Laziness: There's a Lion Outside

LAMPLIGHTER BOOTH_______:
•The Little Lamb –
caring, initiative
•Tom Watkins Mistake –
short cuts
•True Stories of Great Americans
•Stick to the Raft – perseverance, honesty
•Mary Jones and Her Bible – perseverance
•Boys of Grit (1-3) – overcoming obstacles
•Clean Your Boots, Sir? – honesty, thoughtfulness, hard work
•Rosa of Linden Castle – creative alternatives, perseverance
•http://youtube.com/watch?v=dBp2_ygcTSA
Recommended Resources:

Biographies:
•If I Perish
•John Newton
•Susanna Wesley
•George Mueller
•Amy Carmichael
•Gladys Aylward
•Hudson Taylor
•D.L. Moody
Recommended Resources:
Other Titles:
•Message to Garcia – initiative
•The Ultimate Gift –sacrifice
•The Disciplined Life
LAMPLIGHTER BOOTH____

What motivates one to work diligently?
Motivation based on what we
V________.
Value is determined by an
understanding and appreciation of
W______________.

What motivates one to work diligently?
Motivation based on what we
VALUE.
(Jonathan cleaning room)
Value is determined by an
understanding and appreciation of
WORTH or lack thereof.
(Mohonk)

A DISTORTED VIEW OF WORTH
WILL LEAD TO MISGUIDED
MOTIVATIONS OR DEMOTIVATION.
Motivation is based on what we
VALUE.
What we value drives our passions.
Value is Subjective.
Worth is Objective.
Tastes are cultivated: think on tihngs

Worth is determined by STRENGTH, BEAUTY,
& INTRINSIC VALUE.
i.e. Woolworth, Wadsworth, Wordsworth--GOD.

Worth generates confidence through character
development.
Confidence infuses hope. (language arts)
And hope makes us not ashamed. (mail)

“Suffering produces endurance, and
endurance produces character, and
character produces hope,
and hope makes us not ashamed
(does not disappoint).”
Romans 5

“But hope deferred makes
the heart sick.”
(never good enough)
“Fathers do not provoke your children,
lest they become discouraged.”Col 3:21
Athumos
Cell phone

“But when
desire comes it
is a tree of life.”
Proverbs 13
I call this
“breakthrough.”
patio

_____________ yourself also in the Lord,
and He shall give you the desires of your
heart.
Psm. 37:4

Worth is therefore cultivated by
sacrifice & perseverance.

So how do I motivate my child to
persevere through difficulties?
1. Role models
*good and bad
2. Rewards of Risk
3. Emulation

“Go to the ant, you sluggard! Consider her
ways and be wise, which, having no captain,
overseer or ruler, provides her supplies in the
summer, and gathers her food in the harvest.
How long will you slumber, O sluggard?
When will you rise from your sleep? A little
sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the
hands to sleep—so shall your poverty come
on you like a prowler, and your need like an
armed man.” -Proverbs 6:6-11
Fenelon

“I went by the field of the lazy man, and
by the vineyard of the man devoid of
understanding; and there it was, all
overgrown with thorns; its surface was
covered with nettles; its stone wall was
broken down. When I saw it, I considered
it well; I looked on it and received
instruction: a little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest; so
shall your poverty come like a prowler,
and your need like an armed man.”
Proverbs 24:30-34

“He who digs a pit will fall into it, and
whoever breaks through a wall will be bitten
by a serpent. He who quarries stones may be
hurt by them, and he who splits wood may be
endangered by it.” -Ecclesiastes 10:8-9
“If the ax is dull, and one does not sharpen
the edge, then he must use more strength;
but _________ brings _________.”
-Ecclesiastes 10:10

“He who digs a pit will fall into it, and
whoever breaks through a wall will be bitten
by a serpent. He who quarries stones may be
hurt by them, and he who splits wood may be
endangered by it.” -Ecclesiastes 10:8-9
“If the ax is dull, and one does not sharpen
the edge, then he must use more strength;
but WISDOM brings SUCCESS.”
-Ecclesiastes 10:10

“Do you see a man diligent in his
work? He will stand before kings;
He will not stand before
mean men.”
Proverbs 22:29
Emulation must be use sparingly but
role models must be before our
children’s eyes and ears at every
opportunity.

Role models found in worthy literature helps to
form moral values, realigns personalities, &
leads to the development of strong and focused
minds.
Literature where characters possess
redeeming values, will motivate readers to
adopt a similar moral code that has now be
been etched into their awakened conscience.
Harry Potter & President Ronald Reagan

Models to Follow
William Kirk Kilpatrick, a contemporary Christian
psychologist and social critic, reveals how stories infuse
moral values through models who demonstrate concrete
ethical behavior. (Teddy, Ishmael and Boys of Grit, for example.)
Stories with heroes and heroines along with poetry and
music have been the foundation for a child’s education
from the ancient Egyptians and Hebrews through the mid
1800’s. One of the greatest teacher’s, Francois Fenelon
of the 17th century, turned an incorrigible child into a
prince by using stories as his primary curriculum. Stories
inspire readers to act morally by motivating them to
imitate the characters that have become their heroes and
heroines. (Ishmael)

17th
Century Wisdom of Fenelon
Let us here remark a great defect in the
modes of education. We put all the pleasure
on one side, and all the weariness on the
other; the weariness on that of study, the
pleasure on that diversion. What can a child
do but impatiently support the drudgery of
learning, and run ardently after play? Let us
endeavor to change this order.

It is proven that the right hemisphere of a boys brain
develops first which regulates spatial regulation,
navigation, & mental rotation of objects (engineering),
whereas the left hemisphere of a girls brain develops
first, regulating language skills. Girls also have a thicker
corpus collosum, which facilitates communication
between both hemispheres, giving girls an advantage of
linking analytical and verbal skills simultaneously. Brain
scans of men and women performing identical mental
tasks show women using both hemispheres
simultaneously, whereas men focus their brain activity in
one hemisphere or the other for a given task. Thus, the
learning environment for boys should lend itself to spatial
orientation settings that are structured.

Too much regularity in exacting from
them an uninterrupted application to
study, hurts them too much; those
who govern often affect this
regularity, because it is more
convenient to themselves, than
subjecting themselves continually to
the proper moments of instruction.

Let us render study pleasing. Let us mix
difficulty with liberty and delight. Let us
suffer the children to interrupt their study
by diversion; these distractions are
necessary, and ought therefore to be
allowed, purposely to refresh their minds,
that are so easily fatigued even by short
application. Suffer them to walk about a
little; permit them even now and then,
some digression, or some play, that will
unbend their minds; then bring them back
gently to the task.

Webster’s 1828 defines depression as:
“sinking of the spirits, to press
down, to lower in value—devalue.”
What do you do when something is
deflated?
Fill it! With what? __________.

Webster’s 1828 defines depression as:
“sinking of the spirits, to press
down, to lower in value.”
What do you do when something is
deflated?
Fill it! With what? HOPE!

Hope makes us not ___________.Rom. 5
Shame causes ________. (Jonathan and the mail.)
Perfect love casts out_____. I Jn.
Fear involves __________. I Jn.

Hope makes us not ASHAMED. Rom. 5
Shame causes ________. (Jonathan and the mail.)

Hope makes us not ASHAMED. Rom. 5
Shame causes FEAR. (Jonathan and the mail.)

Hope makes us not ASHAMED.Rom. 5
Perfect love casts out FEAR. I Jn.

Hope makes us not ASHAMED.Rom. 5
Perfect love casts out FEAR. I Jn.
Fear involves PUNISHMENT. I Jn.
Chief - Wildest Horse in the West!

“Addison saw that the best horse-
people are neither aggressive nor
submissive. ‘If you’re selfish, you
disconnect, and if you give too much,
you disconnect. What is most
important is that they trust you will not
hurt them.’”
Cell here or at end.

Fully _____, fully ______, without _____
of rejection. Love never _____.
However, an authoritative parent/teacher
whose eye is ever upon their child, who is
constantly scolding, thinking they are
fulfilling their educative role in pardoning
nothing, will oppress their child, especially
parents who place the weight of the family
concerns upon them; all of this only
torments and discourages.
Fenelon

Fully LOVED, fully ______, without
_____ of rejection. Love never _____.
Fenelon

Fully LOVED, fully KNOWN, without
_____ of rejection. Love never _____.
Fenelon

FEAR of rejection. Love never _____.
Fenelon

FEAR of rejection. Love never FAILS.
Fenelon

The cell phone or Does Grace Work?

Then there was the boy who asked questions. He
asked so many questions that his father became
annoyed and thought of him as stupid, and other folks
considered the child as foolish. As a seven year old,
his teacher saw him as a dunce and requested that
he be removed from the school. But his mother
believed in him and that God had a special plan for
her son. So she began to homeschool her son and
watched as he made rapid progress. At the age of
nine, he was beginning to manifest an interest in
electricity and science. When he came to a difficult
page he would ask his mother to explain their
meaning. Little “Al,” that’s what they called him as a
child, never forgot the influence of his mother.

Years later when he became a famous
inventor, he said, “My mother was the making
of me. She was so true, so sure of me; and I
felt that I had someone to live for, someone I
must not disappoint. I did not have my mother
very long, but in that length of time, she cast
over me an influence which has lasted all my
life. The good effect of her early teaching I can
never lose. If it had not been for her
appreciation and her faith in me at a critical
time in my experience, I should very likely
never have become an inventor.”
Signed, Thomas Edison

“But above all things, do not let it
appear to the child that you demand
from him unnecessary submissions.
Be careful not to fatigue him by an
indiscreet exactness.”
Fenelon

“Through Wisdom a house is built.”
-Pro 24:3,4
“Prepare your work outside, make it fit for
yourself in the field; and afterward build your
house.” Proverbs 24:27
“Do you see a man diligent in his work? He
will stand before kings; He will not stand
before mean men.” -Proverbs 22:29
Last resort:
Emulation and Jealousy. * This approach is only for the wise and gentle parent

Does Grace Really Work?
Dear Mr. Hamby,
…When our first child was born 7 years ago, I
looked and looked for Christian teaching on
discipline and raising godly children. I settled on a
"first-time obedience" approach that was popular.
My husband willingly went along with it, being as
uncertain as I was about how to raise godly
children.

I carried a lot of anger and resentment toward my
children. I viewed their disobedience as a personal
offense against me. I was exasperated by their lack
of self-control and emotions. My oldest daughter is
very strong-willed, and her temper tantrums were
outrageous. The tantrums were not used as a tool to
get attention in public or to manipulate me, but they
were always directed at me (rarely her father)… Her
behavior outside of the home was impeccable. It
made it very hard to talk with anyone about this
problem.

No one believed there WAS a problem, or passed
it off as an isolated incident or a “stage.” And no
one ever, ever challenged me to remove the log
in my own eye. She did not sleep well at night
since very early on. She was defiant and talked
back a lot. My daughter never completed a chore
without intervention from me. She was
determined to have her say when corrected. It
was an uphill battle all the time, and quite frankly I
didn't enjoy her at all.

…I had found a discipline style that suited me
early on...but I had not truly searched the
scriptures to find how to reach my children’s
hearts. While I thought I was following God's
lead, I realize that I had my own agenda and it
was a self-righteous one that didn't require me to
change. I wasn't willing to consider that my
convictions were selfish ones. I confessed my
sin to the Lord and began to show more
tenderness and self-control with my daughter. I
still fell into the old ways often, though.

It wasn't until I listened to your tapes that I really
heard some things to apply in my life…I could
have put my name in your place. I was ALWAYS
correcting my daughter, ALWAYS finding fault with
her endeavors, ALWAYS saying her name in a
way that implied disapproval or correction,
ALWAYS fussing about undone chores. I had
placed responsibility over relationship. I had a child
who was fearful of my correction - that's the root of
the sleep problem, and the reason for her
unwillingness to try so many things. I was not
casting out fear with love.

…I realized that little Sarah had very little chance of earning
my approval. I stopped getting angry every time a simple
chore was left undone. I stopped spanking. I stopped
lecturing. I started cleaning her toys up outside without
asking her to help. I went upstairs and made her bed in the
morning. She spent a Saturday morning with me to run
errands. I asked her what she wanted to do, and that's what
we did. The errands got done another day. She loves
flowers and gardens; I bought her a ton of seed packets and
helped her plant them. She loves to paint; I started painting
with her several times a week. I started hanging a butterfly
on her closet door at night after she fell asleep, so if she
woke up she would KNOW that I had kept my promise to
check on her. I started hugging and kissing her intentionally.

In a matter of days, the most remarkable thing
happened. I was doing some cleaning, and I asked
my youngest to do a small chore, which she did
willingly. Without my asking for help, Sarah set
about doing chores—big chores that required a lot
of effort on her part. She dusted, swept, and
washed dishes. She straightened up and put
things away properly. It was then I realized what a
different child she had become. She sleeps better
at night. She laughs more, and she is not as angry.

She takes offenses from her younger sister better.
She handles disappointment with grace and not
anger. She says “yes ma'am” and “no ma'am”
consistently. She accepts my correction willingly
and changes her behavior when necessary. She
cleans up her outdoor toys without being told. She
wants me to read to her now instead of just
tolerating it. And best of all, she has started talking
about the things that are in her heart, and she
wants ME to hear them.

When I started trying to disciple Sarah the way
Jesus would, she bloomed. She is a joy to be
with, and I have lost my anger and impatience.
When those feelings do try and creep to the
surface I can label them, confess them, and deal
with them before they control me.
…God allows us to remember our sins, not so we
condemn ourselves repeatedly, but so we can
show others what he has delivered us from. …
Our God is a GREAT God.

Giving all diligence, add to you faith virtue
(comes from the same Greek word for manliness or
valor; moral excellence),
and to virtue knowledge, and to
knowledge self control, and to self control,
endurance (cheerful, hopeful, patient, waiting),
and endurance, godliness (Christ-like
character), and to godliness, brotherly
kindness, and to brotherly kindness, love.

Two Journeys
Compulsory
Self Protective
Journey 1
Journey 2
Other Governed Existence
(Problem Focus Approach)
Responsibility over
Relationship
Christ Governed Existence
(Person Focus Approach)
Relationship within
Responsibility
Self Governing
Existence
Christ Centered
Existence

“… it is necessary to find out every
means of making those things
pleasing to the child which are
expected of him; and should you have
anything distressing or difficult to
propose, forget not to comfort him
with the assurance that a little trouble
will be followed by unspeakable
satisfaction.”
Fenelon

In the early years of education it is imperative
that children are not discouraged with
repeated corrections and low grades. It is the
responsibility of parents and teachers to help
children to succeed and gain confidence in
their ability to think and learn. If a child is not
lazy, and is working hard, though not able to
grasp the content, this child should never
lose privileges or be made to feel that he is a
failure. On the contrary, this child should be
rewarded for his effort.
Fenelon

“Success is failure
upon failure
with
great enthusiasm.”
Theodore Roosevelt
Failures are stepping stones to success.
Examples: Morse, Fulton, Lincoln, Bell, Carnegie, Longfellow,
John Wanamaker, Henry Ford, Wright Brothers, Edison.

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