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Extract from the book – Stop complaining, start thinking
Author – J.P.Vaswani
1. ”Thank you” has a magical quality. There is a music, melody, sunshine & warmth vitalizing power
of gratitude.
2. Thank you to be uttered with genuine feeling
3. This word can change merely living to fine art of living, with joy and grace.
4. If only the prayer you said in your life “thank you”, that would suffice
5. Thank you - The secret of successful relationships …The praise is an investment in one’s own
happiness, The poorest human being has something to give which richest can not buy.
6. Offer thanks to God for every moment of your life – Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that
we hold in our hands
7. Nobody is happy, nobody is satisfied, everyone wants to be something what he or she does not
have, let us begin gratefulness for what we have
8. When you stop complaining & start thinking, you stop criticizing and start appreciating. Your life
will be transformed. You will find living rich, graceful, meaningful worthwhile life which is filled
with abundant & source of joy and peace to yourself & around you.
9. Complaining & criticizing can make life bitter & sour, being grateful makes us positive, happy &
optimistic
10. There are two alternative choices. You can complain because roses have thorns or you can
rejoice because thorns have roses!
11. Complaints stem from a sense of unhappiness and dissatisfaction with the life.
12. Complaining is not the best way to deal with life so why?
13. Try the attitude of gratitude
14. Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but a parent of all the others

2. 15. Gratitude is a foundation of a peaceful life, a secure & stable mind; it is also a essence of
spirituality.
16. Learning to express Gratitude – take pen & paper , list down which are points making him bad
mood. Later ask him to with positive points for which he feels gratitude. The list will be much
more.
17. Gratitude is not an attitude to yourself, it should be a attitude to the life, an attitude which you
show to others.
18. You must learn to give your best with or without appreciation. Don’t let the quality of your work
suffer, because others do not praise you.
19. You are wonderful, say it to friends, colleagues, co-workers, parent, spouse & children
20. Appreciative words are the greatest incentive for doing the good work
21. Making others feel good about themselves builds better relationships
22. Focus on what is right and not on what is wrong, let us enjoy what we have & not crib for what
we do not have, appreciate people for what they have then focusing on their defects
23. When people tend to become negative, we need to offer those help & support to carry through,
inspiration, incentive to cultivate faith and repose their trust.
24. Few people want only to be at receiving end of care, compassion, understanding, help,
appreciation and sympathy. They should think of giving these to others.
25. Great lessons
a. Learn to value people
b. Realise that no one is perfect
c. Look for merit & not defect
d. Take the lead in appreciation
e. We need one another
f. Give people what they deserve and a little more
g. Offer thanks to god, every moment of life
26. Learn to value people – Respect your fellow human beings, treat them fairly, disagree with
them honestly, enjoy their friendship, explore your thoughts about one another candidly, work
together for a common goal, and help one another to achieve it

3. 27. Human resources are most underrated, undervalued & underutilized
28. If you do not value your people, you will lose them
29. There is a correlation between how you treat your people and company’s financial results
30. People who are valued & appreciated, give their best, create an environment where they are
made feel valued & appreciated
31. Praise helps people to reinstate their own self esteem
32. People’s sense of self worth & dignity are high value assets
33. A respected, well treated employee is a satisfied employee who will work even harder to
enhance the self respect & prove the worth to an appreciative employer.
34. Simple & cost effective techniques to boost morale of employees
a. Express thank you through words, emails, call, notes
b. Encourage people to express their ideas and suggestions
c. Do share a light moment with them, crack joke, smile or laugh with them
d. Do send a birthday card on their birthday
e. Be sensitive to their needs
f. Understand their perspective
g. Encourage creativity & innovation through special awards
h. Put realistic expectations, remember each one has different potential
i. Do not exercise control over people or event, just offer them right guidance & direction
j. Praise deserving staff publicly & in meetings
35. Managerial skills – they are responsible not for productivity but for the happiness & emotional
well beings and making work environment comfortable. He has responsibility of building career
& future of the subordinates. Encourage them to contribute via ideas & suggestions.
36. The best brains & talent need to be nurtured in an environment that allows them to grow
personally & professionally
37. No one is perfect…that’s why pencils have erasers!
38. I am Nobody, Nobody is perfect therefore I am perfect!

4. 39. The spirit of tolerance & acceptance are essential for happy life & peaceful mind. Expect the
world we live is far from perfect. We are not ourselves a paragon of perfection, so allow others
as well not to be perfect.
40. When expecting to be perfect is a problem
a. Obsessive concern over other mistakes
b. Setting excessively high standards for ourselves & others
c. Unreasonable doubts about others ability to perform the tasks with excellence
d. An over emphasis on control and benchmark
41. Perfection & excellence is always a moving target!
42. Be fearless & pure, never waiver in your determination or dedication, give freely, be self-
controlled, self motivated, sincere, truthful, loving, and full of desire to serve. Learn to be
detached and take a joy in renunciation. Do not get angry or harm any living creature. Also be
compassionate & gentle, show good will to all. Cultivate will, vigour, patience, purity & avoid
malice & pride.
43. To accept people with their imperfections & weaknesses, continue to appreciate them, be
compassionate & gentle, kind & loving and bear patience.
44. Look for the merits & not defects
45. We cannot have theories for everything, especially while getting along with the people. Each
one of us is unique & different, and sensitive, and changing mood every now & then so
relationships definitely cannot be programmed.
46. Society is formed out of families, community, institution and corporations
47. Have a growing sense of awareness, great deal of understanding, tolerance, sympathy, and
mutual respect.
48. Every relationship is unique & special, needs to be nurtured with understanding &
patience..parent, spouse, children, family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, superiors,
subordinates, employer, employees, etc
49. The secret of successful relationships is found in understanding your own heart. Also secret of
harmonious and peaceful life is to focus on people’s merits & strengths, not on their weaknesses
& defects.
50. Fault finding, constant criticism & magnifying the mistakes of others are poor & ineffective ways
to change the world.

5. 51. Learn to laugh with others, try a smile or a kind word
52. Tongue is very powerful instrument & can commit four grievous wrong – a. uttering false hood,
b. scandal or gossip c. finding fault with others and d. excessive talk
53. Let us be generous with praise, appreciation and encouragement
54. Everybody has something good, let me learn that!
55. We have ingrained notions what is right-wrong, proper-improper and acceptable & not-
acceptable
56. Unless we learn to accept people as they are, we will lose all possibility of finding happiness in
our relationships. Approach people with love & understanding, you will find the same reflection.
57. See the good in others, utter kind words & loving thoughts about them. This will have healing
effect on them and you. Do not criticize or find faults with others, you keep growing & your
mind will be peaceful.
58. Take the lead in appreciation – We are only be said to be alive in those moments when our
hearts are conscious of our treasures…..Thornton Wilder
59. Human relationships thrive on caring, sharing and mutual appreciation. We rely on our loved
ones, our friends and those closest to us for moral support and encouragement.
60. I shall pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I
can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer not neglect it, for I shall not
pass this way again.
61. We feel happy if appreciated, and then why not make others happy?
62. When we send out warmth, love and appreciation, it comes back to us
63. Take a pause, reflect & count the blessings offered by life, we will realize how much there to
appreciate in our own life. Do not ignore or neglect!
64. Appreciate nature, blue sky above you, green grass at your feet, magnificent hills, vast seas, life
giving rivers, beautiful gardens & amazing people & animal kind!
65. We are kind, courteous, polite to strangers but rude to parent, spouse & kids!
66. Take time to live since world, nature have so much to give!
67. We should not lack in quality of appreciation & hence take a lead in appreciating others.
68. We need one another- No one can whistle a symphony, it takes a whole orchestra to play it!

6. 69. We fail to give credit to others when it is due, reluctant to acknowledge the role others have
played in our success, we feel we alone are responsible for our achievements.
70. There is a necessity of interdependence & togetherness
71. We achieve our true potential in a peaceful, stable and secured society allowing us to flourish at
our best
72. Life offers us too many opportunities for us to evolve emotionally & intellectually
73. We each of us can contribute our own special & unique efforts to make life more meaningful &
beautiful. We should have courage to weather any storms.
74. God chooses his own people foe each task. Vast & panoramic drama of life, our role would be
meaningless if it were not for the parts played by others.
75. Give people what they deserve and a little more – There is no happiness in having or in
getting, but only in giving.
76. Let us treat people as we would like to be treated by them
77. CEO of a fortune 500 company tells how you treat other CEO is not important to me, as how
treat waiters in restaurants & cleaners and assistants in the office
78. A person who is nice to you but rude to waiter or others is not a nice person
79. Energy follows thoughts, we are what we think
80. If you want to be a winner then choose to be positive
81. A positive man, a man of contentment is known by his attitude to the things happening around
him.
82. Attitude of acceptance with gratitude is the secret of true contentment. And a man with
contentment is always at peace with himself and the world. It is a subtle law, which puts you on
the path of self-growth
83. Acceptance turns despair into faith, strife into harmony, chaos into order, and confusion into
clear understanding. It restores the peace in our heart and dream for future.

7. 69. We fail to give credit to others when it is due, reluctant to acknowledge the role others have
played in our success, we feel we alone are responsible for our achievements.
70. There is a necessity of interdependence & togetherness
71. We achieve our true potential in a peaceful, stable and secured society allowing us to flourish at
our best
72. Life offers us too many opportunities for us to evolve emotionally & intellectually
73. We each of us can contribute our own special & unique efforts to make life more meaningful &
beautiful. We should have courage to weather any storms.
74. God chooses his own people foe each task. Vast & panoramic drama of life, our role would be
meaningless if it were not for the parts played by others.
75. Give people what they deserve and a little more – There is no happiness in having or in
getting, but only in giving.
76. Let us treat people as we would like to be treated by them
77. CEO of a fortune 500 company tells how you treat other CEO is not important to me, as how
treat waiters in restaurants & cleaners and assistants in the office
78. A person who is nice to you but rude to waiter or others is not a nice person
79. Energy follows thoughts, we are what we think
80. If you want to be a winner then choose to be positive
81. A positive man, a man of contentment is known by his attitude to the things happening around
him.
82. Attitude of acceptance with gratitude is the secret of true contentment. And a man with
contentment is always at peace with himself and the world. It is a subtle law, which puts you on
the path of self-growth
83. Acceptance turns despair into faith, strife into harmony, chaos into order, and confusion into
clear understanding. It restores the peace in our heart and dream for future.