2. Conflict
๏ Any disagreement, struggle, or fight.
๏ Someconflicts may be trivial like a
squabble between siblings over a TV
remote.
๏ Others can be serious, or even deadly.
3. Common Causes of Conflict
๏ Power struggles
๏ Personal Loyalties
๏ Jealousy and envy
๏ Property disputes
๏ Conflicting attitudes and values.
๏ Lack of respect.
4. Results of Conflict:
๏ Positive:
๏ Improve communication skills
๏ Problem-Solving skills
๏ Strengthen Relationships
๏ Negative:
๏ Stress
๏ Anger, frustration, fear and emotional pain
๏ Violence, injury
6. Conflict: Bullying
๏ Bullyingcan be verbal or non-
verbal, physical or non-physical.
๏ Can be direct, like hitting, teasing or
making threats.
๏ Can also be indirect, like
rumors, manipulation, isolation and
exclusion.
๏ A bully may be one person acting
independently or a clique or a group of
people.
7. Cyber-bullying
๏ Theuse of internet and related
technologies to harm other people, in a
deliberate, repeated, and hostile manner.
8. Remember
๏ Everything said over the
internet, texting, etc. is ALWAYS there.
There is always a way to access what has
been sent. Even if you delete, it can still
be accessed!
9. Roles
๏ Victim
๏ The one being attacked or harassed
๏ Bully
๏ The harasser or attacker
๏ Bystander
๏ The watcher, doesnโt say stop, doesnโt say go.
Doesnโt say anything.
๏ Ally
๏ The one to stand up and stop the harassment
10. Sometimes we may not know
if we bully.
๏ โWhoever said sticks and
stones can break my bones
but words will never harm
me, was a total idiot! Unkind
words can crush you.โ
๏ Sean Covey
๏ Write a behavior that could
hurt someone or make them
feel bad such as calling
someone an ethnic
name, or tripping someone.
11. Bullying: How to Handle it
๏ Donโt give the bully a chance.
๏ As much as you can avoid the bully. Take a different route to
avoid him or her if possible. De-friend them on
facebook, twitter, etc.
๏ Stand tall and be brave
๏ When youโre scared of a person youโre probably not feeling
your bravest. Sometimes just acting brace is enough to stop a
bully. Stand tall and youโll send the message: โDonโt mess with
meโ.
๏ Feel good about you
๏ Nobodyโs perfect, but do what you can to look and feel your
best.
๏ Get a buddy (and be a buddy).
๏ Two is better than one when trying to avoid being bullied. Make
a plan to walk with a friend or two on the way to school or
recess or lunch or wherever you think you might meet the bully.
Offer to do the same if a friend is having bully trouble.
12. If the Bully Says or Does
Something
๏ Ignore the bully.
๏ Try your best to ignore the bully treats. Pretend you donโt hear them
and walk away quickly to a place of safety.
๏ Stand up for yourself.
๏ Pretend to feel really brave and confident. Tell the bully โNo! stop it!โ
in a loud voice. Then walk away or run if you have to. Students can
also stand up for each other by telling the bully to stop teasing or
scaring someone else, then walk away together.
๏ Donโt bully back.
๏ Donโt hit, kick, or push back to deal with someone bullying you or
your friends. Fighting back just satisfies a bully and is dangerous too.
Youโre also likely to get in trouble.
๏ Donโt show your feelings.
๏ Plan ahead. How can you stop yourself from getting angry or
showing youโre upset?
๏ Tell an adult
๏ If you are being bullied it is important to tell an adult. Find someone
you trust and go and tell them what is happening to you.
15. Characteristics of Abusers
๏ Very Jealous, has a short temper
๏ Reacts physically: hits the wall, kicks the
dog, etc.
๏ Raised in an abusive home
๏ Macho type, must always be the on in control
๏ May or may not batter children
๏ Believe they have the right to beat other
people
๏ Think victims enjoy or need the abuse
16. Characteristics of Victims of Abuse
๏ Raised in an abusive home (was abused or
witnessed abuse)
๏ Low self-esteem, insecure, feel they deserve
the abuse, guilty, etc.
๏ Isolated-not allowed to form close
relationships with others
๏ Resists giving up on marriage, doesnโt want to
feel they have failed, wants to help the
abuser change
๏ Fear of leaving the abuser or of other family
members being hurt
17. Dating Violence
๏ Qualities of unhealthy relationships
๏ Controlling
๏ Manipulation
๏ Verbal insults
๏ Mean language
๏ Put downs
๏ Physical violence
๏ Isolation from family and friends
๏ Intimidation or threats
18. Will marriage make the
abusive behavior go away?
๏ Abuse only gets worse after marriage
๏ People stay in abusive situations for many
reasons
๏ Financial dependence
๏ Social implications
๏ Fear
๏ They believe they caused it
๏ They believe the violence is temporary
๏ They believe they should understand the abuser
๏ Personal incompetence.
19. Marital Abuse
๏ Wife abuse is the biggest danger to women
๏ 95% of physical battering is down by the male.
However, when the wife does the battering she is
more likely to kill
๏ Avoid marital abuse by:
๏ Not getting involved with an abusive character.
๏ Donโt let it start.
๏ Look for warning signs when dating.
๏ If it happens once, insist the other person getting
therapy.
๏ If it happens several times, call the police.
20. Examples of Intensity
MILD MODERATE SEVERE FATAL
๏ Shoving ๏ Punching ๏ Threaten ๏ Stranglin
with g
๏ Pushing ๏ Kicking
weapon
๏ Battering ๏ Stabbing
๏ Slapping ๏ Choking
๏ Stomping ๏ Shooting
21. Violence in the Media
๏ Every day, children are exposed to violent
words and images in
television, movies, song lyrics and video
games.
๏ Scenes that feature violence often fail to
show its harmful consequences
22. Assisting in an Abusive Situation
๏ Tohelp someone else in an abusive situation, call
the police. It is too dangerous for you to
intercede.
๏ Offer emotional support to the victim afterwards.
23. What are some other forms of
conflict?
Families?
Siblings?
24. Resolving Conflict
๏ Assume you donโt have all the answers
๏ Ask questions to understand the other
person(s).
๏ Be prepared to compromise or make a
deal.
25. Steps
๏ 1. STOP. Don't let the conflict get worse. The less
angry you are the easier it will be to solve the
problem.
๏ 2. SAY what the conflict is about. What is causing
the disagreement? What does each of you want
or not want?
๏ 3. THINK of positive options. How could you meet
each other's needs and be fair?
๏ 4. CHOOSE a positive option each of you can
agree on.
๏ If you still can't agree, ask someone else (an
outsider) to help resolve the conflict.
26. Rules
๏ Agree to resolve the conflict.
๏ No name calling.
๏ Take turns talking. Don't interrupt.
๏ Be clear and truthful about what is bothering
you and what you really need.
๏ Listen to the other person. Be sure you
understand how he or she sees the problem.
๏ Use your brains, not your hands.
๏ Be willing to compromise (if that's
appropriate).
27. ๏ Sometimes we may not engage, and
others may treat us poorly.
๏ What is the best way to respond in these
situations?
