Assertiveness describes someone who behaves confidently and stands up for their beliefs without violating others' rights or being aggressive. Some people avoid being assertive due to fear of displeasing others or not being liked. There are different types of assertion including basic, empathic, and escalating assertion. Being assertive is important to avoid problems like depression, resentment, and frustration. People have the right to be treated with respect and to express themselves while also having their wants and priorities respected. Becoming more assertive involves realizing one's rights, learning how to assert in different situations, practicing responses, and trying it in real life.

1. Assertive Communication Skills

2. Assertiveness
describes someone
who behaves
confidently and is not
frightened to say what
they want or believe

3. Being Assertive
is not the same
as being
aggressive
Being aggressive means standing up for yourself in ways
that violate the rights of others.

4. What causes people to avoid being
assertive?
Fear of displeasing others
Fear of not being liked

5.  Do you ask for help if you need it?
 Do you express anger and annoyance
appropriately?
 Do you ask questions when you're
confused?
 Do you volunteer your opinions when you
think or feel differently from others?
 Are you able to say "no" when you don't
want to do something?
 Do you speak with a generally confident
manner, communicating caring and strength?
 Do you look at people when you're talking
to them?
How Assertive Are You?

6. Types of Assertion
1. Basic Assertion
 This is a simple, straightforward expression of your
beliefs, feelings, or opinions.
 It's usually a simple "I want" or "I feel" statement.

7. 2. Empathic Assertion: This conveys some sensitivity to
the other person
"I know you've really been busy, but I want to feel
that our relationship is important to you. I want
you to make time for me and for us."

8. 3. Escalating Assertion: This
occurs when the other person
fails to respond to your basic
assertion and continues to
violate your rights.You gradually
escalate the assertion and
become increasingly firm.

9. 4. I-Language Assertion
This is especially useful for expressing negative feelings.
It involves a 3-part statement:
When you do . . . (describe the behavior).
The effects are . . . (describe how the behavior
concretely affects you).
I'd prefer. . . (describe what you want).
I-Language Assertion can help you constructively focus
that anger and be clear about your own feelings.

10. Being Assertive
 Power of Positive Beliefs
 Being Direct
 Focus on Facts
 Focus on Consequences
 Stop Put Down Behavior

11. Why is Assertiveness
Important?
Depression
Resentment
Frustration

12. The Assertive
Bill Of Rights

13. I Have The Right
To Be Treated
With Respect

14. I Have The Right
To Have And Express
My Own
Feelings And Opinions

15. I Have The Right
To Be Listened To
And Taken Seriously

16. I Have The Right
To Set
My Own Priorities

17. I Have The Right
To Say No
Without Feeling
Guilty

18. I Have The Right
To Ask
For What I Want

19. I Have The Right
To Get
What I Pay For

20. I Have The Right
To Make Mistakes

21. I Have The Right
To Assert Myself,
Even Though I May
Inconvenience Others

22. I Have The Right
To Choose
Not To Assert Myself

23. The most powerful
assertiveness
technique is to repeat
your command with
the confidence
of a child

24. Assertiveness is not
what you do,
it's who you are!

25. Steps to become more assertive
 Realize where changes are needed and believe in your
rights.
 Figure out appropriate ways of asserting yourself in each
specific situation that concerns you.
 Practice giving assertive responses.
 Try being assertive in real life situations.

26. Chinese Proverb
‘He who asks is a
fool for five
minutes but he
who does not ask
remains a fool
forever’