A short presentation about how to use reactions on other people or outer world in order to create a sustainable relationship to ourselves.

1. Reactions
- what are they good for? -

2. Red is angry

3. Red is angry with Yellow
Because is
not listening and
respecting the
rules and following
the instructions

4. Is Yellow the cause of the anger or a
stimuli?
…because is
not listening, not
respecting the rules
and following the
instructions
No, but what
is the cause?

5. Step back!!!
What actually
makes me
angry about
Yellow?
I THINKTHAT:
-Yellow is irresponsible
-Yellow is not reliable
-Yellow doesn’t listen to me
- Yellow is unprofessional
-Yellow is
-Yellow is ……..

6. I THINK …..
What actually
makes me
angry about
Yellow?
………. THAT:
-Yellow is irresponsible
MAKING ME RESPONSIBLE
FOR THIS SITUATION
-Yellow is not reliable is
MAKING ME LOOK
UNRELIABLE
-Yellow is unprofessional
DESTROYS THE POSSIBLITIES
TO MY SUCCESS
-Yellow is unprofessional IS
MAKING ME LOOK
UNPROFESSIONAL
-Yellow is ……..

7. IS IT TRUE????
Is it true that Yellow
makes me BE all
these?
Yes, it is! Yellow is
the reason that I
am in this way.
WHO is perceiving
me like this?
The people
involved in this
project!
Can I know how the
people involved are
perceiving me?
I can’t! WHO is then
perceiving me
like this?
CAN Yellow define WHO
I AM?? HAS Yellow the
power to form me and
define who I am?
No, but is the way
other see me
because of Yellow!!!
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8. So, does it mean that I’m perceiving
myself as being …
• unreliable
• unprofessional
• unsuccessful
• irresponsible???
………. THAT:
-Yellow is irresponsible MAKING ME
RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS SITUATION
-Yellow is not reliable is MAKING ME
LOOK UNRELIABLE
-Yellow is unprofessional DESTROYS
THE POSSIBLITIES TO MY SUCCESS
-Yellow is unprofessional IS MAKING
ME LOOK UNPROFESSIONAL
-Yellow is ……..
Yes this is what I’m
THINKING ABOUT
ME!!!!!

9. AND NOW WHAT????
I JUST DON’T WHAT TO
THINK ALL THESE
ABOUT ME!
THEN
DON’T!!!!!

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