LinkedIn emplea cookies para mejorar la funcionalidad y el rendimiento de nuestro sitio web, así como para ofrecer publicidad relevante. Si continúas navegando por ese sitio web, aceptas el uso de cookies. Consulta nuestras Condiciones de uso y nuestra Política de privacidad para más información.
LinkedIn emplea cookies para mejorar la funcionalidad y el rendimiento de nuestro sitio web, así como para ofrecer publicidad relevante. Si continúas navegando por ese sitio web, aceptas el uso de cookies. Consulta nuestra Política de privacidad y nuestras Condiciones de uso para más información.
THE TEXT YOUR EX BACK STEP-BY-STEP SYSTEM REVEALEDAnother great way to cut a negative conversation short is to simply write“This is inappropriate.” and stop talking. You’ll be amazed at how wellthat one works.“Text Judo” - The Cornerstone Of The“Text Your Ex Back” SystemWhat is “Text Judo?”Great question.“Text Judo” is the art of using your ex’s existing emotions “againstthem” in order to get the positive result you want.In regular Judo, a martial artist uses an opponent’s “strength” againsthim, redirecting a lunge or a punch, for example, so that the attackerends up in a bruised and battered pile on the ﬂoor. A really good Judopractitioner at work is a sight to behold. A 5-foot-tall woman can throwa 6’4” linebacker around like a rag doll if the woman knows CONTROLwhile the linebacker knows nothing but POWER.Now, your ex is not your “enemy,” or this is not like combat, but themetaphor works. Since your ex is probably still feeling a lot of “hot”emotion around you, you’re going to use that emotion to our own ad-vantage.Remember, your ex feeling ANY emotion towards you (even hate) is, inmany ways, a GOOD thing. Apathy will kill any chance you haveof getting back together with your ex, but any positive or nega-tive powerful emotion can be transformed and guided using simpletechniques I’m going to teach you.If your ex is angry at you, you can use that anger to ignite the spark oflove that’s probably still buried deep down inside.If your ex is hurt by you, you can use that hurt to uncover the desirefor acceptance and love that left him or her open to being hurt by youin the ﬁrst place.And on and on and on.The key to “Text Judo” is to ACKNOWLEDGE the elephant in theroom. If you come back into your ex’s life pretending that nothing everwent wrong in your relationship, it’ll blow up in your face. Instead youACKNOWLEDGE the problem, give VALIDITY to your ex’s emotions (es-pecially if you’re a man trying to win back a woman), and then translate29
THE TEXT YOUR EX BACK STEP-BY-STEP SYSTEM REVEALEDthose emotions into the feelings of warmness, closeness, and attractionthat we’re trying to create.Sound complicated? It’s not. But it does require more “grist for the mill.”You need stories, emotions, and pieces of your relationship that you’lluse in your communication with your ex to focus your ex on positivethoughts about you, create your “fantasy world,” and drive them backinto your arms.Prepping The Shot (A Little Bit Of “TextJudo” Homework)Fill out the following questions before moving on to the next section.Like all the assignments, this is important, building organically on whatwe’ve done before and creating a foundation for what is still to come.Take the time, do the work, and you’ll be really happy with the results.Question 1: What were the POSITIVE aspects of your relationshipwith your ex? What were the things you had in common that drewyou together?What was it about your relationship that you really loved and adored?What was it that made you guys really WORK as a couple? (Even whenthings started getting bad, there were probably things that drew youtogether.)Just to get the old creative juices ﬂowing, here are a few possible cate-gories that I hear all the time. You can beg, borrow or steal . . .Music - what bands did you both LOVE? Was there a particular kind ofmusic that drew you together? Did you meet at a Phish concert?Are you both jazz freaks or metal heads?Politics - do you both hate the same ideas (strangely, that can be areal bonder for people)? Do you have similar ideas on how yourcountry should be run? Do you have ideological or activist causesin common?Passions - what gets you both “humming like an 8-cylinder engine?”What do you both CARE about on a really passionate level? Ifyou’re both part of PETA, that deﬁnitely counts. So does a generallove of the outdoors, or a love of DIY projects.Religion - same ideas as above. Are you both devout Christians? Occa-sional Mormons? Lapsed atheists? Write down the commonalitiesof your faith.30
THE TEXT YOUR EX BACK STEP-BY-STEP SYSTEM REVEALEDSex - are you guys sexually compatible? Do you share fetishes? Sexis important, folks, and a good and compatible sex life is 100%critical to you having a life together.Kids - do you have kids together? If so, that’s a pretty big commoninterest. What is it about your kids that drives you together? Whatabout your children do you both enjoy? (Oh, and if you bad mouthyour ex in front of your kids, you’re a bad person. Don’t do that.Seriously.)Hobbies - what kind of hobbies did you share? Dancing? Theatre?Movies? Video games? Walking the beach with a metal detector?Do you both love travel? Do you both hate Dr. Phil?Whatever it is, get it all on paper in a big list. Be as exhaustive as youcan be. Really think out the “stuﬀ” that drew you together before, andthat you think could draw you together again.Question 2: What are the BEST EXPERIENCES you and your ex everhad together?Now that we know what drew you together in the ﬁrst place (besidespheromones . . . man, those things are powerful; I get within ten feet ofmy girlfriend and my brain turns oﬀ and I start slobbering like a caveman), now it’s time to list the BEST EXPERIENCES your ex and youever had together.These should be the stories you’d tell your grandkids, and the storiesthat will crawl right into your ex’s unconscious to make them smileor laugh, almost despite themselves.These experiences don’t necessarily have to be “positive” in the tradi-tional sense. As any war vet or survivor of a natural disaster knows,trauma has an incredible bonding eﬀect on human beings, and “beingin a foxhole” together makes lifelong friends (and sometimes lovers).These are the kinds of experiences I want you to list. Brainstorm freelyfor now. You can edit down to the really good stuﬀ later.Your “Couple Origin Story” - This is the story of how you got togetherin the ﬁrst place. It’s probably SUPER EMOTIONAL for both ofyou, because you were both feeling such intense attraction whenit happened. Being able to bring that back up in your ex’s mind isvery powerful.Adventures you shared - These are usually “one oﬀ” memories, likethat trip to the Grand Canyon, the honeymoon in Hawaii, or thecrazy weekend in Vegas. Just make sure the adventure was some-thing you both look back on fondly, and not something your ex isgoing to get annoyed by. For example, if the car broke down at the31
THE TEXT YOUR EX BACK STEP-BY-STEP SYSTEM REVEALEDside of the road and you spent hours yelling and screaming aboutit, you should probably leave that out.“Us Against Them” experiences - These are experiences where it feltlike you and your ex were a “unit” and were really there for eachother against a common enemy. (In-laws and parents make greatcommon enemies, as long as it doesn’t seem like you are criticizingyour ex’s family.) These can be a little complicated. Examplescould be when you helped your ex get out of a sticky legal spot,when you stood up for your girlfriend as she was getting hit on bya guy, etc.Bonding Tragedies or Challenges - This is where you take a negativeand make it a positive. Bonding tragedies or challenges are timeswhen you and your ex really went through a tough experience to-gether. For instance, the death of a family member, a natural dis-aster (“We were huddled in the dark for six hours together, waitingfor the hurricane to abate”), a car wreck, a trip to Burning Man orsome other hostile environment, boot camp, etc. Anything whereit was HARD but satisfying and had a positive outcome.Romantic Experiences - Romantic memories might include the nightyou proposed or got married, a really romantic vacation at a spa, atime you surprised your partner with a day oﬀ or a trip, etc. Any-thing where it was really just the two of you enjoying each otherwithout any outside interference. This could also be the momentyou discovered you were in love or other emotionally heavy mo-ments. (Side note: Did you know that science shows men are ac-tually more romantically minded than women? Weird but true.)Family Experiences - These are the moments where you felt proud ofyour family or were really happy that your partner was there. Thebirth of a child, or your grandparents’ anniversary gathering. Thattime you thought your kids were threatened but they turned outOK.Positive Sexual Experiences - Ahh, sex. No matter how long you weretogether (or how bland things may ultimately have happened in thebedroom), I’m willing to bet you have some particular sexual expe-riences with your ex that you revisit in your fantasies again andagain. And I’m willing to bet your ex does, as well. These shouldbe moments when you felt particularly close to your ex emotion-ally, felt “out of control” physically, tried new things in the bedroom(with positive or at least goofy results), had the most amazing or-gasm of your life, or otherwise ended up in a sweaty, happy piletogether. Public sex experiences are great for this (the thrill ofalmost getting caught sticks in the unconscious for a long time).“Mundane” Experiences You Both Enjoyed - And ﬁnally, we’ve got the32>>> CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE FULL PDF <<<