3. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Statistics about Laity:
43% of adults suffer adverse effects
from stress
40% say their job is VERY or
EXTREMELY stressful
25% view their job as their
NUMBER ONE stressor
4. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Statistics about Laity:
65% said workplace stress has
caused them difficulties
62% had work-related neck pain at
the end of the day
50% frequently skip lunch
32% have difficulty sleeping
2% have hit someone at work
5. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Statistics about Pastors:
90% work 55 to 75 hours a week
80% believe pastoral ministry
has negatively affected their
families
70% have a lower self-esteem
image now than when
they started
6. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Statistics about Pastors:
70% do not have someone they
consider a close friend
90% feel they are inadequately
trained to cope with the demands
of ministry
50% starting out will not
last 5 years
7. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Personal Testimony
Dec. 24, 2000 – one day before
Christmas, I suffered a mini-stroke
in my nose (called a TIA –
transient ischemic attack)
What caused it? Two words:
Stress and burnout
8. A Look At the Busyness of My Life
Leading Up to the Stroke:
Serving on National, Conference
and District Committees
General Conference work
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
9. A Look At the Busyness of My Life
Leading Up to the Stroke:
Steering Committee of the
Convocation of Black Pastors
Board, Strengthening the Black
Church for the 21st Century
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
10. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
A Look At the Busyness of My Life
Leading Up to the Stroke:
• Co-Chair of the Pastor’s Institute
• Board, BMCR
• Board, Ordained Ministry (Elder’s Section)
• Chair, Conference of Clergy Women
• Chair, Ethnic Recruitment for the BOOM
• National Chair, Black Clergy Women UMC
11. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
A Look At the Busyness of My Life
Leading Up to the Stroke:
• Member, Episcopacy Committee
• Member, Conference of Black Clergy
Women
• Preaching – two out-of-state engagements
each month
• Was in 14th year of pastoring the same
congregation
12. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Personal Testimony – After the Stroke
I rested for 4 months (not long enough)
I worked 5 more years and relapsed
My doctor said “you either
retire or die!”
God said “choose life Lydia…
choose life!”
13. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Personal Testimony – After the Stroke
I took 3 years to focus on my
health and spiritual life
14. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Personal Testimony – After the Stroke
I went to my doctor and
worked out a plan
15. Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
Personal Testimony – After the Stroke
I lost 60 pounds
I started visiting other churches,
non UMC, to be anonymous
and replenish myself
16. EXERCISE
What stresses you most about
being a pastor or a lay person?
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
18. Stress:
Over-engaged
Little physical energy
Feeling empty
Impatient and quick-tempered
Generally Unhappy
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
19. Burnout:
Defense characterized by disengagement
Affects motivation and drive
Produces demoralization
Loss of ideals and hope
Grief, sense of hopelessness
and helplessness
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
20. Stress Leads to Burnout
Notice how the first 3 letters of
stress and stroke are the same
(S-T-R)
Stop
Take Control
Rest
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
21. “I’m exhausted”
“I’m barely able to breath at all”
“Visitors both comfort and tire me”
“Even with dear friends, I feel the energy go
out of me”
“I assumed that people I loved, gave energy
to me, and people I disliked took energy
away from me”
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
22. Sabbath Time
All life requires a
rhythm of rest
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
23. What is a Sabbath?
Sabbath is rest
God rested
We are made to rest
The lungs rest between exhaling and inhaling
The heart rests after each life-giving beat
In music, there are rest notes
There are rest stops when you are doing distance
driving
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
24. Understanding Sabbath Rest:
Sabbath is a way of being in time where we
remember who we are, whose we are, what
we know, and taste the gifts of the Holy
Spirit and eternity
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
25. Understanding Sabbath Rest:
Genesis 2:1-3, “And on the seventh day,
God finished the work that He had done and
He rested”
Exodus 20:8-11, “Remember the Sabbath
day and keep it holy…”
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
26. Understanding Sabbath Rest:
Mark 1:35-39, “In the morning, while it was still
very dark, he got up and went out to a deserted
place, and there he prayed…”
Mark 1: 32-34, “That evening at sundown, they
brought to Him ALL who were sick or possessed
with demons. And the WHOLE city was gathered
around the door, and He cured MANY…”
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
27. Understanding Sabbath Rest:
Mark 6: 30-31, “The apostles gathered
around Jesus, and told Him all they had done
and taught. He said to them, ‘Come away to a
deserted place all by yourselves and rest for
a while. For many were coming and going and
they had no leisure even to eat…”
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
28. How to Take a Sabbath:
Realize that you need Sabbath on a regular
basis (weekly, monthly, yearly)
Don’t let the need for rest make you feel guilty
(leads to more stress)
Learn how to stay quiet and still, and just be in
God’s presence to replenish your soul, your self
and your senses
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
29. How to Take a Sabbath:
What does the Word say about rest?
Listen to what your body is saying to you!
(signals of the spirit, soul and mind)
Understand the meaning of rest
Remember the Sabbath –
remember to rest
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
30. Self-Care: Caring for Yourself
while Caring for God’s People
Questions/Insights
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
31. Self-Care & Getting to Your Sabbath
What is God asking me to rest from?
How can I shorten my daily schedule?
Am I where I want to be?
Am I where God wants me to be?
What is God trying to tell me when I am constantly
running late to meetings, picking up the kids, etc.
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church
32. Self-Care & Getting to Your
Sabbath
Write a letter to yourself listing the
THREE main stressors in your life and
how you plan to release those over the
next 90 days. Place the letter in the
envelope, address it to yourself and leave
it on the table to be collected.
Dr. Lydia Waters Hamilton, Dallas, TX
St. Luke “Community” United Methodist Church