2. Certainly, loss of a loved one is a primary cause of grief and loss reactions. Loss of a spouse through death or divorce Loss of a parent or child through death or divorce Loss of a family member or friend Miscarriage Loss of your beloved.

4. more than bereavement.

5. grief responses are individual.

6. grief can be communal.

8. It is best to leave grieving people alone

9. You never laugh if you're really grieving

10. Mourners feel better after the funeral

11. Men and women grieve differently

14. separation, divorce

15. moving house

16. illness/accident -self/others

17. natural disaster

18. victim of crime

19. financial change

20. loss of pet

22. school changes

23. friends move

25. missing out on team

26. victim of bullying

27. school failure

28. realizing you’re different

29. failure to live up to expectations

30. ‘ugly' teenager

32. unresponsive parenting

33. lack of stability

35. Work through the pain,

36. Adjust to the environment when someone or something is no longer there,

37. Emotionally relocate what is lost and try to move on with life., Whatever happens LIFE would have to move on.

39. Increased alcohol intake, smoking excessively

40. Fatigue, exhaustion and insomnia

41. Excessive tearfulness/not crying at all

43. Having conversations with the deceased

44. Starting to prepare the dinner when deceased would usually come home

45. Picking up the telephone to tell them something

46. Difficulty concentrating

47. complete lapses of focus or orientation to time/person/place

48. Difficulty remembering (short term memory)

50. Washing & dressing

51. Communication

52. Eating and drinking

53. Disorganised behaviour

54. Inability to cope with children

55. Neglecting household chores

56. Not paying bills

58. Intense irritability, little tolerance

60. dealing with loss is an individual, mostly private, possibly lonely process.

61. losses rarely exist alone.

62. young people are limited by experience and options.

63. it is a privilege to be invited into the experience of loss of an adolescent.

65. I finally understand what life is about: It is about losing everything. Losing the baby who becomes a child, the child who becomes an adult, like the trees loose their leaves. So every morning we must celebrate what we have.