1. Counselling Skills
18 Dec 2016
Sadaqat Mulla
Sadaqat.mulla@gmail.com

2. Counselling
 Counselling and Career Counselling
1. What
2. Why
3. How
4. Who
5. Whom
6. Way forward

3. Counselling
Getting people talk…
In an age of seamless connectivity:
 Loneliness
 Broken relationships
 Deteriorating Mental Health
 Depression etcetera.

4. Career Counselling
‫گئے‬ ‫کر‬ ‫نمایاں‬ ِ‫کار‬ ‫کیا‬ ‫احباب‬ ‫کہیں‬ ‫کیا‬
‫مر‬ ‫اور‬ ‫ملی‬ ‫پنشن‬ ‫ہوئے‬ ‫نوکر‬ ‫کیا‬ ‫اے‬ ‫بی‬
‫گئے‬
 Olden days Vs Current Times

5. Career Counselling…
Knowledge expansion
Career options
Multi-career path
Confusion

6. What is (career) counselling…
ConfidentialityNarrative
Imagination
Trust
The Counselling Triangle
- You won’t share
- Won’t let down
- Support in overcoming the crisis
- Single most important of ethics
- Requires assurance
- Seek consent
- Grey area*
- Empathy
- Imagine the other-ness
- Compassion
- Mareez se nahi Marz se…

7. Some thoughts peculiar to Educational
Counselling
Things Counsellee might face:
 Parental pressure
 Peer pressure
 Self aspiration
 Lack of awareness, opportunities, resources
 Confusion
 Frustration
 Anger
 Anxiety
 Guilt
 Helplessness
 Ignorance

8. Consellor
Avoid Cultivate
 Judgement
 Assumptions
 Coercion
 Promise of solution
(advise-rare, collaborate-often)
 Interrogate
 Compare yourself
 Listening
 Patience
 Language matters: Open Questions
 +ve strokes
 Body language
 Connect
 Reciprocity
 ‫حکمت‬
 ‫شناسی‬ ‫مزاج‬
 ‫موقعہ‬‫شناسی‬
 Make the counsellee - realize, take
control, confident, self-esteem,
resilient

9. Process
 Usually a multi-stage process
 First stage: testing waters, connect, collaborate, refer or schedule next meet
 Next stages
 A note on relationships – mind the gap

10. The missing thing?
 Knowledge and understanding of the field
 Continuous learning
 Keep updated – acquire competencies*, connect with professionals, students.
 Institutions*
 Exams
 Journals - APA PsycNET®
 International Association for Counselling - International Journal for the Advancement of Counselling
 American Psychological Association - Journal of Counseling Psychology
 International Journal of Psychology and Counselling
 British Journal of Guidance & Counselling
 American Counseling Association - Journal of Counseling & Development
 The Online Journal of Counseling and Education
 The International Journal of Indian Psychology
 Indian Journal of Psychology and Education
Raise the bar!

11. Counselling skills – sum up
 Counselling as process of self-realization for the counsellee
 Counsellor as facilitator, enabler and empathizer
ConfidentialityNarrative
Imagination
Trust

12. However…
 These are only some best-practices/ experiences/ theories that are
suggestive and not definitive or exhaustive aspects.
 We learn when we think, read and listen – we unlearn and relearn when we
do!
 Therefore, if one has to develop counselling skills – start thinking and doing it.
 Be respectful, humble, confident, fallible, ready to learn and compassionate –
cultivate narrative imagination and reflexivity.
 Have your own Counsellor – even counsellors need counselling

13. Way forward…
 How many are serious in continuing?
 Do it if you are passionate, reflect.
‫ہونے‬ ‫نہ‬ ‫کے‬ ‫شناسی‬ ‫خود‬
‫ہے‬ ‫ہوتا‬ ‫یہی‬ ‫سے‬
‫تھا‬ ‫بننا‬ ‫نہ‬ ‫فنکار‬ ‫جنکو‬

14. I hope it was not…
‫مگر‬ ‫دلچسپ‬ ‫بہت‬ ‫تقریر‬ ،‫بجا‬ ‫ارشاد‬ ‫ایک‬ ‫ہر‬ ‫کا‬ ‫واعظ‬
‫نور‬ ‫کا‬ ‫یقیں‬ ‫پہ‬ ‫چہرہ‬ ،‫نہیں‬ ‫سوز‬ ‫کا‬ ‫یقیں‬ ‫میں‬ ‫نکھوں‬ ٓ‫ا‬
‫نہیں‬

16. Thank You
‫شکریہ‬
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