Whose Turn is It? How to be a Successful Power Couple Learning objective: Discover techniques for couples to work together and not against each other It used to be that a woman would attend college, meet a good man who would get a great job and they would live happily ever after. In today’s economic world, this is not the case. Now we have men and women that are CEOs, presidents of the board, or successful small business owners that become staples in the local economy. Did we lose the comfort of love and marriage in the pursuit of being a power couple? Are they doomed to tear each other down rather than build each other up? Are they able to turn it around and construct one powerhouse unit? These are ways to strengthen the love of entrepreneurship and the love for each other as a successful couple. At the end of this seminar, participants will be able to: a. Examine the potential for success in your relationship and your careers b. Learn about ways to work together and not against each other c. Identify individual and couple’s interests d. Design a plan for keeping work life balance a priority

1. October 23–25, 2014
WHOSE TURN IS IT?
HOW TO BE A SUCCESSFUL
POWER COUPLE
Talia Fox, M.Ed.
KUSI Visions, CEO

2. What Is The Vision?
Define Love.
What does love have to do with it?
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3. What Are Your Choices?
The Heart The Mind The World
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4. Do You Agree?
More education will give you a better
chance at marriage than someone who
is less educated.
True or False
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5. Do You Agree?
The more money you have will give
you a better chance at getting
married and staying married.
True or False
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6. Do You Agree?
Culture, Race, and nationality
has a huge impact on marriage
success.
True or False
Marriage rates are the lowest in
the Black community, however,
they are still only marginally
behind the national average.
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7. The Statistics Regarding Racial Divides in
US Marriages
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Marriage facts on Black Men:
• Men ages 35+ never married
was 1890 - 1930 for White
men than Black men, but by
1960, this had reversed, with
Black men age 35+ having a
higher percent never married.
• By 1960, Black men age 45+
had a higher percentage who
never married.
• As of 2010, 20 percent of
black men and 9 percent of
white men have never been
married by age 45 and over.

8. The Statistics
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Marriage Facts on Black
Women:
• Black women were more
likely to have been married by
age 35 than their white
counterparts until 1970.
• The crossover happened in
1980, and by 2010, 20
percent of black women and 7
percent of white women had
never been married by age 45
and over.

9. The Statistics
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Overall US Census Bureau
Conclusions:
• The median age at first
marriage in 2010 for all races
is the highest on record, but
didn’t exceed the 1890 value
until 1990.
• There was a sharp increase in
the proportion never married
for Black men and women
since 1980 – the attributing
of which warrant further
investigation.

10. 5 Ways to Make Someone Fall In Love
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11. What Is Your Love Language?
• Gifts
• Quality Time
• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch
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12. The Woman of Color “Double
Consciousness” In Relationships
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13. Talia’s Vision: Am I Asking For Too
Much?
He must have a genuine spirit
He must be funny He must be ambitious
He must be tall, dark and handsome
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He must be an intellect
He must be a humanitarian

14. Then Two Become One
The Married Power Couples
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15. What Are The Challenges?
Two successful and driven people
are in a romantic relationship.
The time, energy and attention
required to make their relationship
successful may be difficult when
trying to balance a thriving career.
The question is…
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16. Can You Have It All?
Is it possible to balance a
successful career and a successful
relationship?
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17. Ten Characteristics of Successful
Marriages
1. Commitment: To the Commitment
2. Common Interests: Shared values
and interests in children, work,
travel, goals, dependability and the
desire to work together
3. Communication: Openness about
opinions and feelings (self-disclosure)
where couples are willing to interact,
trust and share
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18. Ten Characteristics of Successful
Marriages
4. Religiousity (High Levels of Religious
Committment: A strong religious orientation
provides a couple with social, spiritual and
emotional support
5. Trust: Provides a stable foundation for
security in marriage
6. Finance and Work: Being non-materialistic –
valuing family and marriage over the
accumulation of material goods. Practicing
financial self-control and not spending
beyond their means
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19. Ten Characteristics of Successful
Marriages
7. Role Models: Good marriages beget good
marriages. Growing up in a happy parental
marriage helped create good marriages for
children
8. Virtues: Individuals who develop good
character make better husbands and
wives, mothers and fathers
9. Low Stress Levels: Low stress levels in
one’s life are associated with marital
quality
10. Sexual Desire: Sexual desire for one’s
spouse expressed consistently through the
life course
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