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KNOWING
ONESELF
PENN T. LARENA AB,CPS,CPE,MPA
HUMAN PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT
LEARNING
OBJECTIVES
1. Explain that knowing myself can make me accept
my strengths and limitations and deal with other
people better.
2. Share my unique characteristic ,habits and
experiences
3. Maintain a journal
4. Appreciate and value myself
SELF
Self is the union of elements, namely : Body ,thoughts,feeling
or emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality
and identity of a person.
THE BODY CONSTITUTES YOUR PHYSICAL
ATTRIBUTES, YOUR HEALTH AND YOUR
POSTURE AND POISE
YOUR THOUGHTS
Your thoughts, the way you think, and how
you perceive things around you affect how
you feel about them and bring about
sensations.
EMOTIONS &
SENSATIONS
You experience prompt you to act and behave the way you
do.
The union of these elements make up your character or
personality and essentially distinguishes you from others.
WHY IS KNOWING
YOURSELF SO
IMPORTANT?
Well, it is so because the knowing and understanding
yourself part would help you to make much better decisions,
it will improve your decision making habits, in setting and
reaching appropriate goals and altogether living more
productively and more. You can play many interesting
personality tests and evaluations for self-discovery that can
help you become more in tune to yourself.
HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF
IN 5 FOOL-PROOF STEPS:
1. Get to Know Your Personality
Understanding your own personality is the first key. You have
the collective opinion of others which is one aspect.
You also have your own database of information about what
your personality is really like, and who you are in your
private moments as well as in your public ones.
The idea is to get to know your personality inside out, to
know what you are and what you are not like. Understand
what makes you react a certain way in life’s myriad of
situations. Ask yourself “Why did I do that?” and answer it.
2. Get to Know Your Core Values
Your core values are the morale codes and the principles you hold near
and dear to your heart. When I work with my clients, one of the first
things I ask prior to our coaching sessions is a list of their top eight core
values.
You probably have more than eight values, but the top eight play the
big roles in decision-making, influencing, persuading, conflict-
resolution, communication, and living your day-to-day life.
In your work, in your home, in all aspects of your life, which values can
you never compromise? Those are your core values.
3. Get to Know Your Body
Youth is such foolishness. In my 20s, I used to think I know my body. I
was but a child. The more I learn about my body, the more mysterious
it becomes and the more I push my body, the more it surprises and
delights and amazes me. Yours can too.
How well do you know your body, your breathing, your abilities, your
limits of balance and flexibility?
Have you ever said “my body can’t do this” and that “my body type
won’t do that” without even trying a physical challenge? Before you
close the door to wonderful possibilities, take another look. Take the
time to become truly intimate with the loveliest temple on earth, your
own body.
4. Get to Know your Dreams
Your dreams and hopes create the pathway into your future. They help
you build the life you can be proud of living.
Your dreams matter. Your dreams are important. Your dreams are
worth going after. Don’t believe anything less.
And start getting to know your dreams well. Get to know the details
and the specifics.
If you want to become a musician, ask yourself: What instrument do
you want to play? What level of proficiency do you want to learn? How
big a part of your life would it be? And on and on until you know
everything about your dream.
5. Get to Know your Likes and Dislikes
What do you like and just as important, what do you dislike? Simple,
innocent question but knowing this about yourself gives you a lot of
confidence into who you are. A lot of people go through life liking
what’s popular and disliking what’s not “cool”. Don’t do that.
Take the time to define your likes and dislikes, and don’t put it up for a
vote among family and friends. You decide.
Defining your own likes and especially dislikes takes guts. It maybe
impolite to dislike attending yet another baby shower or spending 3
hours with extended relatives, but look at the alternative. If you keep
doing frustrates you and neglect what brings you joy, you give up part
of who you are. It’s the least likely path to any happiness whatsoever.
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Knowing Oneself

  • 1. KNOWING ONESELF PENN T. LARENA AB,CPS,CPE,MPA HUMAN PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT
  • 2. LEARNING OBJECTIVES 1. Explain that knowing myself can make me accept my strengths and limitations and deal with other people better. 2. Share my unique characteristic ,habits and experiences 3. Maintain a journal 4. Appreciate and value myself
  • 3. SELF Self is the union of elements, namely : Body ,thoughts,feeling or emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person.
  • 4.
  • 5. THE BODY CONSTITUTES YOUR PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTES, YOUR HEALTH AND YOUR POSTURE AND POISE
  • 6. YOUR THOUGHTS Your thoughts, the way you think, and how you perceive things around you affect how you feel about them and bring about sensations.
  • 7. EMOTIONS & SENSATIONS You experience prompt you to act and behave the way you do. The union of these elements make up your character or personality and essentially distinguishes you from others.
  • 8. WHY IS KNOWING YOURSELF SO IMPORTANT? Well, it is so because the knowing and understanding yourself part would help you to make much better decisions, it will improve your decision making habits, in setting and reaching appropriate goals and altogether living more productively and more. You can play many interesting personality tests and evaluations for self-discovery that can help you become more in tune to yourself.
  • 9. HOW TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF IN 5 FOOL-PROOF STEPS: 1. Get to Know Your Personality Understanding your own personality is the first key. You have the collective opinion of others which is one aspect. You also have your own database of information about what your personality is really like, and who you are in your private moments as well as in your public ones. The idea is to get to know your personality inside out, to know what you are and what you are not like. Understand what makes you react a certain way in life’s myriad of situations. Ask yourself “Why did I do that?” and answer it.
  • 10. 2. Get to Know Your Core Values Your core values are the morale codes and the principles you hold near and dear to your heart. When I work with my clients, one of the first things I ask prior to our coaching sessions is a list of their top eight core values. You probably have more than eight values, but the top eight play the big roles in decision-making, influencing, persuading, conflict- resolution, communication, and living your day-to-day life. In your work, in your home, in all aspects of your life, which values can you never compromise? Those are your core values.
  • 11. 3. Get to Know Your Body Youth is such foolishness. In my 20s, I used to think I know my body. I was but a child. The more I learn about my body, the more mysterious it becomes and the more I push my body, the more it surprises and delights and amazes me. Yours can too. How well do you know your body, your breathing, your abilities, your limits of balance and flexibility? Have you ever said “my body can’t do this” and that “my body type won’t do that” without even trying a physical challenge? Before you close the door to wonderful possibilities, take another look. Take the time to become truly intimate with the loveliest temple on earth, your own body.
  • 12. 4. Get to Know your Dreams Your dreams and hopes create the pathway into your future. They help you build the life you can be proud of living. Your dreams matter. Your dreams are important. Your dreams are worth going after. Don’t believe anything less. And start getting to know your dreams well. Get to know the details and the specifics. If you want to become a musician, ask yourself: What instrument do you want to play? What level of proficiency do you want to learn? How big a part of your life would it be? And on and on until you know everything about your dream.
  • 13. 5. Get to Know your Likes and Dislikes What do you like and just as important, what do you dislike? Simple, innocent question but knowing this about yourself gives you a lot of confidence into who you are. A lot of people go through life liking what’s popular and disliking what’s not “cool”. Don’t do that. Take the time to define your likes and dislikes, and don’t put it up for a vote among family and friends. You decide. Defining your own likes and especially dislikes takes guts. It maybe impolite to dislike attending yet another baby shower or spending 3 hours with extended relatives, but look at the alternative. If you keep doing frustrates you and neglect what brings you joy, you give up part of who you are. It’s the least likely path to any happiness whatsoever.