This is a material that can be used to introduce people to learn about being 'healthy' at work or in personal life by practicing self discovery, proactive mindset, and growth mindset

1. ‘HEALTHY’ MINDSET AT WORK
PLANTING SEEDS… Anish Gopal Vaidya

2. PURPOSE OF THIS
•Install a healthy way of thinking
•Make you think and ponder about the
concepts
•A new way of looking at the problems –
looking within
•Help you become a better person, and a
better employee

3. SUGGESTIONS FOR THE
PARTICIPANTS
• Keep your ‘glass’ empty
• You may disagree, but ask ‘what if it was
true?’
• Test the concepts yourself after the
session

4. • Negativity was a ‘normal’
• Thinking about life as
‘worthless’
• Thankless to families,
friends, parents
• Unresourceful state most of
the time
WHY AM I DOING THIS?

5. WHY AM I DOING THIS?
• Started studying positivity
• Reading books
• Tried applying my studies into
practice

6. • I’m still not ‘there’
• Struggling to apply my
learnings
• Finding ways to share my
learnings
WHY AM I DOING THIS?

7. “
”
Ask and you shall receive
If you need help with these, we can work together!

8. INSIDE OUT
• To bring about change on the outside, you need to bring
about change in the inside first
• “Become the change you want to see in the world” -
Gandhi

9. EMPOWERING SELF
KNOW YOURSELF

10. “
”
Discovering yourself is the greatest discovery
of all
Your greatest strengths and your greatest
weaknesses are your most valuable assets

11. EXERCISE
•Talents/Skills: “I can sing”
•Qualities: “I am honest”
•Others
2 or more of your
strengths
•Qualities/talents you want to
have but don’t have
•Those you have but don’t want
to have
•Others
2 or more of your
weaknesses
5 mins…

12. EXERCISE: GROUP WORK
• As a group, come up with a list
of strengths and weaknesses
• Each of the member should have
at least one item in each of the
strengths and weaknesses
5 mins…

13. SHARING…
3 mins…

14. WHAT DID YOU LEARN?

15. “
”
When we accept and own impartially the
parts we like and dislike in us, we become a
whole person. That leads us to emotional
wellbeing and we become more beautiful
R Manandhar
Conscious Leadership: Journey Within
From Quotes for Living

16. LEARNING
• All of us have strengths and weaknesses
• We need to respect our strength and accept our
weaknesses
• Work on both your strengths as well as your weaknesses

17. FURTHER EXPLORATIONS: PERSONALITY
TYPINGS
• MBTI: Myers Briggs Personality Typing
• DOPE Personality Types
• Social Styles
• DISC Personality Types
• Four Temperaments of Personality
• Enneagram: 9 types – enneagraminstitute.com

18. FURTHER: KNOWING YOUR PURPOSE
• Your Talents: Singing
• Qualities: Honesty
• Heroes
• What is the one thing that you would want others to
request from you?

19. FEEDBACK!
• HOW ARE YOU FEELING?
• DID YOU UNDERSTAND THE CONTENT?
• SUGGESTIONS?

20. CULTIVATE A PROACTIVE APPROACH
EMPOWERING SELF

21. “
”
YOU ARE THE PRODUCT OF YOUR CHOICES

22. EXERCISE
• Think about a situation when you felt you were suffering
• Example:
• Someone betrayed you
• Someone took advantage of you or stole your credit
• You were treated unfairly, etc
• What were your thoughts/feelings in that situation
• Who was responsible for that and who could change it?
• Did you
• Blame someone or the situation
• Blame yourself or your capabilities?
5 mins

23. EXERCISE
• Consider that our country has a serious problem:
Politically, economically, environmentally, etc
• Do you blame anyone for that?
• If yes, whom?
• If no, who should do what to change this?

24. MAN’S SEARCH FOR MEANING: VIKTOR FRANKL
STORY
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyefpjSs99g

25. LEARNING?

26. MAN’S
SEARCH FOR
MEANING
• Whatever happens has a meaning, but
‘we’ have to find that meaning
• The last of the human freedom – the free
will- can never be taken away from you
• It’s not about your situation, it’s about
your attitude toward your situation
• Imagination of the future
• Why did he survive: because he gave
meaning to the suffering
• “What can I learn from this and teach
others from the lessons”

27. “
”
“If you cannot change a
situation, you are challenged
to change yourself”
Viktor Frankl

28. EXERCISE
• Go back to your ‘suffering’ exercise
• After watching Viktor Frankl video, is your thought
process the same as before?
• What are your thoughts/feelings regarding that situation
• Who was responsible for that and who could change it?
• Do you
• Blame someone or the situation
• Blame yourself or your capabilities?

29. EXERCISE
• Go back to your country’s problem exercise
• After watching Viktor Frankl video, is your thought process
the same as before?
• What are your thoughts/feelings regarding the situation of
our country
• Do you still choose to blame the ones who you blamed
before?
• Again, who is responsible for this and what should be done?

30. SHARE…
5 mins

31. MEANING OF PROACTIVE

32. MEANING OF ‘PROACTIVE’
Being responsible
Responsible = Response
+ able => The ability to
choose a response

33. Proactive QUOTES
•"No one can hurt you without your consent."
• Eleanor Roosevelt
•“They cannot take away our self respect if
we do not give it to them”
• Gandhi

34. VIDEO: PROACTIVE VS REACTIVE
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aiRp10Nfcsc&t=23s

35. What’s the easiest thing to do when something
goes wrong?

36. BLAMING
Easiest
Stupidest
Event
Others
Self

37. When you blame someone or something, you empower the thing you blame!

38. STIMULUS
• Someone yells at you
• You are fired or your
business goes down
RESPONSE
Proactive
• Find ways to control
your anger
• Look for a better job or
ideas to open a new
business
GAP
RESPONSE
Reactive
• You become angry
• You keep complaining
about it with your
friends/family
Freedom to
Choose
BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE…

39. LEARNING?

40. The two circles

41. Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
THINGS OVER WHICH YOU
HAVE NO CONTROL
THINGS YOU CAN DO
SOMETHING ABOUT

42. Our own attitude
Weather
Birthplace
How others
treat you
Your Boss’s
attitude
How you choose
to feel
Whom we vote
What the politicians do

43. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uj8dmSgQa1c&t=86s

44. In which circle should we
focus?

45. Circle of
Circle of Influence
Concern
Circle of
Circle of Influence
Concern
REACTIVE FOCUS
More focus on the circle of concern, it
reduces the circle of influence
PROACTIVE FOCUS
The more we focus on the circle of
influence, it enlarges

46. THE TWO CIRCLES…
• Circle of Concern: Problems
• Circle of Influence: Actions
• Circle of Concern: What you want to change
• Circle of Influence: What you CAN change

47. WHERE DO YOU SPEND
THE MOST TIME?
• CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE OR
• CIRCLE OF CONCERN
• The quality of your life
depends upon where you
spend the most time in

48. EXERCISE: GROUP WORK
• Discuss the concept of COI and COC in the group: What it is?
• Each member (individually):
• Make a table with two columns – COC and COI
• In COC, list the problems you are facing – personal or general
• Share with the group
• Decide about the COI activity for each of the COC item
10 mins

49. EXAMPLE
Circle of Concern Circle of Influence
I don’t have enough skill in programming I can join a class
Join an online course
Give a few minutes everyday to learn
There is dust all over the roads I can write an email to the mayor
I can start a facebook sharing
People are not proactive Give proactivity concept in a training

50. SHARE: Each group
What is COC
and COI
Two examples
of COC/COI
items
2 mins/Group

51. INVITATION TO GOOD FRIDAY SESSIONS

52. HOW?
STARTING WITH AWARENESS

53. EXAMINE YOUR ‘GENERAL THOUGHTS’:
LIMITING BELIEFS
• “People are generally bad”
• “Politicians are always corrupt”
• “Our neighboring countries always degrade us”
• “I can’t face challenges”
• “There is no hope in this country”
• “You need to ‘pull others back’ to get ahead” (Khutta
tanne)

54. EXERCISE
• List down your limiting beliefs

55. COMBINATION OF GENERAL THOUGHT AND SPECIFIC
SITUATION GIVES RISE TO THE INFLECTION POINT

56. LISTEN TO YOUR LANGUAGE

57. LISTEN TO YOUR OWN LANGUAGE
Reactive Proactive
I have to do it I choose to do it
I can’t do it I do it
They are to blame They made a mistake, but how can I
help correct them?
There’s nothing we can do about it There must be something we can do
OR Let’s look at what we can do
He turned my mood off I am having a bad mood OR I can
change my mood
I am a victim I am in control
I did this because s/he did that to me I chose to do that
Why me? Thank God it’s me!

58. Exercise
List out
List out some of
the ‘languages’
that you use:
either thinking
or speaking
Categorize
Categorize them
as reactive or
proactive
Choose
If it is reactive,
choose a
proactive
language
Aware
As often as
possible,
become aware
of the language
and convert it
whenever you
can

59. PRACTICE AWARENESS
• Know ‘what, when, how’ that trigger
your reactivity
• Become aware of what happens to
you inside when something happens
outside
• You don’t react to the circumstances,
you react to your sensations

60. GRATITUDE AND FORGIVENESS
• “Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions” -Zig Zigglar
• Practice counting your blessings every day
• “I get to eat everyday”
• “I can walk”
• “The Internet”
• Practicing forgiving yourself for all the seemingly bad things that
you have done or your bad qualities
• And someone who you think has done something bad to you

61. ‘PLANNING’ PROACTIVITY

62. A STUDY ON WILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN
1992
• Recovery from hip or knee surgery for 65+ year
olds
• Smallest movement caused excruciating pain
• Movement is essential for recovery
• Very common to quit
From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg

63. A STUDY ON WILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN
1992
• They were given booklets with instructions and blank spaces
• “My plans for this week are __________
• If you are going to go for a walk this week, write down where and
when you are going to walk
• Those who succeeded were those who wrote down the plans
• They focused on how patients would handle a specific moment of
anticipated pain
• The patients’ plans were built around inflection points when they
knew their pain—and thus the temptation to quit—would be
strongest
From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg

64. A STUDY ON WILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN
1992
• One patient, for example, had written, “I will walk to the bus stop
tomorrow to meet my wife from work,” and then noted what time
he would leave, the route he would walk, what he would wear,
which coat he would bring if it was raining, and what
pills he would take if the pain became too much.
• Another patient, in a similar study, wrote a series of very specific
schedules regarding the exercises he would do each time he went
to the bathroom.
• A third wrote a minute-by-minute itinerary for walking around the
block
From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg

65. A STUDY ON WILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN
1992
• The man who exercised on the way to the bathroom, for instance,
knew that each time he stood up from the couch, the ache was
excruciating. So he wrote out a plan for dealing with it:
Automatically take the first step, right away, so he wouldn’t be
tempted to sit down again.
• The patient who met his wife at the bus stop dreaded the
afternoons, because that stroll was the longest and most painful
each day. So he detailed every obstacle he might confront, and
came up with a solution ahead of time.
From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg

66. IDENTIFY YOUR INFLECTION POINTS
• When my wife yells at me, I lose my temper
• When my children don’t do what I want them to
do, I lose temper
• When someone requests me for something and
that needs to be done quickly and I don’t have
the time and the ability, I get stressed
• When I have to say ‘no’

67. MAKE A PLAN AGAINST EACH POINT…
• When she yells at me, I’ll smile gently (in my
mind)
• I’ll repeat the last few words mentally
• I’ll remember the good things she has done for
me!

68. SOME COMMON INFLECTION POINTS
• When someone ignores you, you get hurt
• When you do not get good raise in appraisal, you get
disappointed
• When your supervisor gives you feedback at your
face, you get angry
• When there is a lot of work to do and you have very
little time, you get stressed
• When you lack confidence and you must do a work

69. EXERCISE: INDIVIDUAL => IDENTIFY
• List out your inflection point triggers
• Identify your top inflection point
• Figure out what happens when you face the inflection
point
• Body: Sensations, heartbeat, breathing, etc
• Mind: Thoughts, ‘language’
• Example: When some challenge comes up, your heartbeat goes
up, you start to think negative, like ‘I can’t do it’

70. EXERCISE: GROUP => PLAN
• Share your inflection point to the group
• Group members to provide suggestions to each
other for the planning
• Also, identify the limiting belief associated with
each of the inflection points
• Share

71. Proactive partnership

72. REMEMBER WHAT IS “BEING PROACTIVE”
• Values Vs Feelings
• Responsibility Vs Blaming
• Solutions Vs Problems
• What can I do Vs What can’t I do
• Circle of Influence Vs Circle of Concern
• Listening to the Language
• Inflection points

73. CHOOSE A PROACTIVITY PARTNER
•Make a pair
•For the next several weeks, each partner in
the pair will remind the other of the
reactive and proactive behavior of the other

74. TAKE AWAY MESSAGE

75. “
”
The secret of living is giving
-Tony Robbins
If you need help with these, we can work together!

76. “
”
The illiterate of the 21st century will not be
the individuals who cannot read and write,
but the one who cannot learn, unlearn, and
relearn
Futurist Alvin Toffler

77. FEEDBACK: 5 mins
• Rate the session from 1 to 10: 1 - very bad, 10 - excellent
• Would you like to have such sessions again?
• How likely would you apply these changes in real-life situations?
• How likely would you share these concepts to your closed ones?
• Comments

78. FURTHER READING
• Habit 1: Be Proactive – Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by
Stephen Covey
• STARBUCKS AND THE HABIT OF SUCCESS, When Willpower Becomes
Automatic - The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

79. CULTIVATE THE
GROWTH MINDSET
EMPOWERING SELF

80. “
”
You’re in charge of your mind. You can help it
grow by using it in the right way.
—Carol Dweck
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

81. THE GROWTH MINDSET SURVEY
http://survey.perts.net/take/toi?public_key=f1885e6d2

82. THE GROWTH MINDSET QUIZ
• Take the growth mindset quiz
• Be very honest
• Submit (remember to put your name on the page)
• This information will be intended to be used to help you and your
team
• It will currently be with me only

83. FOR GROWTH MINDSET: PRACTICE SELF PRAISE
Praise the process, not intelligence

84. • Growth Mindset Introduction: What it is, How it Works, and Why it
Matters: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75GFzikmRY0
• Carol Dweck, "Developing a Growth Mindset“:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiiEeMN7vbQ
• Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck
• Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey
REFERENCES