51 Relationship Lessons by Sourav & Khushi | Free eBook

51 Relationship Lessons
Free eBook
By Sourav & Khushi

Why Should You Read this eBook?
• Free
• Written from personal & professional
experiences.
• Short 58 page book. 51 Lessons in 51 pages.
• Half an hour read may be.
• Easy & fun to read.
• Keep it in your computer, mobile or tablet as a
relationship checklist.
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Free eBook: 51 Relationship Lessons

Why Did We Write this
eBook?

Look around and you’ll see that relationships are falling apart everywhere. In no way
we are judging those couples. But somehow society is accepting break up & move
on as a trend rather than putting effort to have a long term successful
relationship. That’s why we decided to share some lessons we learned in our lives
about relationship. I hope it helps some people to improve & heal their relationships.
We guess we can give a few gyan or two on relationship, that’s because we were
blessed to meet each other on our first day of primary school (yup too much filmy, but
true). It’s been 23 years since then. (We’re 26 btw) Don’t think that it was fairy tale
always. We lost each other several times in all these years, but glad to always find
ourselves back together. Yes, we’ll thank our fortune for sure, but we worked hard too.
To improve ourselves as individuals and as couple. Giving up was never an option for
us, no matter what. Khushi could have written this better I suppose, because she
deserves more credit. While I showed up with my brighter side to the world, she is the
only one in this universe who has seen my darkest sides. And trust me it’s not easy to
love someone so much for so long even after knowing all his demons. Forever grateful
to her.
Not only from my personal experience, but I’ve always been very observant on
relationships around me. That’s why I could learn from many broken and successful
relationships in my life. And for last 7 years, counseling people from different ages &
different type of relationships. That also gave quite a deep perspective on
relationships.
We wanted to share all that with you through this ebook. ~ Sourav.

51 Relationship Lessons

Relationship is among the most
important assets in your life. If it
gets fucked up (sorry couldn’t find
better word), your life will be bitter
no matter what else you achieve.

It’s worth investing time to learn about
relationship. You got time to learn
useless subjects in schools & colleges,
then why can’t you have some time to
learn about relationship?

Take time to say I Love You, but
mean it when you say it.

It’s easy to fall in love, but it takes
real strength and self discipline to
keep loving the same person
forever.

Love yourself first and most. You’ll
put less pressure on your partner
then.

Expect less and appreciate more.

What shines isn’t always gold. The
tempting person may not be the
suitable lifepartner for long term.

Get impressed more by actions,
than by romantic words. Fall in
love, but don’t be fooled in love.

Two disturbed individuals can’t
build a stable & peaceful
relationship. Work on yourself first.
Read books like You Can Heal Your
Life by Louise L. Hay.

Changing partner isn’t always the
solution. Haven’t you heard “Why do I
always get jerks as boyfriends/bitches
as girlfriends” ? . Changing ourselves is
the solution.

Never get into a relationship when
you are too low. You may not like
the person when you get back to
your full spirit. And that breaks
your partner completely.

Don’t ever pretend to be who you
are not, for the sake of
starting/continuing a relationship.
You can’t continue living a lie
forever.

Please let go of your impression of
relationship between your parents. If
it’s great, your high expectation will
frustrate your partner. If it’s terrible,
your worry will always attract
dysfunctional relationships.

Your relationship is unique. Don’t
compare it with anyone else’s.

Love your partner most when
he/she least deserves it. Because
that’s when he/she needs it most.

Understand the difference in
psychology between Men and Women.
Accept it and respect it rather than
trying to force your partner to behave
in a way that is against their nature.
Read “Men Are From Mars. Women
Are From Venus” by Dr John Gray

Every great relationships had their
struggles. Similarly every struggling
relationship can work out, if there
is real love & patience.

Please get properly educated about
intimacy & sex. It’s neither what’s
shown in porn, nor the way it’s treated
in our society – as something taboo,
something you can’t talk about in
open.

Having a legal or social agreement
named ‘marriage’ to keep a love-less
relationship together is worse than
break up or divorce. Don’t let your
tradition/ religion/ society fool you
about that.

If you have a feelings for someone,
let him/her know. Honest and
clear. Don’t wait for the right time.

Your relationship preference is
completely yours – marriage or live
in / monogamy or polygamy. Just
make sure your partner believes in
the same.

Be completely honest with your
partner. Absolutely no lies.

If your partner isn’t loving you in a
way you want, that doesn’t mean
that he/she isn’t doing the best
he/she can.

Be yourself and encourage your
partner to be himself/herself. Love
your partner for who they are.

If you need to change your partner or
yourself to keep the relationship, then
it’s probably not right for you.
Improving yourselves is great, but not
changing who you truly are.

Don’t make ‘pleasing you’ the
primary duty of your partner. Learn
to make yourself happy.

Have something in your life, you
are passionate about. Encourage
your partner to have the same.

Listen. Really listen. Not just with
ear, but with mind, body & soul.

Don’t guess. Don’t assume. Talk to
your partner in case of any
confusion.

Your partner like watching TV but you
hate it, rather prefer to read books?
Give your partner space to do what
he/she likes that you don’t like. Use
that time to do what you love.
Otherwise high probability of
arguments.

Ego and love can’t stay together.
It’s okay to lose the argument to
win your partner’s heart.

Resist the urge to reply / correct/
advise/ judge/ suggest … when
your partner is upset. Just be there
for him/her.

Your partner isn’t a mind reader.
Express your love in words more
often please. Increase frequency as
relationship gets older.

Genuine hugs & kisses can bring
abrupt peace in your love war. Use
it wisely. Otherwise get slapped.

Don’t let your relationship get old,
typical and boring. Keep it spicy
always. Less risk of your partner
getting attracted to fast food
outside.

Don’t ever take your partner for
granted. If you have somone who
truly loves you, treat that person
like your universe.

Only purpose of your relationship is
not to produce kids to take your family
name forward ( as mostly suggested by
elders & our society). So don’t give
birth to a new life before both of you
being prepared for it.

Plan some career where you can
spend more time with your partner
than with your boss or secretary.

Less financial worry, more relieved
relationship.

Don’t ever speak ill of your partner’s
family ( even when your partner is
mad at them. He/she will forget what
he/she said about them, but won’t
forget what you said).

Don’t let any third person interfere
in your relationship.

Don’t start teling the world about
your love story just after meeting
your partner for the first time/ first
kiss/ … Give it some time please.

Your real test of love isn’t in your
agreements but rather in your
disagreements.

When you are most upset with your
partner, ask yourself “Do I want to still
live with this person?” If answer
comes ‘yes!’, congrats buddy! You’ll be
forever together. If answer comes ‘no’,
wait for next day.

It’s okay to compromise
sometimes, but not sacrifice for
whole life.

What’s wrong in trying to love your
partner’s preferences as long as
that doesn’t contradict with yours?

Both of you are from different
families with different cultures.
Accept it and respect it.

Don’t neglect the most important
person in your life – your partner,
being busy in pleasing/serving
other members of the family.

Whenever you think about your
relationship, practice thinking more
about the good times you had with
your partner. Don’t replay the bad
tapes. You’ll attract more of what you
most think about.

Always share good qualities of your
partner with others, never the bad
qualities. (not even with your best
friends or family). You can keep that to
yourself and deal with that. Can’t you?

Sometimes things go terribly wrong
even in most perfect relationships.
Don’t try to force a conclusion or
solution at that very moment. Give it
some time. Both of you take some
space. Let your inner troubles settle a
bit. If you two really love each other,
nothing can break you apart.

Lastly we’d love to say that Human are unpredictable, so is life.
The only person who’ll be forever with you till your last breath
is YOU. So make sure you develop a great relationship with
yourself, loving & accepting yourself completely for who you
are.
Dare to fall in love.You may not find the right person in your
first relationship. Don’t lose hope or lose faith in love.
Instead of trying to find the perfect relationship, rather commit
to growing together in love when you find your love. Never ever
give up. Everything is worth to keep your love alive.

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