The 90/10 principle developed by Stephen Covey states that 10% of life is made up of external events outside of our control, while 90% is determined by our reaction to those events. An example is provided of spilling coffee on a shirt in the morning - the spill is 10% but one's reaction, such as cursing or calmly changing shirts, determines the 90% outcome of the rest of the day. The principle advises focusing on controlling internal reactions rather than external incidents to have more positive outcomes.
6. You have no control over incidents that take place in life
The plane will
arrive late,
throwing your
schedule off
7. You have no control over incidents that take place in life
The plane will
arrive late,
throwing your
schedule off
You can not stop
a driver from
cutting you off in
traffic
8. You have no control over incidents that take place in life
You can not
stop the car
from breaking
down
The plane will
arrive late,
throwing your
schedule off
You can not stop
a driver from
cutting you off in
traffic
9. But you have control over your reaction to
these incidents
You have no control over incidents that take place in life
14. You CURSE You SCOLD your daughter for knocking the cup over
Your daughter BREAKS DOWN in tears
You CRITICIZE your spouse for keeping the cup too close to
the edge of the table
You STORM upstairs and change your shirt
Your daughter has been too busy CRYING to finish breakfast and get ready for
school and misses the bus
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You RUSH to the
car and drive your daughter to school
A short VERBAL BATTLE follows
After a 15 minute DELAY and a $60 TRAFFIC FINE
you arrive at school
Your daughter runs inside the building
WITHOUT SAYING GOODBYE
Arriving 20 minutes LATE at work, you realize you FORGOT your briefcase at home
23. Coffee spills on you. Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say, “It’s okay honey, you just need to be
more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase, you come back down in time to see your
child get on the bus. She turns and waves. You
arrive 5 minutes early to work and cheerfully greet
the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day
you are having.