Having authentic performance conversations is a critically important leadership skill. Authentic conversations are influential and change behaviour. Authenticity boils down to five core pillars. These pillars can be learnt and will make a significant different to the quality of interaction you have with the people you lead.
3. It’s all about the conversation
Organisations are
conversations
Organisations are
a series of
conversations
Good quality
conversation is
sadly neglected
The ‘art’ of
conversation
Have we lost the need
for conversations?
I don’t have
time for
conversations
Leadership is a
relationship
5. The Five Pillars of Authentic Conversation
Pillar 1
Agree
on
expectations
6. Seven Questions on Managing Expectations
1. What are my expectations?
2. Have I communicated my expectations?
3. Does the other person understand my
expectations?
4. Do they accept my expectations?
5. Are they committed to meeting those
expectations?
6. Do they know how they are performing
against those expectations?
7. Am I supporting them to achieve those
expectations?
7. The Five Pillars of Authentic Conversation
Task-focused
Pillar 1
Agree
on
expectations
Pillar 2
Challenge
unhelpful
behaviour
8. Situation I Behaviour I Impact
Our regular Monday morning staff meetings are for
sharing ideas and problem-solving [situation].
In the last three meetings, I’ve noticed that you have
criticized four suggestions that Matthew and Karen have
raised without offering a possible alternative solution
[behavior].
By doing this, you are affecting morale, and others may
not want to contribute their ideas [impact].
9. The Five Pillars of Authentic Conversation
Task-focused
Pillar 1
Agree
on
expectations
Pillar 2
Challenge
unhelpful
behaviour
Pillar 3
Establish a
trusting
relationship
10. Trust
• Treat people fairly
• Recognize their positive
contributions
• Give people clear direction
• Support their development
11. The Five Pillars of Authentic Conversation
Task-focused
Pillar 1
Agree
on
expectations
Pillar 2
Challenge
unhelpful
behaviour
Pillar 3
Establish a
trusting
relationship
Pillar 4
Show genuine
appreciation
13. The Five Pillars of Authentic Conversation
Task-focused People-focused
Pillar 1
Agree
on
expectations
Pillar 2
Challenge
unhelpful
behaviour
Pillar 3
Establish a
trusting
relationship
Pillar 4
Show genuine
appreciation
Pillar 5
Build for
the future
14. Learn from the past, live in the moment, and plan for the future
15. The Five Pillars of Authentic Conversation
Task-focused People-focused
Pillar 1
Agree
on
expectations
Pillar 2
Challenge
unhelpful
behaviour
Pillar 3
Establish a
trusting
relationship
Pillar 4
Show genuine
appreciation
Pillar 5
Build for
the future
Organisations are conversations. The organisation as a collection of people working together to achieve a certain outcome.
Organisations are a series of conversations that go on in the lunch room, board room, office, hallway, car, and toilet. 100, 1000, and 10 and 10000 conversations everyday. Some conversations are short, some long, some meaningful, some trivial, some are formal, others informal, some pleasant, others unpleasant. Some structured, others meandering. Some online, others off-line
Good quality conversation is sadly neglected. It’s the quality of conversations that count. Meaningful conversations in a workplace affect performance, morale, energy levels, trust levels.
The art of conversation. There is no art. We are all capable of being good conversations. We all have good conversations and poor conversations. Some conversations such as difficult conversation do take some skill. But most or not really an art form.
Have we lost the need for conversation? If you go home this afternoon on public transport, whether it is by tram, train or bus, have a look around. You will notice everyone is fixated on a screen. When these people arrive home they’ll be fixated on another screen; a TV screen, all the while making face book and twitter updates. There are many conversations we have through technology. Its convenient. It takes a few seconds. It can be done at the click of a button. But many of those conversations occur online when they ought to occur face-to-face.
I don’t have time for conversations. A manager said to me the other day: “I don’t have time for conversations. I have too much work to do.” Someone comes to their office at said, “I’m going. I have a better offer in another organisation.” Perhaps an earlier conversation may have prevented this conversation.
Leadership is a relationship. Kouzes and Posner once said “Leadership is a relationship” in their great book: “The Leadership Challenge”. I totally agree. But how do you form a relationship? Through trust building. And how do you build trust? Through a series of meaningful conversations.