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PowerUp8: Skills for Navigating an unpredictable future
1. POWER8 critical capabilities for
navigating an
unpredictable world
By Debbie Craig
People Strategist and Catalyst
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“What we intend to, and
pay attention to,
become our reality”
John Kehoe
5. Future skills required
Are you, your team and your organisation … RELEVANT, RESILIENT AND READY for the future?
Digital
Tech trends, digital savvy, eco-
system, remote work, tech &
data concepts & processes,
data analytics & visualisation,
AI, security
Cognitive
Critical thinking, problem
solving, creativity, innovation,
scenario planning, complexity
thinking, project
management
Social
Relationship skills, leading,
influencing, remote teaming,
engagement collaboration,
customer connection, conflict
management
Resilience
Self-awareness, confidence,
growth mindset, adaptability,
focus, effectiveness, stress &
energy management, mental
wellbeing
6. From safe spectator…
To curious explorer
CURIOUS
From cautious dreamer…
To possibility connector
CREATIVE
From anxious controller…
To courageous adventurer
COURAGEOUS
From distracted operator …
To wise discerner
CONSCIOUS
From passive resistor…
To maze navigator
CHANGE NAVIGATOR
From default thinker…
To meaning maker
CRITICAL THINKER
From status consumer…
To community builder
CONTRIBUTOR
From independent competitor…
To trust cultivator
COLLABORATOR
Critical capabilities – 8 identity shifts
7. Learning and change is hard!
How many of you have tried to -
• change a bad habit
• learn a really difficult skill
• achieve a really challenging goal?
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What does it take?
% businesses that have or will have
skills gaps
% leaders that are ready to lead in
this unpredictable world
% that know how to close the gap
8. Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare!
By 35, 95% of who you are is a set of memorized behaviors and emotional reactions that create
and identity subconsciously. Dr Joe Dispenza
60000-70000
18 - 254 days
How many thoughts?
90% same
How many the same?
How long to change a habit?
More + or -? 70% negative
9. Why is it so hard to change?
Our brains …
Record of past
Hardwired for comfort & safety
Memories as emotions
Triggers – stress response
10. Stress response
Major impact on: immune system, general health, brain functioning, oxygen, creativity, strategic
thinking, decision making, empathy, intuition, energy
How much of our day do spend in the stress response?
11. How do we bring back choice?
Belief
I believe …
Feeling
I feel …
Identity
I am ….
Habit
I act ….
E.g. I am afraid, I can’t do it, I can’t
change
E.g. I feel anxious, worried, a
failure, weak
E.g. I keep procrastinating; I
worry what others think of me
E.g. I am brave, I am not afraid to
fail, my actions create my reality
E.g. I feel optimistic, confident, strong
E.g. I embrace learning, and
change, I try new things
E.g. I am AN ANXIOUS
CONTROLLER
E.g. I am a A COURAGEOUS
ADVENTURER
Automatic
vs Choice
13. Indifferent spectator Curious explorer
CURIOUS
Belief
Feeling
Identity
Habit
Curious Explorer I Engager I Experimenter
Safe Spectator I Proclaimer I Safety-zoner
14. CREATIVE
“We are the
creative force of our
life, and through
our own choices
rather than our
conditions, if we
carefully learn to do
certain things, we
can accomplish
those goals.”
Stephen Covey
17. COURAGE
Controlled critic Courageous adventurer
Belief
Feeling
Identity
Habit
Anxious I Vigilant I Controller Resilient I Optimistic I Adventurer
18. CHANGE NAVIGATOR
“Change will not
come if we wait for
some other person or
some other time. We
are the ones we've
been waiting for. We
are the change that
we seek.”
Barack Obama
19. Passive resistor Maze navigator
CHANGE NAVIGATOR
Belief
Feeling
Identity
Habit
Passive-resistor I Hitch hiker I
Push over
Path Finder I Maze Navigator I
Change Influencer
28. “Only those who have
learned the power of
sincere and selfless
contribution, experience
life’s deepest joy, true
fulfilment.” Tony Robbins
CONTRIBUTOR
33. If you want a new
outcome, you will
have to break the
habit of being
yourself, and reinvent
a new self
Dr Joe Dispenza
34. POWER
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THANK YOU
Debbie Craig: Catalyst Consulting (Pty) Ltd
Email: debbie@catalystconsulting.co.za
Web: www.catalystconsulting.co.za
facebook.com/Catalyst Consulting Pty Ltd
linkedin.com/Catalyst Consulting South Africa
https://catalystconsulting.co.za/survey/
Notas del editor
Hi I am Debbie Craig. Apart from being the founder and MD of Catalyst, +20 years old, I am passionate adventurer, mountain climber, dolphin lover, compulsive seeker & sharer, difference maker, author, yoga nut, wine snob, dog lover, guardian mom, step mom, wife and friend.
I am most in flow when learning or sharing with others – been learning about neuroscience and biochemistry of change
Also traveller, adventurer, wine lover, extrovert, facilitator, a hugger – so Covid was tough!!
BUT gave me time to learn (NCS, digital), write (book) and build capability in my team, and be creative with our clients
Think about
The world of work is changing exponentially as rapid technological innovation and global forces are compelling businesses to disrupt traditional industry models and adopt new digital strategies and skills to compete. This requires new future-fit thinking, habits and capability to learn, adapt, experiment and fail fast. Whilst technology may be threatening to replace many repetitive or replicable human activities, there is still a critical need for thinking and skills that will enable innovation, customer engagement, responsiveness, adaptability, cross-boundary teamwork, virtual teams and personal health, success and fulfillment.
Trends: Autonomous technology; Internet of Things; Big Data & Data Science; Distributed Legers / Blockchain; Artificial Intelligence; Next Gen Mobile Connectivity; Sensor Technology; Robotics; Extended Reality; Quantum Computing; Fintech / Digital Money
Pre Covid – technology, economy, competition, ways of working, global teams, new skills, globalisation, cyber threat
Economic decline; Leadership gap; Local conditions; Job & skills threat
In Covid – remote working, digital learning, virtual teams, restructuring, re-skilling, cross-skilling, outsouring
How many of you have had to adapt, learn, develop new skills and habits?? What new mindsets, behaviours, habits have you needed?
Post Covid – new normal, many companies changing their structures, place of work and how and who they hire, resizing, new skills required, agile, smart teams, gig economy, merging of technology and humans, new ways of leading, managing and mentoring
for an employee experience that keeps and grows the best talent, accelerated learning, learning culture
We need to adapt, pivot, innovate, adjust, solve impossible dilemmas e.g. Pakistan going back to work, salary cuts (FIFO or best talent), Sending people out during Covid knowing the risk, upskilling people, critical health care, cyber attacks, negotiating with labour
Deloitte – Covid times
some days we just feel overwhelmed, exhausted, incompetency, drowning, sick, behind the curve, getting old, playing catch up, losing relevance outdated
My own Covid Story
Started off – impact, difference
Then pulled back
Relationship issues
Then decided to not waste time
Wrote book
Now phase 2 – now new and different changes
Studies: WEF, Google Project Oxygen, Harvard, Deloitte, EY, Korn Ferry, Institute of the Future
87% have or will have skills gaps
< 50% know how
15% leader readiness
Adapting employees’ skills and roles to the post-pandemic ways of working will be crucial to building operating-model resilience
McKinsey Global Survey, 87 percent of executives said they were experiencing skill gaps in the workforce or expected them within a few years. But less than half of respondents had a clear sense of how to address the problem.
To meet this challenge, companies should craft a talent strategy that develops employees’ critical digital and cognitive capabilities, their social and emotional skills, and their adaptability and resilience. Now is the time for companies to double down on their learning budgets and commit to reskilling. Developing this muscle will also strengthen companies for future disruptions.
https://www.mckinsey.com/business-functions/organization/our-insights/to-emerge-stronger-from-the-covid-19-crisis-companies-should-start-reskilling-their-workforces-now
Journal of Clinical Psychology
We used to believe it takes 21 days to change a habit. Other research in the European Journal of Social Psychology3 shows that it takes from 18 to 254 days to automate a new chosen habit depending on how consistently the behaviour was repeated in a consistent context. When we are learning something completely new, in which we have no previous experience i.e. driving a car … it is actually easier than un-learning and re-learning a new behaviour or habit which is hard-wired e.g. wanting to change procrastination or give up sugar!!
As Angela Duckworth says in Grit: Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare!
Narrow focus on body, environment, time
Heart rhythm response - HeartMath
“We are the creative force of our life, and through our own choices rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do certain things, we can accomplish those goals.” Stephen Covey
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” Barack Obama“Our brains don’t know the difference between an imaginary threat and a real one.” Dawson Church
“Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.” Joel A. Barker
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle
Passive resistor
Passive resistor: resist change, fault finder, corridor talk
Passive resistor: resist change, discomfort, threats, danger, maintain ego identities, sabotage change, hyper critical, find fault, derail, white ant, smile and then sabotage
Hitchhiker: passenger, oxygen thief, non-committal
Hitchhikers: let others take all the risks, passenger, follower, avoiding personal risk or public failure, non-committal, vague, not pro-active
Push over: overly sensitive, weak character, lack of perseverance
Push-overs: when forced to choose, will go with the majority, not stand up for their views, insecure, overly sensitive to feedback or perceived criticism leading to drama and toxicity in the team
Maze navigator
Path finder: visionary, intentional, inspirational
Path finder: sift through noise, create an intentional and inspirational vision, optimism, hope, belief in self and others to survive and thrive through the challenges and struggles 0
Maze navigator: committed, determined, agile
Maze navigator: committed to their vision, determined to find a way, despite barriers, agile, quickly adapt their approach or route, resilient, quick to reflect, learn and explore possibilities, persevere,
Change influencer: listener, engager, influencer
Change influencer: tap into other’s, fears and motivators and engage, awareness, empathy and deep listening, articulate vision with passion and energy, outline journey of adventure and risk, benefits, meaning and hope, network, people willing to follow them into the exciting unknown.
Passive resistor
Passive resistor: resist change, fault finder, corridor talk
Passive resistor: resist change, discomfort, threats, danger, maintain ego identities, sabotage change, hyper critical, find fault, derail, white ant, smile and then sabotage
Hitchhiker: passenger, oxygen thief, non-committal
Hitchhikers: let others take all the risks, passenger, follower, avoiding personal risk or public failure, non-committal, vague, not pro-active
Push over: overly sensitive, weak character, lack of perseverance
Push-overs: when forced to choose, will go with the majority, not stand up for their views, insecure, overly sensitive to feedback or perceived criticism leading to drama and toxicity in the team
Maze navigator
Path finder: visionary, intentional, inspirational
Path finder: sift through noise, create an intentional and inspirational vision, optimism, hope, belief in self and others to survive and thrive through the challenges and struggles 0
Maze navigator: committed, determined, agile
Maze navigator: committed to their vision, determined to find a way, despite barriers, agile, quickly adapt their approach or route, resilient, quick to reflect, learn and explore possibilities, persevere,
Change influencer: listener, engager, influencer
Change influencer: tap into other’s, fears and motivators and engage, awareness, empathy and deep listening, articulate vision with passion and energy, outline journey of adventure and risk, benefits, meaning and hope, network, people willing to follow them into the exciting unknown.
Passive resistor
Passive resistor: resist change, fault finder, corridor talk
Passive resistor: resist change, discomfort, threats, danger, maintain ego identities, sabotage change, hyper critical, find fault, derail, white ant, smile and then sabotage
Hitchhiker: passenger, oxygen thief, non-committal
Hitchhikers: let others take all the risks, passenger, follower, avoiding personal risk or public failure, non-committal, vague, not pro-active
Push over: overly sensitive, weak character, lack of perseverance
Push-overs: when forced to choose, will go with the majority, not stand up for their views, insecure, overly sensitive to feedback or perceived criticism leading to drama and toxicity in the team
Maze navigator
Path finder: visionary, intentional, inspirational
Path finder: sift through noise, create an intentional and inspirational vision, optimism, hope, belief in self and others to survive and thrive through the challenges and struggles 0
Maze navigator: committed, determined, agile
Maze navigator: committed to their vision, determined to find a way, despite barriers, agile, quickly adapt their approach or route, resilient, quick to reflect, learn and explore possibilities, persevere,
Change influencer: listener, engager, influencer
Change influencer: tap into other’s, fears and motivators and engage, awareness, empathy and deep listening, articulate vision with passion and energy, outline journey of adventure and risk, benefits, meaning and hope, network, people willing to follow them into the exciting unknown.
My story
Courage is also….
Speaking up in a meeting or to your boss when you know it is the right thing to do
Confronting a friend who has been taking advantage or abusing your good or patient nature
Asking for feedback to reality test how you are showing up
Saying no to friends or a lover when you are not in the mood for food, drugs, sex, alcohol or company
Facing tough conversations with someone close to you, really listening, and not making it about you
Dealing with your own frailty through illness or inability to do or achieve something
Coping with let-downs, disappointments and failures, but still taking the next step
Telling your spouse/loved one how you feel about something important, even when you know it might upset him/her and lead to an argument
Reaching out and helping a friend or stranger in need and being willing to sacrifice something of yours (time, plans, money, convenience)
Starting your own business when everyone else think’s you are crazy
Supporting a friend or colleague who has messed up but needs support to get back to their authentic self (when everyone else is avoiding them like the plague)
How many of you have faced moments of courage
Controlled Critic
Pretenders: big act, mask, pretend, self-critical, not good enough, judgmental, under the radar,
Anxious: highly strung, risk averse, fearful, avoidant, organized, controlled, pessimistic, untrusting
Stuck: overthinker, dreamer, big-talker, procrastinator, avoid decisions
Courageous adventurer
Authentic: whole hearted, honest, strength of character, self-confident, open, engaging, willing to be vulnerable, laugh at self, humble
Resilient; grit, determination, tough minded, bounce back, perseverance, committed, self-belief
Adventurers: faces the unknown, takes action despite fear, steps up, takes calculated risks, brave, stretch, inner and outer adventures
Passive resistor
Passive resistor: resist change, fault finder, corridor talk
Passive resistor: resist change, discomfort, threats, danger, maintain ego identities, sabotage change, hyper critical, find fault, derail, white ant, smile and then sabotage
Hitchhiker: passenger, oxygen thief, non-committal
Hitchhikers: let others take all the risks, passenger, follower, avoiding personal risk or public failure, non-committal, vague, not pro-active
Push over: overly sensitive, weak character, lack of perseverance
Push-overs: when forced to choose, will go with the majority, not stand up for their views, insecure, overly sensitive to feedback or perceived criticism leading to drama and toxicity in the team
Maze navigator
Path finder: visionary, intentional, inspirational
Path finder: sift through noise, create an intentional and inspirational vision, optimism, hope, belief in self and others to survive and thrive through the challenges and struggles 0
Maze navigator: committed, determined, agile
Maze navigator: committed to their vision, determined to find a way, despite barriers, agile, quickly adapt their approach or route, resilient, quick to reflect, learn and explore possibilities, persevere,
Change influencer: listener, engager, influencer
Change influencer: tap into other’s, fears and motivators and engage, awareness, empathy and deep listening, articulate vision with passion and energy, outline journey of adventure and risk, benefits, meaning and hope, network, people willing to follow them into the exciting unknown.
Passive resistor
Passive resistor: resist change, fault finder, corridor talk
Passive resistor: resist change, discomfort, threats, danger, maintain ego identities, sabotage change, hyper critical, find fault, derail, white ant, smile and then sabotage
Hitchhiker: passenger, oxygen thief, non-committal
Hitchhikers: let others take all the risks, passenger, follower, avoiding personal risk or public failure, non-committal, vague, not pro-active
Push over: overly sensitive, weak character, lack of perseverance
Push-overs: when forced to choose, will go with the majority, not stand up for their views, insecure, overly sensitive to feedback or perceived criticism leading to drama and toxicity in the team
Maze navigator
Path finder: visionary, intentional, inspirational
Path finder: sift through noise, create an intentional and inspirational vision, optimism, hope, belief in self and others to survive and thrive through the challenges and struggles 0
Maze navigator: committed, determined, agile
Maze navigator: committed to their vision, determined to find a way, despite barriers, agile, quickly adapt their approach or route, resilient, quick to reflect, learn and explore possibilities, persevere,
Change influencer: listener, engager, influencer
Change influencer: tap into other’s, fears and motivators and engage, awareness, empathy and deep listening, articulate vision with passion and energy, outline journey of adventure and risk, benefits, meaning and hope, network, people willing to follow them into the exciting unknown.
Who inspires you?
Who inspires you?
Where is you time, attention and energy going?
Where are you on the spectrum – consistency busy and overwhelmed … or consistently distracted and procrastinating …. Or organised and focused
Are you focused on what can go wrong, worst case scenarios, fear of failure or feedback
Or are you focused on potential, possibility and priorities
Drifter I Deflector I Distracted
I can’t change how my brain works or who I am
I like to be spontaneous and take what comes
I am busy therefore I am important
I have FOMO and proud of it
I am overwhelmed, stressed, tired, just surviving
I do what I feel like
Discerner I Decisive I Focused
My thoughts, feelings and habits create my personal reality
Where my attention goes, my energy flows
Busy is the new stupid.
My time is my life and I need to choose wisely
I am focused, energized, organised and thriving
My conscience is my guide
HABITS
Habit #1: Conscious intent : clear and visible
Habit #2: Conscious attention - check in on where your attention has been, distractions
Habit #3: Conscious being - the Witness, 2 columns”
Habit #4: Conscious time - Urgent vs Important matrix.
Habit #5: Conscious space - multi-tasking is a myth. deep work”
Habit #6: Conscious energy - Power of full engagement”
Habit #7: Conscious communication - E.mails, Meetings, Documents, Diaries, Messaging and texts, Conversations
Habit #8: Conscious consumption – digital detox
Habit #9: Conscious impact
Habit #10: Conscious choice - Narrow Framing: / Confirmation Bias: / Short-term Emotion: / Overconfidence:
We need the savvy to consciously create and contribute to our digital footprint in a conscious manner and learn to filter, discern and detox to stay healthy, safe, and sane. Inc.com states that over 60% of college students are addicted to their phones. Aside from many physical dangers of cell phone addiction (eyestrain, headaches, accidents) there are many psychological effects such as sleep disturbances, depression, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), relationship problems and anxiety. Over 73% of people experience anxiety over losing our phones and our pre-occupation with smart phones leads to a decrease in empathy, presence, and connection in relationships. “Our phones make us physically present, but emotionally absent.” McKinsey says that in times of crisis, empathy is critical for managing relationships and staying connected.
Nomophobia is a term explaining fear of being without a mobile device
Ever made a decision you regret – business, relationship, money? Tatoos, lawyers, relationships, new business ideas or innovations, marriage +50% divorce
Expedient I Linear I Complicator
I know how this works. I’ve done it before
I can do it quicker and better than others
Let’s get this over with so we can move on
It’s obvious
People still don’t get it – after all I’ve shared
Anticipator I Systemic I Integrator
What are we not yet seeing – what’s the bigger picture?
Other people can add valuable perspectives
Go slow to go fast - involve others for ideas and buy-in
It takes time and questions to understand an issue
Keep it simple (KISS) – how can we visualize this?
Questions
What is the long-term impact of this decision?
What other trends or scenarios or changes might impact our success in the future?
What is the impact if we don’t invest in this?
Who else could be impacted by this?
What is the root cause of this issue?
What could some unintended consequences?
What might I be overlooking?
HABITS
Habit # 1: Time to thinkHabit # 2: Think fast AND slow - System 1 (our survival brain) - System 2 (our creative brain)
Habit # 3: Critical questions
Habit # 4: Paradigm Busting
Habit # 5: Cognitive flexibility - Cognitive Flexibility, Emotional Flexibility, Dispositional Flexibility – 6 Hats
Habit # 6: Simplify & Make Sense
Habit # 7: Dissenting Voice , deep democracy to overcome confirmation bias
Habit # 8: Stop doing list - The #ParetoPrinciple or the 80/20 rule.
21st century – experience
What works vs derailers – abundance consciousness, trust, transparency, taking initiative
Independent I Sensitive I Protector
I prefer being in control of my time and energy
I will share when I can and am ready
Everyone is in it for themselves
Trust is risky and must be earned
Conflict is messy and should be avoIded
Inclusive I Trusted I Resolver
I love seeing what will emerge from the group
Through sharing I gain energy and learn
1+1=3 achieve synergy, grow the pie
Trust speeds things up – is the new currency
Conflict is a necessary part of diversity
HABITS
Trust starts with you
Cross-boundaries
Forge common ground
Collaborative Attitude
Collaborative learning
Collaborative meeting principles – Divergence, Foolish Fun, Freedom to Fail, Spirit of Yes And, Credit to the room, Robust debate, external unity
Collaboration tools
Have you ever asked yourself what is your balance w
Have you ever asked yourself what is your balance of energy exchange with the world – relationships, family, teams, ideas and innovations, social media?
Is it more about accumulating status, likes, attention, external validation … or have you moved to contributing to the lives or others and mentoring the next generation?
Entitled I Consumer I Status builder
It’s not my problem or my job
Other people do it, so why shouldn’t I?
Life is short, take what you can
I deserve to be treated like…
I am too young, poor, inexperienced to add value
Accountable I Contributor I Mentor
I am accountable and a citizen
It is better to do the right thing even when no-one’s watching
What can I do today to make a difference?
What or who can I be grateful for today?
How can I leave a legacy for future generations?
HABITS
Legacy check-point
sense of purpose achieved their goals 70% of the time opposed to those who didn’t have a sense of purpose. Furthermore, people with purpose were 31% less likely to be afraid of failing, 35% less likely to doubt themselves, 23% less likely to procrastinate and 34% more likely to have the stamina required to reach their goals.
Ego check-point
The ego is the “I.” Your ego is that part of you with specific traits, beliefs, and habits that protect you from harm as you grow up and get socialised in the world. Your ego develops an identity to protect you from confusion, disconnection, and loss of love that you might experience. healthy balance of self-confidence, humility, and community.
Accountability check-point
core value of integrity and believe that their word is their bond. When they make promises and commitments, they take them seriously. - builds self-esteem and confidence with yourself over-time... and being seen as trustworthy by others.
Citizenship check-point
legal and political rights - both privileges and obligations. How many of us are enjoying privileges equally to our obligations? How many of us are less active and hoping and trusting that others will take the lead in creating a better life for all?
Gratitude check-point
Highest frequency emotions that can shift your mood, your mental state and your immune system immediately. shifting us out of victim or survival emotions - bigger picture of what is important.
We have one of the highest unemployment rates in the world (27%) and one of the highest youth unemployment (50%+), ironically almost all of these young unemployed were born since 1994 in the post-apartheid era.
Again the World Bank confirmed that South Africa is the most unequal country in the world with the highest gap between the rich and the poor.
While the black middle class is growing, and despite the good intentions of the Employment Equity Act, the rate of transformation in the private sector in particular is too slow.
The poor education provided in the majority of schools perpetuates current inequalities.
Poor service delivery by municipalities, provincial and other government departments affect the poorest of the poor more severely than the privileged sectors of society.
Government and its institutions must create an environment for growth, build a capable state and execute all its programmes more effectively.
Business must come to the party in creating freedom in the workplace and society at large with meaningful programmes delivering impact;
Labour needs to ensure that its unique role is leveraged in repositioning labour as a powerful force in creating a more productive and equal society;
Civil society has an important role in mobilising citizens in organised and co-ordinated projects advancing freedom and equality in society at large.
Transport to get to class or interviews
Clothes to look ok in an interview
Data to learn or submit cvs on line
Mentors to support and guide
Foundation skills – business communication, social skills, computer literacy, problem solving
Adaptability: our brains are adaptable, can learn and grow and are not fixed at any age. We can change how we think, feel and act and change how we show up and our attitudes (neuroplasticity)
Attention: We can develop our brains through consistent, focused attention on the new thinking, feeling and doing habits we wish to create (where focus goes, energy flows)
Repetition: We can build new habits through repetition or “stopping” old habits. A great analogy is noticing how a path in the bush becomes a road (or even a highway) with plenty of use or gets grown over when not used. (Hebbian Law = nerve cells that fire together, wire together)
Imagination: We can change the structure of our brain by regularly imagining a future vision for ourselves AND feeling it as if it has already happened. Our brains can then more easily recognize opportunities to create that future. (Our brains do not know the difference between imagination and reality!)
Stress: We have an inbuilt stress response (fight or flight) as a natural survival mechanism to protect us from potential threats. “We can trigger the stress response by thought alone” when we imagine worse case scenarios. We can also minimise the impact of stress through our awareness and choosing more appropriate thoughts.
Brainwaves: Our brains operate at different frequencies depending on our mental activity levels e.g. worrying, problem solving, learning, relaxing or sleeping. We can utilize different brainwave states to optimise our ability to imagine, create, learn, de-stress and rewire our brains.
Subconscious: The majority of our bodily functions, beliefs, memories and default thinking and behavioural patterns are stored or driven from our subconscious minds. We can access these patterns and programs through certain brain wave states and other techniques, to accelerate change.
Chemistry: Triggers in our environment and our thoughts initiate a cascade of chemicals (feel good or stress hormones) which result in feelings. These in turn influence thoughts – causing a positive or negative thinking, feeling loop. We can manage our mental and emotional state by developing the ability to self-regulate and pause and reflect before responding.
Coherence: Our heart is in regular communication with our brains and body. We can utilise the powerful nerve center in our heart to activate coherence or “harmony” in our brain, nervous system and electromagnetic field around us. Certain breathing techniques can counter the stress response and switch on our rest and renew response instead.
Meta-cognition: We have the ability to observe ourselves (our thoughts, feelings, actions), pause and choose more empowering responses to life. We can learn to delay reacting emotionally to an external trigger (e.g. criticism) or internal trigger (e.g. craving), until we have more information, are calmer and can make better choices. This is emotional intelligence in action.
Incoherencefrustration, irritation, impatience, worry
Inhibits brain function – impairs performa
Coherenceappreciation, calm, patience, confidence
Facilitates brain function – promotes optimal performance
Courage is also….
Speaking up in a meeting or to your boss when you know it is the right thing to do
Confronting a friend who has been taking advantage or abusing your good or patient nature
Asking for feedback to reality test how you are showing up
Saying no to friends or a lover when you are not in the mood for food, drugs, sex, alcohol or company
Facing tough conversations with someone close to you, really listening, and not making it about you
Dealing with your own frailty through illness or inability to do or achieve something
Coping with let-downs, disappointments and failures, but still taking the next step
Telling your spouse/loved one how you feel about something important, even when you know it might upset him/her and lead to an argument
Reaching out and helping a friend or stranger in need and being willing to sacrifice something of yours (time, plans, money, convenience)
Starting your own business when everyone else think’s you are crazy
Supporting a friend or colleague who has messed up but needs support to get back to their authentic self (when everyone else is avoiding them like the plague)
General Insights:
Switch off notifications
Music in the background
Share screen with funny introductory slide / cartoon that people can laugh at or quote for people to ponder, puzzle for people to sum up
Too much upfront talking – need to summarise the introductory narrative