This 5-week program is designed to help strengthen any marriage. It focuses on helping couples transition from a "Doom Cycle" to a "Bloom Cycle" by committing to and cultivating the key nutrients needed to make their marriage flourish. The document outlines the five key nutrients as commit to love, cherish and respect, be gracious and forgive, choose the right words, and seek a greater purpose. It emphasizes that truly committing to sacrificial love on a daily, yearly and seasonal basis is essential to blooming, and provides homework for couples to draft a commitment plan along these lines to work on over the next six weeks.

1. Bloom!
A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
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2. Brian Rhen:
Rhen:
• Pastor
• Marriage Coach
• Married
• Kids
• Addiction
• Death
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3. YOU
• Why are you here?
• Obstacles next 6wks?
•What do you want?
• Metaphor
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4. Whether you are fully aware of it or not,
you are in one cycle or the other
Doom Vs.
Bloom
Cycle Cycle
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5. WHY WE DOOM
“ONENESS BROKEN”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family Health
Kids Career
Loss Addictions
Friends Culture
Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over
5 you…through painful toil…all the days… Gen. 3

6. HOW WE BLOOM
“ONENESS SUSTAINED”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family
Health
Kids
Career
Loss
Addictions
Friends Culture
…they will become one flesh Gen. 2:24
6 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph. 5:21

7. WHY WE MUST BLOOM
God patterned them after Himself. Gen. 1:27
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…so that we can be mirrors that reflect His glory 2Cor. 3:18

8. What it takes to BLOOM!
The 5 key nutrients:
•Commit to Love
•Cherish & Respect
•Be Gracious & Forgive
•Choose the Right Words
•Seek a Greater Purpose
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9. DOOMING Myth #1:
Wedding vows are the most
important commitment you make
BLOOMING Truth #1:
Committing to sacrificial love daily,
yearly, and seasonally is essential
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10. COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
This is my command: Love (agape) each other. John 15:17
DAILY
YEARLY
SEASONALLY
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11. COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
She has abandon her husband
and ignores the covenant
she made before God. Proverbs 2:17
Love and commitment leak.
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12. COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
3 Types of Love
Eros: Biological— love that seeks sensual expression, romance
Philo: Relational—love that seeks companionship, friends
Agape: Sacrificial— love that seeks out the other’s needs
This is my command: Love (agape) each other. John 15:17
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13. COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
HOW FULL IS YOUR LOVE TANK?
AGAPE
FILO
EROS
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14. COMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVE
5 Love Languages
-WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
-QUALITY TIME
-GIFTS
-ACTS OF SERVICE
-PHYSICAL TOUCH
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15. HOMEWORK:
A COMMITMENT PLAN
-to sacrificially love daily, yearly, & seasonally
1. Find your vows and verses. Decide what to do with them.
2. Clarify your top 2 love languages and list 5 ways it can be met
3. Determine what are the top 3 threats to your oneness
4. List the top 5 reasons you married the other
5. Discuss how you will handle your future anniversaries
Bonus:
Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment
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