parenting
Raise Children who are:
Independent
Able to think critically
Good problem solving
Know they are loved
Secure

3. THREE STYLES OF
PARENTING
Helicopters
Drill Sergeants
Consultants

4. Helicopters
Hover
Rescue
As parents you
do it all!
Children learn they
do not have
to be accountable.

5. Drill Sergeants
Work by command and intimidation
As parents you call all
the shots.
As a child you are taught not to think!

6. Consultants
Offer help when asked.
As parents your role is to
help children solve their
own problems
As a child you are valued .
You learn there are solutions and
consequences to their behaviors.

7. Love and Logic
Principles
Adults set firm limits
in a loving way.
Childhood mistakes are seen as
an opportunity for Learning

8. Instant
Empathetic Enforceable
Response Statements
When the adult has
immediate Control
Choices Within Uh, Oh
Limits song

9. Problem Solving
Instant
Empathetic Delayed
Response consequence
When the Adult has
No Immediate Control
One-Liners to
Strategic
Neutralize Arguing
Training
Restitution

10. NUTRALIZING ARGUING
ANTICIPATORY CONSEQUENCES
EMPATHETIC RESPONSES
CREATE ENFORCEABLE STATEMENTS
CHOICES WITHIN LIMITS
“UH, OH SONG”
RESTITTUTION
GUIDING KIDS TO SOLVE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS

11. Neutralize Arguing
• Don’t allow your children to
control your actions or you!

12. Two steps to Neutralize Arguing
1) Use Instant Empathetic
Responses
The expression of genuine
empathy has an amazing ability to
soak up emotions.
I understand..
You sound up set
I know just what you mean

13. Step 2 Neutralize Arguing
Use love and logic one-
liners
It is important that you use
these one liners over and over.

14. Famous One Liners
Keep your composure
Listen be reflective
Create Statements that do not
allow for control
Respond with Empathy

15. Famous One liners
• Send “Can do” Messages
• Give only choices you like
• Take care of yourself and set limits
• Use the sandwich technique

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