1. The Chinese University of Hong Kong – Tung Wah Group of Hospitals Community College GE83003 Psychology and Personal Growth The topic: Love Date: 11th October 2011 We all know that us, teenagers, when we like someone, we immediately think is love. And who better to talk about it, than a teenager!

2. Introduction As a teenager… Being in serious relationship Serial dating Engage in sexual activity

3. Survey (sample)

4. 1) How old are you?

5. 2) Are you male or female?

6. 3) When did you go on your first real date?

7. 4) How many boyfriends or girlfriends have you had since age 16?

8. 5) Do you believe they can stay together through high school and college and get married?

9. 6) Is it possible that people can fall in love with others without sex?

10. 7) Is that possible for you to concentrate on one partner? Possible Impossible

11. 8) Is it feasible for you to have one night stand ? Yes B. No

12. The summary to this research The results show that… Their first love usually appear in adolescence stage They don’t believe the eternity of love Majority of people think Love cannot without sex They think one lover is not enough They generally accept one night stand They have 3 to 4 partners in common

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15. Philosophy

16. Platonic Love The nature of human is better than beasts non-sexual affectionate relationship pure, spiritual affection The equality of men and women The lover think the opposite side is perfect “ The better half”

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21. Condition : Cannot go back until finish the path

22. Plato got nothing from the field.

24. ladder of love

25. Famous Quote Love is a serious mental disease. By Plato (BC 427-BC 347) Greek philosopher. Wicked men obey from fear; good men, from love. By Aristotle (384 BC-322 BC) Greek philosopher. When we are in love we seem to ourselves quite different from what we were before. By Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) French mathematician, physicist and philosopher.

26. There is no remedy for love than to love more. By Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862) American naturalist, poet and philosopher. Immature love says: ''I love you because I need you.'' Mature love says: ''I need you because I love you.'' By Erich Fromm (1900-1980) Psychoanalyst and social philosopher.

27. How teenagers and young adults think of love and deal with love? Cultural studies

28. Love as instant noodles?

29. The survey by “Chinese Manufacturers' Association, the Youth Committee ” Total respondents: 509 戀愛期 43% 追求期 44% 分手復原期 37% paying less than one month!

30. The survey by “Chinese Manufacturers' Association, the Youth Committee ” Total respondents: 509 80% dating for three or more times!

31. (A) Affected by the foreign culture(celebrities) Young pop artists Destructive and unrealistic Not mature enough An example: “Teenage Dream” by Katy Perry “Let’s go all the way tonight. No regrets, just love.” just emphasis on feeling rather than thinking!

32. (B) Affected by the negative evaluation Most of the survey only interviewed hundreds of objects, then it is not accuracy They feel… Marginalization Discrimination Labeling Other people do not understand their real needs So, they are caused to be… self-fulfilling prophecy of psychology

33. (C) Feel lost in the society Can not find their value and meaning They really need is… Soulful connectedness Trusted The joy of love and be loved By the Psychologist, Larry Crabb

34. (D) Associated with instant shopping mode Values: Materialism： instant pleasure, emphasis on feeling rather than thinking and desires are endless Getting worried as they cannot pursue the luxurious life The possible reasons: coming from wealthy families singleton feel abnormal pressure in daily life Small conclusion: values ​​of young people to be successful restructuring, we must start on an individual's lifestyle and consumption patterns.

35. Other factors Autonomous individualism Narcissistic hedonism Positioning Religion

36. Psychology

37. Freud When islove form? Love preference is formed in very early life (The mouth and anal stage) in the relationship between the child and its parents. Family will shape the personality, that designs the pattern of the erotic career.

38. How is love form? At the mouth and anal stage (Birth to 3 years),the mother's caresses and services in caring awaken the child's sex responses. In the boy, this called “Oedipus complex”. For the girl, also, the mother is the first love object, but by the “castration complex” and “penis-envy”, girls shifted the erotic impulse to the father.

39. Influence of the child The child's sexual feeling is to be shifted from its parents to others, there must be some connection between the new love and the old one. Resemblance between loved parent and unrelated person.(e.g. metal traits, name, occupation..) The resemblance may not be fully realized. The Child is more capable to love somebody if he feels satisfactory during the mouth and anal period.

40. John Lee The Primary styles Eros (intense physical and emotional attraction and commitment) Ludus(game playing style) Storge(emotional intimacy)

41. The Secondary styles Mania (Eros combined to Ludus) Pragma (Ludus combined to Storage) Agape (Eros combined to Storage)

42. Triangular Theory of Love A theory of lovedeveloped by psychologist Robert Sternberg. Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. Passion – Which encompasses drives connected to both limerenceand sexual attraction. Commitment– Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other.

43. Triangular Theory of Love

44. Science of Love

45. The Science of Love Three Stages of Falling in Love Stage 1: Lust Stage 2: Attraction Stage 3: Attachment

46. Stage 1: Lust Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything".

47. Stage 2: Attraction In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called 'monoamines' play an important role: Dopamine - Also activated by cocaine and nicotine. Norepinephrine - Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing. Serotonin - One of love's most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane.

48. Stage 3: Attachment Oxytocin - It helps cement the strong bond between mother and child. It is also released by both sexes during orgasm and it is thought that it promotes bonding when adults are intimate. Vasopressin - Another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage. It is an important controller of the kidney and its role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole

49. Conclusion Is it suitable for the society now? Love has many aspect. No right , no wrong. Do the teenagers do the right things towards love nowadays? Think by yourself, and lead you having a personal growth.

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