how can we keep ourselves from having judgmental attitude

1. BY :
KANWAL ZAMURRAD MALIK
*HOW TO KEEP FROM
HAVING JUDGEMENTAL
ATTITIDE

2. Judgmental is a negative word to describe
someone who often rushes to judgment without
reason. The adjective judgmental describes
someone who forms lots of opinions — usually
harsh or critical ones — about lots of people…

3. How could he…” “How could she”
“How could they” “Why on earth
would someone” are some
judgmental statements. Things that
you don’t do, but you see others
doing.

4. How to keep from having judgemental
attitude
To keep from this negative trait is not
impossible.
We are only needed to be conscious of our
actions.
And take pain in keeping ourselves from
things which not only
Hurting others but effecting our own
personality also.
Here are some handy ways to keep
ourselves from being judgemental.

5. Take note of your thoughts and the things
you say. Be aware of the times when you are
being overly critical, and ask yourself why
you feel this way. Are your thoughts rooted in
reality, or are they coming from a place of
fear and insecurity? Once you notice yourself
being judgemental, you can take actions to
reverse this self-destructive behavior.
Be aware of judgement and criticism

6. Cynicism can breed judgmental
tendencies. If you tend to believe the
worst in everyone, you're more likely to
judge someone's behavior. Try adopting
a more hopeful outlook. It takes
practice, but try to look for the good in
people before looking for the bad.
Look for basic goodness in everyone

7. One of the most important life mastery skills
is to notice what you are noticing.
Sometimes all it takes is a slight shift in
thinking to turn judgement into positive
thinking. For example, instead of telling
yourself you are too shy, tell yourself you
have a quiet dignity. If you catch yourself
thinking that you haven’t accomplished
enough, add the word ‘yet.’ The way you
speak to yourself internally has everything to
do with how your life manifests
Reframe your thoughts

8. Try to be kind to yourself and the
people around you. A good way to do
this is to think about the love that you
feel for your mother or father. Make
note of this warm, loving emotion and
feel it wash over you. If you project this
feeling out into the world, you will find
that others are kinder to you in return,
and you yourself will be more peaceful
and content.
Cultivate compassion

9. Some studies indicate mood can
actually affect judgmental
attitude. One study showed that,
when people smiled while looking
at photos of people of different
races, they were less judgmental.
Work on being a happier person
and some of your prejudices may
fall away.
Adopt a lighthearted outlook

10. Start noticing the thoughts you have about
others that err on the side of criticism. Then
consider why you might have had those
thoughts in that moment – were you feeling
self-conscious? Defensive? Angry? Tired?
Hungry? The sooner we start to recognize
our judgmental behaviours and discover the
true reasons behind them, the sooner we
can deal with them.
Become aware of your behaviour

11. You are intelligent, compassionate,
capable, well-liked, successful, talented,
friendly, healthy, lovely, trustworthy cool.
You don't need to judge others, because
you're awesome. So believe in that, and
remind yourself of it every day. When you
feel truly content and comfortable in your
own skin, you'll likely discover that you
find less fault in others.
Believe in yourself

12. Try to consider situations from another
point of view. Remember, you make the
choices you do because of your unique
upbringing and life circumstances. Not
everyone has had the same
experiences, challenges and blessings
you have had. Be empathetic and
understanding.
Put yourself in someone else's shoes.

13. It's tempting to judge others when you're with a
gaggle of friends and you want to bond over
mocking some dude's shiny shirt or that woman's
unsightly muffin top. Restrain yourself from
gossiping about others. You don't have to make a
big announcement about it and get all after-school
special on your friends, just keep mum if the
discussion becomes a bit judge-y. Extricate
yourself from the situation if you can't hold back
from joining the chorus.
Stop gossiping

14. Don't tell people what they 'should' do, or
deem a choice to be right or wrong, bad or
good. That's applying your moral code to
someone's actions – and it's up to others
to decide what's right for them. Avoid
using words that are overtly negative or
critical. For example, instead of saying,
“It's wrong for you to eat refined sugar,”
try saying, “I like to avoid refined sugar
because it can cause inflammation and
nutrient loss.”
Watch your language

15. When you make an effort to find
the good in people, you train
your mind to be compassionate
and caring. In this way, you
nurture your heart and create a
positive energy that will benefit
not only yourself, but everyone
around you.
Try to say at least 10 positive things about
yourself and the people around you every
day.

16. Judgmental attitude is not that some thing is
in genes Or permanent. Its us who develop it
and its us only who can change it.
The above mentioned points if taken into
practice then this extremely negative part of
one’s personality can be erased.
Conclusion