presentation to help students deal with tragedy at school. created after the 2011 shooting at Gardena HS

1. So what’s up?

2. So What New? Are we getting back to business as usual?

3. Ahhhhh hell no! We need to address what happened!

4. Our objective SWBAT understand the 5 stages of grief and explore healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with our emotions SWBAT put a voice on how their feeling anonymously SWBAT connect with other students/emotions

5. In teacher school… You need to feel safe! You need to cope! You need to understand!

6. Do you feel SAFE? How do we deal with what happened? How do we deal with what we feel? What are we feeling?

7. Lets talk about how/what you might be feeling

8. Its natural to feel: Scared Sad Upset Worried Angry Dethatched Nervous Anxious Consumed

9. 5 stages of grief Denial Anger Bargaining Depression/sadness Acceptance

11. Denial conscious or unconscious refusal to accept facts, information, reality, etc., relating to the situation concerned.

12. Denial It's a defense mechanism perfectly natural Some people can become locked in this stage when dealing with a traumatic change that can be ignored.

13. Anger can manifest in different ways. can be angry with themselves and/or with others especially those close to them.

14. Bargaining Bargain with God People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek to negotiate a compromise. For example "Can we still be friends?.." when facing a break-up. Bargaining rarely provides a sustainable solution, especially if it's a matter of life or death.

15. Depression/sadness It's natural to feel sadness and regret, fear, uncertainty, etc. It shows that the person has at least begun to accept the reality We can begin to deal with the issue

16. Acceptance this stage definitely varies according to the person's situation although broadly it is an indication that there is some emotional detachment and objectivity Usually the last stage We can begin to move on

17. So now that we can being to understand… How and what we are feeling We can begin to cope

18. What is coping? The thoughts and actions we use to deal with trauma or stress

19. How does your age group usually cope? Adolescence (Ages Thirteen to Nineteen) may have a need to feel “strong”, in control of their emotions “indistinguishable” from their friends

20. may hide their emotions of grief by engaging in risk-taking behaviors – such as reckless driving – alcohol and drug use – sexual promiscuity – defiance of authority.

21. may be reluctant (or unable) to express their feelings with others – sadness – loneliness – confusion – fear – guilt – anxiety.

22. may become more easily distracted experience sleeping and eating disturbances perform better or worse in school display strong emotional mood changes like adults, adolescents may have difficulty coping the loss for

23. So how did/am I dealing? Let me tell you what I experienced I left Broke down Went to see my cuzzo @ fleming Really wanted to go to the gym! Consumed all evening Mixed feelings Didn’t want to talk Felt angry when not addressed

24. What's unhealthy? Drugs food Sex Fighting Yelling Alcohol Vandalism Ignoring Wreck less behavior Retaliation These ways don’t make you feel better! They're like putting a Band-Aid on a broken leg

25. What is healthy Talking to someone you trust Talking to someone you don’t know Writing in a journal Working out Hearing the stories of others Connecting with others who have also shared your experience I know this from experience! I always feel better after talking to my BFF! Sushi therapy!