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20 Ways to Instantly
Be More Assertive
Want to Be More Assertive?
YES PLEASE!!!
REGARDLESS OF YOU
Asking for a raise…
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REGARDLESS OF YOU
Claiming your vacation days…
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REGARDLESS OF YOU
Saying no to your boss…
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REGARDLESS OF YOU
Disagreeing with your CEO…
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REGARDLESS OF YOU
Handling criticism …
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REGARDLESS OF YOU
Giving a negative review
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FIRST…
Get the basics right!
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Manage
Negative
Emotions
Be Curious Express
Yourself
Avoid
Weak
Language
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All you need is to master these 4 things…
READY?
Let’s give you the 20 strategies
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GUILTY
FOR NO
REASON
SO SHAMEFUL
THAT I WANT TO
HIDE IN A CAVE
ANXIETY CHILLS BRRR
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Part A
Manage Your Negative
Emotions
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Journal your communication
challenges
1
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What’s
hard
today?
Identify your negative emotions
2
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Question where they come from
3
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My
beliefs
Breath, exercise, meditate,
and think positively
4
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WHAT?
HOW SO?TELL ME MORE!
WHY IS THAT?
I’M INTRIGUED?
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Part B
Be Curious
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Listen actively
5
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“I hear you. So
you are saying
you don’t like
my big ears?”
Don’t get defensive or blame
6
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Investigate the criticism
7
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“Tell me more …
about why you think
I’m not trustworthy”
Ask clarifying questions
8
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“What do
you mean
by that?”
Use “And”
not “But”
9
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“You are an
excellent analyst
but you need to
work on your
presentations”
“You are an excellent
analyst and improving
your presentations will
better showcase your
genius ideas”
Question “should”, “must”, “have”
10
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“Why do I have to be quiet?”
I WANT TO
DANCE
ON THE
MOON!
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Part C
Express Yourself
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11
Share your intentions
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“I want us to
collaborate more
for a win-win.”
12
Share your ideas, feelings & desires
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“I feel I
am
living a
dream!”
13
Use “I” statements
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I want a
better haircut
14
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15
Use “If … then …”
to communicate consequences
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“If you don’t come to meetings on time,
then I cannot recommend you for promotion”
PERHAPS
MY BADNOT SURE
HUMMMM
DON’T LISTEN TO ME
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Part D
Avoid Weak Language
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16
Don’t say ”sorry” all the time
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“Sorry for being
such a cute puppy”
17
Don’t hesitate with “Maybe”, “I’m
not sure…”, ”I might be wrong…”
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“I’m not sure
and I may be
wrong but
perhaps you
could give me
the job?”
18
Don’t over justify, keep it short
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19
Complete your sentences
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“I have a great idea it
has to do with the
(interrupted)
the
(interrupted)
… … …
Never mind”
20
Repeat yourself if needed
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“Let me say it again:
I’m NOT interested”
What to learn more?
Sign up for FREE training on:
How to Be Assertive
Without Being Rude
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CAN YOU DO THAT?
HERE’S THE RECAP
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Manage your
Negative Emotions
 Journal your communication
challenges
 Identify your negative emotions
 Question where they come from
 Breath, exercise, meditate, and think
positively
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Be Curious
 Listen actively
 Don’t get defensive or blame
 Investigate criticism
 Ask clarifying questions
 Use “And” not “But”
 Question “should”, “must” and “have
to”
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Express Yourself
 Share your intentions
 Share your ideas, feelings and desires
 Use “I” statements
 Use “When … then I ….”
 Use “If … then …” to communicate
consequences
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Avoid Weak
Language
 Don’t say ”sorry” all the time
 Don’t hesitate with “Maybe”, “I’m not
sure…”, ”I might be wrong…”
 Don’t over justify. Keep it short
 Complete your sentences
 Repeat yourself if needed
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20 Assertive Strategies
Manage your Negative
Emotions
Journal your communication
challenges
Identify your negative emotions
Question where they come from
Breath, exercise, meditate and
think positively
Be Curious
Listen actively
Don’t get defensive or blame
Investigate criticism
Ask clarifying questions
Use “And” not “But”
Question “should”, “must” and
“have to”
Express Yourself
Share your intentions
Share your ideas, feelings and
desires
Use “I” statements
Use “When … I ….”
Use “If … then …”
Avoid Weak Language
Don’t say ”sorry” all the time
Don’t hesitate
Don’t over-justify
Complete your sentences
Repeat yourself if needed
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What to learn more?
Sign up for FREE training on:
How to Be Assertive
Without Being Rude
AssertiveWay.com
https://bit.ly/3bMLZzt
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