The document discusses the consequences of King David's failed leadership as described in the Bible. It led to disharmony in his family, suffering for his children, conflict in society, and damage to the worship of God. It then shows how modern society has seen increases in family breakdown, crime, abortions, and declines in church attendance that parallel these biblical consequences. The document argues that fulfilling four key leadership roles as moral, military, political, and economic leaders requires traits of responsibility, clear thinking, integrity, and sacrifice in order to be an authentic Christian leader.

2. S E S S I O N 15
That Man is You!

3. The consequences to failed male
leadership are dramatic not only to
ourselves, but also to greater society.

4. • Chosen by God and consecrated as King of
Israel by the Prophet Samuel.
• Commits adultery with Bathsheba, who
becomes pregnant with his child.
• Arranges for the death of Bathsheba‟s
husband, Uriah.
• Takes Bathsheba for his wife.
• Confronted by the Prophet Nathan who tells
David the parable of the two men.
The Story of King David

5. 1. Disharmony in the Family
“I will take your wives while you live to see it” (2 Samuel 12:11).
2. Children will Suffer
“The child that is born to you shall die” (2 Samuel 12:14).
3. Conflict in Society
“The sword shall not depart from your house” (2 Samuel 12:10).
4. Worship of God will Suffer
“David may not build a house for my name for he is a man of war and has
shed blood” (1 Chronicles 22:8).
The Consequences for King David

6. 10.7 16.4
Male Sexual Infidelity
Source: Centers for Disease Control, “Sexual
Behavior and Selected Health Measures: Men and
Women 15-44 Years of Age, U.S., 2002”
Percentageof40-44YearOldMen
0-1
10
20
30
40
60
50
2-6 7+
Number of Partners
58.4
30.9
CohabitatingbeforeMarriage(%)
Source: “The Social Organization of Sexuality,”
University of Chicago Press, 1994.
1933-42 1963-1974
15
25
35
45
65
55
Year of Birth
65.7Sexual Partners CohabitationPercentage20-21Yr.OldIntercourse
Source: Centers for Disease Control, “Sexual
Behavior and Selected Health Measures: Men and
Women 15-44 Years of Age, U.S., 2002”
Yes No
0
20
40
60
100
80
85.4
14.6
Sexual Activity

7. Disharmony in the Family
Marriages Ended
Source: Statistical Abstract of the US.
1960 Current
0
10
20
30
50
40
PercentageofMarriagesEnding
before20thAnniversary
26.4
41.7
Up over
50%
Source: Statistical Abstract of the US.
1960 Current
20
25
30
35
45
40
Percentage“TraditionalFamily”
Source: Statistical Abstract of the US.
1960 Current
4
5
6
7
9
8
SingleFamilyHouseholds(%)
44.2
20.9
4.4
9.1Traditional Families Single Families
More
than
doubled.
Down over
one-half.

8. Source: Statistical Abstract of the
US., Vital Statistics of the US.
1960 Current
0
10
20
30
50
40
PercentageIllegitimateBirths
The Children will Suffer
Source: Statistical Abstract of the U.S.
1960 Current
0
6
12
18
24
PercentageofConceptionsAborted
1960 Current
0
10
20
30
40
MarriagesEndinginDivorce(%)
Source: The Religious Factor,” (Lenkski, G., 1961).
“The Number, Timing and Durantion of Marriages
and Divorce: 1996,” U.S. Census Bureau.
<1
~22
5.3
40.7
~14
~40Abortions Illegitimate Births Divorce
Exploded.
Up 7.5
TIMES.
Almost
tripled.

9. CrimeRateper1000Population
Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, Historical
Statistics of the U.S., Colonial Times to 1970.
1960 1980
1.0
2.
0
3.
0
4.
0
6.
0
5.0
Current
ViolentCrimeper1000Population
Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, Historical
Statistics of the U.S., Colonial Times to 1970.
0.1
0.
2
0.
3
0.
4
0.
6
0.5
1960 1980 Current
1.13
5.93
Conflict in Society
3.47
0.16
0.59
0.43
More
than
tripled.
Up 2.5
times.
Total Crime Violent Crime
Source: Statistical Abstract of the U.S.,
Historical Statistics of the U.S., Colonial
Times to 1970.
1960 Current
0
25
50
75
125
100
ExpendituresperCapita(1960$)
$19
$116
Up over
6 times.
Expenditures

10. The Worship of God will Suffer
Source: The Gallup Poll, “Pray Tell: American’s
Stretching Truth about Church Attendance,”
University of Michigan, Institute for Social Research.
Late 1950’s Current
20
35
50
65
80
PercentAttendingMassWeekly
Church Conscience
0
25
50
75
100
MoralDecisionMaking
Source: USA Today/CNN/Gallup Poll
(August 1993).
74
~25
15%
85%
Mass Attendance Moral Decisions
Down two-
thirds.
More
than 5
Times.
Source: “Frequently Requested Church
Statistics,” Center for Applied Research in
the Apostolate (CARA), Georgetown
University.
1965 Current
40
45
50
55
60
ThousandsofPriests
58.6
39.0
Number of Priests
Down
one-third.

11. By considering these four consequences in light of
God‟s original blessing to humanity, we discover
the four leadership roles entrusted to men.

12. And God blessed them saying, „Increase and
multiply and fill the earth and subdue it. And have
dominion over the fishes of the sea and the fowls of
the air and all the creatures that move upon the
earth.
Genesis 1:28

13. The Four Leadership Roles of Men
Moral Leadership
Live in union with God to
receive his blessings.
Military Leadership
Battle Satan over the family,
the channel of grace.
Political Leadership
Harmoniously order society
to peace.
Economic Leadership
Make the earth fruitful, which is tied
to the fruitfulness of the womb.
Men‟s
Leadership
Roles

14. The Relationship between God and Marriage
(100%) (50%) 0 50 100 150
(Decreased)/Increased Divorce Risk
Weekly Church
Different Religion
Virginity at Marriage
Cohabitation
Source: “The Social Organization of Sexuality –
Sexual Practices in the United States,” University
of Chicago Press, 1994, Figure 13.6.

15. Marriage and Physical Fruitfulness
Never Married
Married
20’s 30’s 40’s 50’s 60’s 70’s
Age
1.0
2.0
3.0
ChildrenperRespondent
(Number)
Source: General Social Survey (1972-2010)
Difference of approximately
two children per woman.

16. Marriage and Economic Fruitfulness
Continuously
Married
Never
Married
Cohabiting
Never
Married
Divorced
Once
Divorced
Twice
Divorced 1
Remarried
30
60
90
120
150
Pre-RetirementWealthperCapita
(1000sof2012$)
Source: Wilmoth, J., and Koso, G.,
“Does Marital History Matter? Marital Status and Wealth Outcomes
Among Preretirement Adults”, Journal of Marriage and Family Life,
February 2002.
$139.2
$32.8 $31.2
$37.8
$24.9
$105.5

17. Marriage and Peace and Happiness
• Married couples are 60% more likely to be happy
with their lives.
• Married couples have more frequent sex.
• Church going spouses are 22% more likely to be
sexually satisfied than non-church going spouses.
• Divorce significantly increases depression and
triples the likelihood a person will commit suicide.
• Divorced people are 2.5X more likely than married
persons to be unhappy with their lives.
Source: Waite, Linda J. and Gallagher, Maggie, “The Case for Marriage – Why Married
People are Happier, Healthier and Better Off Financially,” Doubleday, 2000.

18. A Sustainable Socioeconomic Model
Human Capital Formation
• Family and formal Education
God
$
Economic Growth
Political Stability

19. To fulfill these four leadership roles, we
must develop within ourselves the five
personal characteristics of authentic
leaders.

20. Fulfilling Authentic Male Leadership
Moral Leadership
Personal Responsibility
Military Leadership
Clarity of Thought
Integrity of Action
Economic Leadership
Foundation for Future
Foundation for Future
Political Leadership
Sacrifice
The willingness to
pay the price.

21. Clarity of Thought for Men
• God is found in communion.
• “Where two or three are gathered in my name,
there am I in the midst of them” (Matthew 18:20).
• “Whoever receives one such child in my name
receives me” (Matthew 18:5).

22. Integrity of Action
•We must unite ourselves to Christ so that we may
gain possession of ourselves.
•We must unite our marriages to Christ so that they
can withstand the storms of time.
•We must unite our children to Christ so that they
may attain to the full stature of Christ.

23. To Pay the Price
• Sacrifice lays at the foundation of each of the other
four authentic leadership traits.
• Fully embraced, sacrifice transforms leadership into
authentic Christian leadership.
• “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the
church and gave himself up for her … that he might
present the church to himself in splendor, without
spot or wrinkle or any such thing” (Ephesians 5:25-
27).

24. Well lived, these five traits transform us into
authentic leaders and they transform our homes
into the foundation for an authentically Christian
culture.

25. Next Week
The Battle over Fatherhood
Small Group Discussion
Starter Questions
1. Which of the four leadership roles is most difficult for you
to embrace?
2. Which of the five personal traits of leaders do you most
need to develop in your life?