Actor, author and producer Lena Dunham and Girls' show-runner, Jenni Konner meet LinkedIn Executive Editor Daniel Roth to talk about launching their newsletter Lenny, women in Hollywood and the importance of negotiation.
"We live in a culture of Yes. The common self-help wisdom is that we benefit from seizing opportunities, embracing the unknown, soaring headfirst into the possibilities presented to us. And this is all well and good: yes, do try hiking in Fiji! And yes, accept a date with that handsome Italian who works at the bar you frequent, even if it might make things awkward down the line.
"In fact, 2015 was my year of no (not as inspiring as Shonda Rhimes’ Year of Yes but effective nonetheless) and I plan to make 2016 an even NO-ier one.
"I am in YES recovery. Like many humans, many women, I am a people pleaser. Can I be there at noon? Sure can! Will I bring three hundred bucks in foreign currency? Absolutely! Will I also promise to help a friend move, be late meeting them because I also agreed to babysit another friend’s sick rabbit, then disappoint everyone in the process? I sure will!
"A delightful cocktail of self-doubt blended with the need for constant approval had me convinced that “yes” was the key to my like-ability. Without “yes” what did I have to offer? And so I sprinkled it liberally, and as my obligations built up, so did my resentments, so did my feelings of inadequacy. Nice cycle, that one."