4. Self-esteem - Definition
The word 'esteem' comes from a Latin word that means 'to
estimate'.
Self-esteem is how you estimate yourself.
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5. To evaluate your self-esteem, you need to
ask yourself certain questions
Do I like myself?
Do I think I'm a good
human being?
Am I someone
deserving of love?
Do I deserve happiness?
Do I feel deep down
that I'm an okay
person?
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6. Important
People with low self-
esteem find it hard to
answer yes to these
questions.
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7. Self-Esteem…What’s it made of?
Your self-esteem is
made up of all the
experiences and
interpersonal
relationships you’ve
had in your life.
Everyone you’ve ever
met has added to or
taken away from how
you see yourself!
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8. Why is Self Esteem important?
It is simply the underlying quality for achieving
anything in life.
How do we overcome obstacles, challenges,
problems?
It is needed in all areas of life .. ( relational, financial,
emotional, spiritual, mental, social)
Most of us see the true value of self esteem when we
don’t feel we have it or when we see it in others the
way we desire to feel about ourselves.
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9. Don’t we all have Self Esteem?
We assume but ask yourself… Did someone ever
teach you about Self esteem?
2 out of 3 Indians have low self esteem.
Only 35% feel competent enough to handle life!
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10. The Effects of High Self-Esteem
People with high self-esteem possess the
following characteristics:
-They like to meet new people.
-They don’t worry about how others will judge
them.
-They have the courage to express themselves.
-Their lives are enriched with each new
encounter.
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11. -They are nicer to be around.
-Their ideas are met with interest because
others want to hear what they have to say.
-They are magnets to positive opportunities!
People with high self-esteem have an “I think I
can” attitude!
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12. The Effects of Low Self-Esteem
People with low self-esteem possess the following
characteristics:
-They don’t believe in themselves.
-They see themselves failing before they begin.
-They have a hard time forgiving their mistakes
and make themselves pay the price forever.
-They believe they can never be as good as they
should be or as others.
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13. -They are afraid to show their creativity
because they will be ridiculed.
-They are dissatisfied with their lives.
-They spend most of their time alone.
-They complain and criticize.
-They worry about everything and do nothing.
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14. How can you improve your self-
esteem?
You can begin by
accepting that you are
certainly not alone.
(Masses of people have
this problem).
Secondly, take on board
the fact you are a
wonderful, special person -
and there is no one quite
like you.
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15. Self-esteem Strategies
Put behavior in
perspective
It's not healthy to
condemn ourselves
because of one aspect of
our behavior.
Try not to believe that
the whole of you is
hopeless, unkind or a
failure, when really it is
just one part of your
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16. Self-esteem Strategies
Halt destructive thoughts:
Many people with poor self-
esteem think they're not
very important and their
views carry no weight.
If so, try to stop these
destructive thoughts
because if you go around
believing them, you'll
encourage other people to
believe them too.
Instead, start thinking of
yourself as someone who has
rights, opinions and ideas
that are just as valid as
anyone else's.
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17. Self-esteem Strategies
10-minute technique:
People with poor self-esteem
often fail to give themselves
enough time and space. So
find 10 minutes every day to
be alone, and to just sit and
do nothing.
During this 10 minutes,
allow yourself to feel
peaceful and happy. Enjoy
this time. It is yours - and
yours alone.
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18. Self-esteem Strategies
List 50 things you like about
yourself:
• If you're seriously lacking in
self-esteem this could take
weeks, but persevere:
• You can write down your
characteristics.
• You can include things about your
looks.
• You can even write about the things
you do.
• When you have reached your 50
good things, keep the list
somewhere you can see it all the
time.
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19. Self-esteem Strategies
Getting criticism
Criticism is often unfair, but
some criticism is justified, and
when we're sensible we can
learn from it.
If there are aspects to the
criticism that are valid, begin by
agreeing with those points:
If parts are unclear, ask for
clarification.
If you realize you were
wrong, say so and apologize.
If criticism is wrong or unfair,
smile and say: 'I'm afraid I don't
agree with you.'
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20. 12 Steps to High Self-Esteem
Step 1 -Forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Step 2 -Focus on your positive attributes.
Step 3 -Follow the example of successful people.
Step 4 -Become a self talker.
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21. • Step 5 -Exhibit a good attitude.
• Step 6 -Get plenty of rest.
• Step 7 -Make your work skills your own
• Step 8 -Practice your talents
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22. • Step 9 -Become physically fit.
• Step 10 -Learn new things.
• Step 11 -Improve your personal relationships.
• Step 12 -Dress well!
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23. Lets Review
Self-esteem comes from every experience of your
life.
How you view yourself affects everything you do
in life.
High self-esteem gives you a GOOD feeling about
yourself.
Low self-esteem distorts your view of yourself.
Self-esteem can me improved!
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24. Final Thought
You are a unique individual. No one else is like you in
the whole world. This makes you special already!
Our time in this world is limited. Make it happen for
you so you leave your mark in history!
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