Preparing for High Performance - Parent Engagement 2018

2. Presentation Agenda
1. Welcome & Introduction
2. Purpose & Problem
3. Perspective
4. Process
5. Reflection
6. Communication in Action
7. Feedback Loop
8. The Barbershop
9. Struggling & Success
10. Family & Sacrifice

3. Welcome
• Thank you for your time
• We appreciate you attention and interest
• We want to communicate with you
• Families don’t truly communicate

4. Introduction
• Ryan Mendonca - Started Coaching - Smile
• Technical Director
• Define the Role - DNA - Build Club from within
• Direction - Staff - Content - Action - Communication
• Something was missing - gut feeling

5. Purpose
• Research & Solve?
• Ask Feedback?
• Strategize Solution
• Deliver Action
• Result = ?

6. Problem
• Couldn’t be solved by strategy.
• Tangible Solutions to intangible problems
• #1 Feedback was it didn’t “Feel Right”
• Needed more information. Started the process.

7. Listening
• One of the hardest things, for me, for anyone is to listen.
To truly listen to every word, every tone, every movement,
every moment, what you say and what you don’t say. All
of it has meaning.
• We DON’T say more than we DO say = TRUE
• Met and listen with players, parents, managers, coaches,
community, mentors, peers.

8. Perspective
• Strategic Cultural Solutions
• Culture is Connection … It's connecting people!
• Reflection back to why I started coaching, why I kept
coaching
• That smile - wasn’t just a smile

9. Perspective
• That smile - wasn’t just a smile - it was a connection
• Connection is how we build Culture

10. Process
• The Culture Code (3 Culture building Skillsets)
• Build Safety
• Share Vulnerability
• Establish Purpose

11. Process
• Build Safety - Communication
• Share Vulnerability - Fears, hopes & wants
• Establish Purpose - Motivations to drive forward

12. BEGIN TOGETHER
#TECUMSEH20

13. Reflection
• This is the true joy in life, the being
used for a purpose recognized by
yourself as a mighty one; the being a
force of nature instead of a feverish,
selfish little clod of ailments and
grievances complaining that the world
will not devote itself to making you
happy.

14. Reflection
•ME -> US -> THEM
•THEM <- US <- ME

15. Reflection
• I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the
whole community, and as long as I live it is my
privilege to do for it whatever I can.
• I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for
the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life
for its own sake. Life is no “brief candle” for me. It
is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of
for the moment, and I want to make it burn as
brightly as possible before handing it on to future
generations.

16. Reflection
• The single biggest problem in
communication is the illusion that it
has taken place.
George Bernard Shaw

17. Communication in Action
• Listening Sessions
• Club Survey
• Team Meetings - Club Supported (6 per year)
• Team Checkpoints - Club Distributed (6 per year)
• Player Evaluations - IDPs - Coach Driven - Club Led

18. Completing the Feedback
Loop
• PEG
• Player Council
• Commitment to FaceTime
• Accessibility & Resources
• Additional Training Opportunities (Training Up & Down)

19. The Barbershop
• Community > Corporate
• Personal Touch
• Pride & Confidence

20. FORWARD TOGETHER
#TECUMSEH20

21. Success
• Define Success (Goal Setting) for your Child in HP
program
• Outcomes
• Keep those in mind

23. The Struggle
• Identify Process, Environment & Opportunities to
develop skills necessary for success
• Support Players in those environments
• Encourage a mentality to overcome adversity
maximizing soccer and character skills
• STRONG BONDS are required to support a CHILD
during THE STRUGGLE

24. Struggle Scenarios
• Playing Time
• Position on Field
• Social Status on Team
• Attention from coach (increased & perhaps intensity)
• Attention from coach (decrease & perhaps intensity)
• Team Commitment

25. Struggle Scenarios
• Team Conflict
• Coach Conflict
• Ability Perceived Increase?
• Ability Perceived Decrease?
• Ineffective/Unable to contribute
• The Plateau

26. Struggle Scenarios
• Reframe the Struggle as a process that prepares Your
Child for Success and keep them in the direction toward
their goal, along the path.

27. FAMILY
#TECUMSEH20

28. FAMILY
• Forget
• About
• ME
• I
• Love
• You

29. FAMILY
• We have committed along for this journey with your
child and will continue until and after the end of sport
• We welcome you into our family and are hopeful to be
welcomed into yours
• We Trust the connection we are building and look to
strengthen this bond

30. HOME

31. TECUMSEH SOCCER = HOME

32. TECUMSEH SOCCER =
FAMILY

33. Questions?