Vator Splash Spring May 2016 - Fear, Anger, Apprehension, Self-Loathing, Jealousy, Dissatisfaction, Etc… Bart Garrett, (Founder, Christ Church)

1. “Why am I here?”

2. “Why are you here?”

3. “The Ride of
Your Life”

4. Outside Perception

5. Inside Reality

6. Outside Perception

7. Inside Reality

8. • investors
• employees
• customers
• friends
• family
• self
Outside Perception

9. “You must address the inside reality so that
you can healthily relate to yourself and then
appropriately relate to others.”

10. Inside reality:
I’m Talking About Your Emotions…

11. “Fear”
“Disgust”
“Sadness”
“Joy”
“Anger”

12. “Presenting Emotions”- These are the
“simple” emotions and are more easily
dismissed than are the complex emotions
which are underlying them. So we will try to
unpack what lies beneath…

13. “All right…we did not die
today…I’ll call that
unqualified success.”
“Fear”

14. Anxiety
“Fear”

15. Anxiety
“Fear”
Uncertainty X Powerlessness
= Anxiety*
*Chip Conley- Emotional Equations (great book)

16. Anxiety
“Fear”
“What you don’t know” X “what
you can’t control” = Anxiety

17. What I know don’t know
can
influence
can’t control
Anxiety Exercise…
“Fear”

18. “I’m too sad to walk…just
give me a few hours.”
“Sadness”

19. Disappointment
“Sadness”

20. Disappointment
“Sadness”
what I hoped to accomplish —
what I accomplished =
Disappointment

21. Disappointment Exercise…
“Sadness”
what pleasures do I
demand?
for what am I thankful?

22. “Anger”
“Congratulations San
Francisco, you found a
way to ruin pizza!”

23. Envy
“Anger”

24. “Anger”
Rival + attaining what
you want = Envy

25. Envy Exercise…
“Anger”
Assume life is not a Zero
Sum Game & imagine your
rival accepting an award
for some great
accomplishment. Imagine
the gratification that they
must feel in the moment.
This might help you
empathize with them as
they’d feel much of what
you’d feel.

26. “Joy”

27. “Joy”
“Aren’t we happy?
Who’s having fun?”

28. Workaholism
“Joy”
• Do you often neglect family,
friends, your health, & other
important elements of your life
because you get so wrapped up
in your work?
• If you created a pie chart of your
sense of esteem and
confidence as a person, what
percentage of that pie would
come from your work as
opposed to the rest of your life?

29. Workaholism
“Joy”
•At social gatherings with non-work-
related people, what percentage of
your time do you end up talking about
work?
•Are you good at making excuses for
why you have to work so hard?
•Do you have a difficult time sleeping
because your mind races or you feel
that there’s so much work you could
be doing?
•Do you know what it feels like to just
sit still for ten minutes doing nothing?

30. Emptying Your Emotional Jug
(Taking time to reflect on why you are feeling
what you are feeling…)
Simple Emotions Complex Emotions
Fear Anxiety
Sadness Disappointment
Anger Envy
Joy Workaholism

31. Emptying Your Emotional Jug
(Taking time to reflect on why you are feeling
what you are feeling…)
Do this exercise…
Daily
mental emptying of the emotional jug at end
of business day
Weekly
last appointment on Friday (keep an empty
jug journal on computer or in notebook)
Monthly
last appointment last Friday of the month
(evaluate: what pervasive emotions keep
cropping up each week? Why?)
Annually
Consider 3 to 5 therapy sessions at the end
of every year