Self-help, self-reliance, or self-dependent, whichever one you prefer to call it; is the beginning to greatness, and the first step to success. If you want it done right, then you gotta do it yourself. How about, if you want it done at all, then you gotta do it yourself. 80% of people don’t care about your problems or goals, because let’s face it, who doesn’t have at least one problem or a goal of their own? Learn to rely on yourself at least 99% of the time. This chapter will cover the 8 importance aspect below on self-reliance: Develop trust in oneself . Gain knowledge and education. Save Time And Convenience Makes one more worthy. Builds character and leadership skills. Be independent. Discover yourself and things you never knew. Allows one to forge their destiny.

1. Self-help, self-reliance, or self-dependent, whichever one you prefer to
call it; is the beginning to greatness, and the first step to success.
If you want it done right, then you gotta do it yourself. How about, if
you want it done at all, then you gotta do it yourself. 80% of people
don’t care about your problems or goals, because let’s face it, who
doesn’t have at least one problem or a goal of their own?
Learn to rely on yourself at least 99% of the time. This chapter will
cover the 8 importance aspect below on self-reliance:
1. Develop trust in oneself .
2. Gain knowledge and education.
3. Save Time And Convenience
4. Makes one more worthy.
5. Builds character and leadership skills.
6. Be independent.
7. Discover yourself and things you never knew.
8. Allows one to forge their destiny.

3. 1) Develop Trust In Oneself
We’ve all done it, at least once or even infinite times. You know.
Calling or asking for help or favors. The word “favor” can be a relief or
a pain in the neck, depending on whether you are the speaker or
listener.
It’s annoying, in fact, the moment someone asks me for a favor, I ask
myself three things. One, will this benefit me or give me some worth of
knowledge. Two, does this person deserve my help. Three, can this
person be depended on in the future if I were to call or ask them for a
favor. If all three criteria are met, then it’s a green light for me.
It’s great and okay to ask for help or favors.​ ​Humans should help and
support one another to succeed and grow. However, when one favor
becomes two, three, or ninety-nine favors, then we have a major
malfunction.
Now you (the asker) have put yourself in a situation of needs and
desperation. No one and I mean no one likes to be asked or told what
to do, twice. If you have kids, you know exactly what I mean.
Everyone now knows that you’re a good for nothing beggar. When you
want to get something done, well, you can’t because you rely purely
on others. Learn to do things yourself. The internet is endless; there

4. are more books today than there will ever be, and you should want to
rely more on yourself.
When someone does a favor for you, you feel good, right? Have you
thought about why they asked you? It’s because of your skill or
knowledge. You possess something that they don’t have. It means
you have some value.
Why not trust yourself to handle more situations on your own?
Become your very own ​Macgyver​ or ​Bear Grylls.​ They have a knack
for problem-solving, for just about anything and everything. Of course,
these are TV shows, but it does portrait how one can depend on
themselves in such situations.
What are you going to do when you are alone or when that time
comes when no one wants to help or do favors for you? I guess you’re
F%&#ed!
Key Take Away
The more you rely on others, the less trust, worthiness, and
importance you give to yourself. There will be a day when no one will
be there for you. Then who must you look up to? You, just you.
2) Gain Knowledge And Education

5. How is one able to speak a second language or fix cars? By learning
and education. Yes, there will be a little bit of sweat, discomfort, and a
whole lot of practice.
Education gives one more knowledge. And what does more
knowledge mean as a whole? Value!
The more you know, the more you are worth​.​ How much are
CEO/VP/P/Head Manager/Janitors/Cooks paid? That depends entirely
on their position and task.
CEO’s can make 100 to even 100,000 times more than a cook.
Education is one of the biggest contributing factors to success. We do
not live in the 12th or 1st century anymore. In those days, sticks and
stones maketh a man. Such ideology has been eradicated from
society since the industrial age. ​Now education and status maketh a
man.
Today, even beggars can rise to the​ ​rank of incredible, untouchable
powers​. That was not the case back then, not at all. If you yearn for
power, authority, status, wealth, and the likes, then you shall have it.
With education, you can have all the riches and desires that this world
and Universe has to give.
Read all the books you can, study the internet from every corner, and
apply what you have discovered through execution. As you can see,

6. no one can force you to read, study, or execute anything. (Not talking
about kids)
The only way one shall advance to such status is by doing everything
on their own. There will be family, friends, and coworkers to help you
along your journey. However, the ultimate person that can bring
themselves to where they want to be in this life is you.
Pride yourself in education. Learning is fun, opens doors to new
opportunities, discover the unknown, and banish fear from existence.
Humans fear the unknown​, and what they can not comprehend.
That is why God(s) have no fear because they are omniscient. I’m not
saying we can become Gods but given a one’s lifetime. I don’t think
you will be able to learn everything that this world has to offer, well,
not in one lifetime.
Key Take Away
Knowledge is power! IT CAN CHANGE THE WORLD! Men (women)
today are judge based on status and power. Anyone can rise to
epiphany, but not everyone has the will too.
3) Save Time And Convenience
First, you have to call someone, then hope they answer, and finally
pray to dear God that they say “yes” or will help you out. And that’s
just the good part. What if they can’t help you today or even this week,

7. but you have a deadline to be met? Still, both of you must meet at a
designated point to get the job done.
All that could have taken 1 hour or even 1 week. The point here is that
we can minimize such tedious and wasteful resource by doing it
ourselves. How can we learn to do such things if we never had any
prior experience?
One, learn from them as they are helping you out with your problems,
so the next time you can do it yourself. Two, be financially
independent so you can afford to have these inconveniences fixed on
time, every time! That’s the ultimatum unless you’re annoying and
constantly love asking everyone to assist you out.
Remember, time is the most valuable thing in this Universe except for
antimatter which is worth trillions, but that’s for another “time.” People
have families, jobs, free-time, and other times that they need for
themselves. When you ​continuously beg for favors​, it makes you a
selfish being.
Being selfish is not the issue, being selfish while wasting other
people’s time and resource absolutely is. If you waste my time, then
you best believe there won’t be a next time from me. Just make sure
you WILL return the favor somehow. It truly means something to the
other party.
Key Take Away

8. Time is priceless. Make sure you minimize resources and maximize
efficiency when asking for favors. Even if you are as useless as a wet
toilet paper.
4) Makes One More Worthy
Wait, didn’t you already read about this? Sure you did but should
emphasize how vital it is to make one worthy or more worthy. Let’s
take movie stars for example. 1,000’s if not 100,000’s of ordinary
people audition for roles or a small parts. Let’s say half are accepted.
Can you guess how many actually make it to the top? Maybe 1/10,000
that audition.
The movie stars that are at the top of the list never gave up. They
showed up on time, every time. Did things that their peers weren’t
willing to do. Spend months if not years perfecting their acting
techniques. And where do you think this type of skill comes from?
From self-help and self-doing, of course. Acting is not a talent. The
dictionary defines talent as a “natural” skilled that has been
developed. The last time I check, no child was a born actor/actress.
If you want to be worth millions, then you will work hard. If you want to
be worth billions, then you will work harder. If you want to be worth
more than anyone in this world, then you will ​never stop working, on
yourself!

9. The reality here is, people who ​work towards their dreams and goals​;
day in and day out, for as long as they can without giving up,
eventually get to where they want to be. Let me say that again in a
different language. As long as you do not stop, you will get to where
you want to be in life. (Assuming that death or an accident doesn’t get
you first.)
No one on this earth will wholeheartedly pure every ounce of energy
into making your dreams a reality. Only you can do that. Only you can
be worth as much as you want to be. Only if you put in the
proportional amount of work and sacrifice, then why not?
Key Take Away
How much are you worth? Words and thoughts are just as useless as
wiping one’s butt after showering. Your worth is determined by your
actions. Execution is infinite times more worthy than any words or
thoughts.
5) Builds Character And Leadership
Skills
How many people does it take to run a company? That’s like asking
how many pull-ups can one do before they are exhausted. The
answer can range from 1 all the way to 10,000’s or even more.

10. Some individuals run multi-million dollar companies or
sole-proprietorship, and there are groups of people who run less than
million dollar companies. It all ​boils down to the individual​,​ not the
company. How do I know? Well, I literally just stated the facts for you.
For one to rise to ​leadership or boss position​, what must one have? Is
not all the skills of every employee part of the requirement? How can
one run a company if he/she doesn’t know everything that is needed?
When running a one-man business, it forces one to adapt, improve,
and even improvise. Running a business for a company still requires
some serious skills and leadership traits, but one can delegate task
and work among employees. However, running a big business entirely
relying on oneself is even more badass.
Relying on others is not an option. One must learn and do everything
on their own. Sure, you have to outsource some of your work, but
everything else is handled by you.
That is why self-help is super vital when it comes to
sole-proprietorship or running your own business. Most large
corporations had to start with at least one person. Don’t you think that
somehow that one person develop a ridiculous amount of skills and
character over time? Well, I can positively say that if they didn’t, then
such companies wouldn’t have existed. You may want to check out
The story of Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg.

11. Key Take Away
There are some things that mentors and teachers cannot teach or
build. When one truly wishes to accomplish a goal or purpose, he/she
will use any means to overcome such adversities. One will naturally
develop skills and character over time.
6) Be Independent
Self-reliance means to be independent, or almost purely rely on
oneself. I remember when I left my parents home and care, the first
thing I wrote on my social media and dating bio was that I was free
and 100% independent. Looking back, I was free but nowhere
independent.
The lack of worldly knowledge and skills force me to work and live with
my uncle, for almost 5 years. During those times, I was able to build
skills and learned how to lived on my own.
Being independent makes one grow and mature. You get creative and
must absolutely rely on yourself to get things done. I guess you could
say it is an attribution of confidence.
Today I can confidently say that I am ​fully independent​.​ I work, travel,
play, and do everything on my own. All of this would have been quite
impossible if it weren’t for the fact that it took many years of
knowledge and perseverance to build up over time.

12. Self-reliance gave me the courage and experience to fully be
independent and do what I really want and love without question or
hesitation. When I say independent, I mean that one supports and
does everything on their own without interference from family, friends,
or coworkers.
Ask yourself, are you truly independent. Is your boyfriend, parents, or
even someone “special” paying or supporting you financially in some
way. If so then you are not independent. You don’t have to be, and
there’s nothing wrong with that.
Key Take Away
I’m just saying that self-reliance will definitely force you to be fully
independent or at least build up the skills to do so if you wish to be
independent. The word self-reliance itself means to be
self-independent. It’s one thing to say it and other to demonstrate it.
7) Discover Yourself & Things You
Never Knew
The more you rely on yourself, ​the more trust and care you give to
yourself​.​ It’s not quantum physics. Well, it’s more than just care and
love. As one starts to handle more tasks and when a certain
unforeseeable situation arises, what must one do?

13. Adapt, improve, or improvise! Tackle those problems and think of a
solution, all by yourself. Now, imagine doing this monthly, weekly, or
even on a daily basis. Do you realize how much skill, knowledge, and
new things you will build or experience over time?
When humans are forced to rely on ourselves, especially for survival
purpose, nothing is stopping us. These are just facts and ​studies have
shown that life itself will adapt and evolve​.​ If proven otherwise, then
we humans wouldn’t be here nor life itself.
You see, all living organisms started as a single cell. Of course, it took
almost a billion years for it to evolve and advanced to the most
intelligent life-form on this planet, humans. We humans have 77 years
on average to live. It may not be a considerable amount of time, but
it’s enough to know thyself, to the fullest.
During those 77 years (give or take 10-20 years), one should be able
to ​discover themselves​, and know who they are. Humans are
explorers, travelers, adventurers, and conquerors. Earth is just the
beginning. The Universe is waiting for us to go forth and establish
ourselves.
Key Take Away
Maybe your life isn’t fulfilled or possess little significance, but that
shouldn’t stop you from trying new things. The more you know, the

14. more you will feel fulfilled. If you discover yourself, perhaps your life
will mean more than it is right now.
8) Allows One To Forge Their Destiny
People who are​ living life to the fullest​,​ achieving their purpose and
dreams, and living life without a single regret. Do you think they have
mastered self-reliance? Most likely so.
It shows itself. Think of any famous, successful, or influential person
that comes to mind. Now compare that to the average Joe. Do you
see where I am going with this?
I honestly believe that I have yet to master myself. Maybe far from it,
however, I can positively say for sure that right now I have the ability
and will to forge my own destiny. And believe me when I say
self-reliance has a huge role to do with that.
Do you plan on making other people’s dream become a reality or
yours? What’s it going to take to prove that? A little bit of courage,
some hard work, and a whole lot of self-belief. ​Self-belief is also one
of the most crucial factors when it comes to paving your own path.
Because honestly, at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how much
others believe in you. If you don’t believe in yourself, then nothing will
be possible. Every step starts and ends with you because this is your

15. life. Trust me; only you can create the life that you yearn for, no one
else. I think we can come to a mutual agreement on this.
Key Take Away
This is your life. If you honestly believe that others will take their own
time and effort to carve your life, then you are gravely mistaken. Only
you and only you can manifest the life that you dream of. So have
faith, self-reliance, and trust in yourself, always!