This document discusses how to have a "Bloom" relationship cycle rather than a "Doom" cycle through focusing on 5 key nutrients: 1) Committing to sacrificial love, 2) Cherishing and respecting your partner, 3) Being gracious and forgiving, 4) Choosing the right words, and 5) Seeking a greater purpose for your relationship through clarifying your values, passions, dreams and goals both individually and as a couple. It provides examples of how lacking the 5th nutrient of purpose can negatively impact relationships but finding purpose through discussing and committing to a shared vision can help relationships "Bloom".

1. Bloom!
With the 5 Key Nutrients
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2. Whether you are fully aware of it or not,
you are in one cycle or the other
Doom Vs.
Bloom
Cycle Cycle
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3. WHY WE DOOM
“ONENESS BROKEN”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family Health
Kids Career
Loss Addictions
Friends Culture
Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over
3 you…through painful toil…all the days… Gen. 3

4. HOW WE BLOOM
“ONENESS SUSTAINED”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family
Health
Kids
Career
Loss
Addictions
Friends Culture
…they will become one flesh Gen. 2:24
4 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph. 5:21

5. WHY WE MUST BLOOM
God patterned them after Himself. Gen. 1:27
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…so that we can be mirrors that reflect His glory 2Cor. 3:18

6. What it takes to BLOOM!
The 5 key nutrients:
•Commit to Love
•Cherish & Respect
•Be Gracious & Forgive
•Choose the Right Words
•Seek a Greater Purpose
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7. Signs you are lacking the 5th nutrient
You experience a lack of spiritual integration as a
couple
You are struggling to pray together as a couple
You feel like you are being held back by the other
from living into your passion
You feel you lack a greater purpose for your marriage
and or family
You and your spouse have yet to clarify values and
goals for you marriage and family
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8. N1: COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
HOW FULL IS YOUR LOVE TANK?
Love Languages
Words
Quality Time
AGAPE Gifts
Acts of Service
FILO Physical Touch
EROS
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9. N2: CHERISH & RESPECT
“LL=CR”
with
cherish
he she
responds without
“DOOM”
responds
respect
with
respect he she
reacts reacts
“BLOOM” without
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cherish
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10. N3: BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE
Without G&F With G&F
“oneness lost” attitude + rec. process
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“oneness gained”
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11. N4: CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF”
RESPONDING
Listen
Clarify Thoughts
Identify Feelings
Right Tone, Time, Words
Pray, Compromise, Forgive
REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”
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12. DOOMING Myth #5:
God’s purposes for your marriage
will naturally evolve
BLOOMING Truth #5:
God purposes for your marriage
must be sought and intentionally
lived into
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13. What you will gain from this 5th nutrient
How to more naturally integrate God into your
life/marriage
Identify the road blocks to praying?
Opportunity to identify your what you are truly
passionate about?
How to identify God’s marriage purpose statement
and values for your relationship or family ?
Opportunity to regain oneness by identifying short
and long term goals as individuals and couples?
Opportunity to identify the passion and holy
discontent God has placed on your heart?
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14. N5: SEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
The Lord will fulfill His purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
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15. N5: SEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
Each have a two-fold purpose on earth
Character = BEING
And as the Spirit of the Lord works within us, we become
more and more like him, reflecting him like a mirror.
2Cor. 3:18
Accomplishment = DOING
For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in
Christ Jesus, so that we can do the good things he planned
for us long ago.
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Eph. 2:10
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16. Here’s a story of a Doom Cycle
Jim and Jan
exhibit signs that
they really need
Nutrient #5….
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17. Here’s a story of a Bloom Cycle
Wayne and Casey
really found
oneness through
integrating
nutrient #5 into
their marriage
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18. “People seldom hit
what they
do not aim at.”
Thoreau
“If you aim at nothing you’re
sure to hit it every time.”
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19. “
The place God calls you
is the place where your
deep joy
meets the world’s
deep need.
Fredrick Buechner
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20. N5: SEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
By prayerfully & intentionally clarifying:
-Marriage/Family Purpose Statement
-Marriage/Family Passage
-Values (3-7)
-Passions (holy discontent/life giving)
-Dreams
-Goals (short term/long term)
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21. N5: SEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
PRAYER: reveals His purposes
WHY WE DON’T
Belief issues
Pride
Lack the skill
Lack a plan
Tired/Other Urgencies
The Lord says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life.
I will advise you and watch over you .” Psalm 32:8
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22. HOMEWORK:
SEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
Spend time praying together and then discuss and
list the following:
-Marriage/Family Purpose Statement
-Marriage/Family Passage
-Values (3-7)
-Passions (holy discontent/life giving)
-Dreams
-Goals (short term/long term)
22 Bonus: In the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment
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