For Parents Help

1. Secrets of Positive Parenting
Gathered By:- Divyashu Sharma
(School Counsellor)

3. child in the 21st century is
more challenging than ever.
All parents want to do the best they
can to raise their child healthy.
There are many forces that influence
choices child will make.
Child rely on their parents for
guidance about tough decisions.
Raising

5. 1. Become an expert of your child
development.
2. 3 things mostly required is :Love, Boundaries, and Power.
3. New Communication techniques.
4. Allow to fail.
5. Delay, Delay, and Delay.
6. Look in the mirror.
7. Think “basics”.
8. Develop and nurture a support network
for yourself.

6.  Requirement
of time and outgoing efforts on your
part.
 Why its important to understand and what does it
mean?
 It‟s a process by which child acquire
social, cognitive, and emotional skills to navigate.
 The process is based on
age, temperament, environment and more. The
behaviour you see is its product.
 Child develop:
socially, cognitivelly, physically, sexually, emotional

7.  On
Social Development:-
• Provide
encouragement,
an
understanding
ear
and
guidance when needed. Facilitate child‟s connection and
provide appropriate supervision.
 On
Cognitive Development:-
• Give opportunities to make good choices and decisions but
don‟t count on them to always do so.

On Physical Development:• Self Conscious about their physical development. Don‟t
compare.

8. On
Sexual Development:-
• Teaching about sex and values you want to
pass along, discuss the emotional aspects of
sexual relationship.
On
Emotional Development:-
• Emotions are more intense as compared to
adults.

9. Love:-
• Unconditional love, expressed properly.
Boundaries:-
• Clear rules and expectations, non
negotiable, teach appropriate behaviour.
Power:-
• Let them express their voice, their views and
opinions. They want to make their own
decisions. Guide them.

10.  Some
tips
• 1. learn to read body language.
• 2. know child‟s friend and friend‟s parents.
• 3. know all the adults who play an important role like
teachers, coaches, leaders, develop relationship with
them.
• 4. Focus on the relationship with your child.
• 5.Create comfortable moments where communication
can unfold naturally.
• 6. Get familiar with the technologies.

11. Failure to change.
2. Problem solving without being asked.
3. Being over involved to save your child
from mistakes and pain.
What they can do?
 Engage them in conversation, rather then
directing them.
 Identify your non negotiable rules or
expectations and be willing to open
discussion on all.
 Listen with respect to what they say not
the words but underlying emotions.
1.

12. 
Don‟t hesitate to counsel your child if
he/she fails.
 Avoid
giving any punishment as it will
lower down there self confidence.
 Ask
yourself that Don‟t you have failed in
any life situation.

13. 
Delay the start.

Providing the things before time can be
harmful for them.

Don‟t
make
your
dependent as you
time to listen to them.
child
technology
may not have much

14.  Ask
yourself about
• Are you enhancing your relationship with your child ?
• Are you contributing to problems ?
• Are you responsible for creating the environment and
family culture in your home ? as its your primary
responsibility.
• Are you maximizing your influence ?

15. CRISIS PLAN
Step 1: Breath deeply to slow down things, don‟t
sleep on it, if possible.
Step 2: Identify objectivity what has happened.
Step 3: Ask „What is the best outcome we can
have.‟
Step 4: Ask „How can I help make this happen‟

16.  Treat
your child with respect.
 Listen
 Allow
 Be
with your head and heart.
your child to express their emotions.
comfortable exercising your authority and your
flexibility when appropriate.
 Get
help when you need it- getting help from a
professional which is a sign of strength.
 Allow
others to play a role.

17.  Develop
and nurture a support network
make a meeting with parents of your
child‟s friends.

Organize social gathering.

18.  Parents
can have the strongest influence by
starting direct conversations with their child.
 Have
confidence to speak directly.
 Consequences
are needed and should be
communicated clearly.
 Be
logical to support future safety.
 Don‟t
impose consequences harshly in a way that
devalues your child.
 Be
available for them always.

19.  Simply
listening without fixing problems goes a
long way.
 Be
interested in the new ideas and thoughts that
only they can have. They feel valued and proud.
 Point
 Give
out all the things they do well.
them responsibilities they can accomplish.
 Guide
them when they need and monitor them to
set their boundaries.

20. Reference : www.parentingteensinfo.com and www.squidoo.com
Helpline No. : +91 860 73 483 78, + 91 90 500 67 674
Email @: pgscounsellor@gmail.com